Author Topic: Sick of GFE ... Anyone else? (Read 10470 times)

Jezabel · « **Reply #15 on:** 30 January 2016, 05:55:49 pm »

Quote from: The_Lynx on 30 January 2016, 05:48:07 pm

Quote from: Jezabel on 30 January 2016, 05:42:22 pm
I would beg to differ! I have plenty of 30 minute GFE type apointments!

I only ever get clients who want a quick shag in my half hours. Anyone who wants something a bit more intimate usually books an hour and upwards. Of course, this might be a function of personal tolerance level - I don't really count some kissing as a particularly touchy-feely meeting.

I don't get that many of those, but I think that's down to my advertising. I put just as much (too much most likely) into my half hours as anything longer. In honesty I get guys who are delighted that I offer more than a quick fuck in that time.

Its different for everyone and I'm not criticising anyone - clients or fellow professionals - for what they prefer. Thats just how it is for me.

Aqua Allegoria · « **Reply #16 on:** 30 January 2016, 06:55:01 pm »

I totally get how you feel.

I agree with everyone above that offering PSE without all the "dirty" stuff it implies seems rather impossible. I offer a GFE though it's sometimes fairly naughty and I specialise in that oral when I keep looking directly into their eyes while I'm at it:)

I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with the eye contact. Or kissing. Unless I get bad kissers, those who just salivate all over you etc then I find an alternative to it and just direct them to suck my breasts or whatever. Just the same I have no problem listening to them. I'm not a big fan of the "let me hold you in my arms" part but that's just because I like my space hahaha.

Whoever said it above its a job I get paid for. I'm very good at (internally) rolling my eyes and these guys are clients: it's a limited time contract "walk in-walk out" thing. Maybe because for now you're investing yourself emotionally quite a lot. This is very draining indeed so try to work on it... And I am sure you have plenty of clients who are really fun and pleasant to be with, not just clingy types:)

longlashes · « **Reply #17 on:** 30 January 2016, 07:43:57 pm »

Aww I do feel for you. I often get guys who leave after 15-20 minute bookings so full GFE is not usually a problem for me and I too detest DFK..most clients aren't clued up on oral hygiene and my 2 ex's are the only people I've ever seen use dental floss/brushes in my life! Try to maintain eye contact as clients really like it and think you are more enthusiastic when you do so and as others have said just try to think of the money. I had a hiatus and the sex was painful when I first started back and I felt the same way as you OP and wondered how I had sustained the job all these years. Grit your teeth and try to do what the other ladies have suggested. If you're really not enjoying it and are tense it will show and be uncomfortable for you both. You only want good reviews. I do hope things improve. Let us know how you get on. Good luck x

Shewolf · « **Reply #18 on:** 30 January 2016, 10:42:09 pm »

GFE is challenging because...I always think, what if I accidentally give away the fact I am not enjoying the experience? Like when you start to retch when giving them oral. Or your head turns away of it's own accord when they go to kiss you...or you get a sort of tourettes thing starting when you have to ask 'what time is it?' because in your mind you are OUT THAT DOOR AND DRIVING DOWN THE ROAD TOP SPEED.

Imagine a moment when they realise this and it's like...awkward.

katrina · « **Reply #19 on:** 31 January 2016, 12:42:24 am »

Quote from: Miss-Olivia on 30 January 2016, 01:45:31 am

Hi I'm looking for some advice, for the past year and a half iv been offering the whole GFE to clients, iv never had a problem with it and just got on with it, but recently the though of GFE makes my skin crawl. The DFK, the way they take my face in there hands and Kiss me, they way they want to "make love" and cuddle me after it, it's honestly making me feel physically sick. It feels wrong and personal and things I only want to do with an actual partner,

what I'm wondering is if anyone else ever feels like this, also would I be best offering PSE, I'm quite vanilla and don't do things such as facials/CIM/anal etc so I'm not sure if that would even work with me, I wish clients would treat this more of a business transaction rather than see me as a girlfriend, I understand that's what they are paying me for but why can't it just be sex, like a one night standin is, why all this you are so hot babe, kissing my neck, stoking my hair, slowly making love to me. I would much rather arrive have a small kiss, tits sucked, bit of oral, (on him, not me) sex in any position that does not involve eye contact, guy cums, says thanks then leaves. I hope this makes sense and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks X

I'm one of them who like all the sensual touching, kissing, stroking my hair (yes please!!) I can always close my eyes and drift off into a fantasy world...the only thing I don't like is if anyone tries to salivate in my face/mouth whilst kissing, in that case I gently move my face away, or even sit up to wipe my mouth, they usually take the hint then ;-)

You could always state clearly on your profile that you don't do kissing, but I doubt you could call that the GFE and charge accordingly, the only other 'concern' I would have about advertising a very limited service such as a 'fuck me and fuck off' type of thing would be the type of clients you might get...Cold, quickie types who have no interest in you, your discretion or the way you work, just somewhere they can dump their spunk as quickly and cheap as possible, I can only imagine the types who would call you if you were to offer this type of service.

The1theywant · « **Reply #20 on:** 01 February 2016, 12:08:10 pm »

I sometimes feel like this but I have found a way around it I visualise them as a massive wad of notes and that really helps lol

I was getting a bit creeped out by one reg and this helped massively

Nova · « **Reply #21 on:** 01 February 2016, 03:07:42 pm »

Quote from: katrina on 31 January 2016, 12:42:24 am

the only other 'concern' I would have about advertising a very limited service such as a 'fuck me and fuck off' type of thing would be the type of clients you might get...Cold, quickie types who have no interest in you, your discretion or the way you work, just somewhere they can dump their spunk as quickly and cheap as possible, I can only imagine the types who would call you if you were to offer this type of service.

From the sound of it, that's what the OP wants though. She specifically does not want an emotional connection.

katrina · « **Reply #22 on:** 01 February 2016, 03:38:55 pm »

Quote from: Nova on 01 February 2016, 03:07:42 pm

Quote from: katrina on 31 January 2016, 12:42:24 am

the only other 'concern' I would have about advertising a very limited service such as a 'fuck me and fuck off' type of thing would be the type of clients you might get...Cold, quickie types who have no interest in you, your discretion or the way you work, just somewhere they can dump their spunk as quickly and cheap as possible, I can only imagine the types who would call you if you were to offer this type of service.

From the sound of it, that's what the OP wants though. She specifically does not want an emotional connection.

I don't want an 'emotional connection' either, but the soft and sensual GFE ones are a lot easier, even if it means bringing the 'Actress' out a lot of the time lol. I find the ones who want a 'quick fuck and go' to generally be disrespectful to the way an escort works, wanting 'now!' and to pay less as 'its only a fuck/suck' to them. They don't even seem to want to pay ?50, they want it for 40, 30 or even 20. Imagine how many she would have to have through the door to even make a profit. Also the ones like that who do book for longer tend to want to fuck/be sucked for the full time, they want their moneys worth as its just a piece of meat to them.

The guaranteed way to get out of kissing is to just offer mild domination, tie and tease, they can't even get to her if they tried, she can then just do whatever she wants to them. (But again I find these type of bookings even harder work than a PSE because you need to constantly be thinking what to do next).

Jezabel · « **Reply #23 on:** 01 February 2016, 05:07:07 pm »

Quote from: katrina on 01 February 2016, 03:38:55 pm

Quote from: Nova on 01 February 2016, 03:07:42 pm
Quote from: katrina on 31 January 2016, 12:42:24 am

the only other 'concern' I would have about advertising a very limited service such as a 'fuck me and fuck off' type of thing would be the type of clients you might get...Cold, quickie types who have no interest in you, your discretion or the way you work, just somewhere they can dump their spunk as quickly and cheap as possible, I can only imagine the types who would call you if you were to offer this type of service.

From the sound of it, that's what the OP wants though. She specifically does not want an emotional connection.

I don't want an 'emotional connection' either, but the soft and sensual GFE ones are a lot easier, even if it means bringing the 'Actress' out a lot of the time lol. I find the ones who want a 'quick fuck and go' to generally be disrespectful to the way an escort works, wanting 'now!' and to pay less as 'its only a fuck/suck' to them. They don't even seem to want to pay ?50, they want it for 40, 30 or even 20. Imagine how many she would have to have through the door to even make a profit. Also the ones like that who do book for longer tend to want to fuck/be sucked for the full time, they want their moneys worth as its just a piece of meat to them.

I agree if those type of guys somehow get thro my screening which thank god isn't often I'm left feeling like yup 'a piece of meat' and slightly sick somehow.

There must be a happy medium!

****disclaimer this person generally enjoys GFE

Gypsy · « **Reply #24 on:** 03 February 2016, 11:09:50 pm »

Quote from: Miss-Olivia on 30 January 2016, 01:45:31 am

Hi I'm looking for some advice, for the past year and a half iv been offering the whole GFE to clients, iv never had a problem with it and just got on with it, but recently the though of GFE makes my skin crawl. The DFK, the way they take my face in there hands and Kiss me, they way they want to "make love" and cuddle me after it, it's honestly making me feel physically sick. It feels wrong and personal and things I only want to do with an actual partner,

what I'm wondering is if anyone else ever feels like this, also would I be best offering PSE, I'm quite vanilla and don't do things such as facials/CIM/anal etc so I'm not sure if that would even work with me, I wish clients would treat this more of a business transaction rather than see me as a girlfriend, I understand that's what they are paying me for but why can't it just be sex, like a one night standin is, why all this you are so hot babe, kissing my neck, stoking my hair, slowly making love to me. I would much rather arrive have a small kiss, tits sucked, bit of oral, (on him, not me) sex in any position that does not involve eye contact, guy cums, says thanks then leaves. I hope this makes sense and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks X

This is the main reason I refuse to see old men 60+. The thought of them doing anything like that to me just makes me want to puke

I saw one 65 year old twice and after that no more. He was an old 65 too and at that age their mouths just get really gummy. Ugh!

Alice G · « **Reply #25 on:** 04 February 2016, 01:00:58 am »

Quote from: Shewolf on 30 January 2016, 10:42:09 pm

GFE is challenging because...I always think, what if I accidentally give away the fact I am not enjoying the experience? Like when you start to retch when giving them oral. Or your head turns away of it's own accord when they go to kiss you...or you get a sort of tourettes thing starting when you have to ask 'what time is it?' because in your mind you are OUT THAT DOOR AND DRIVING DOWN THE ROAD TOP SPEED.

Imagine a moment when they realise this and it's like...awkward.

One of the best comments I have seen on this site, and the funniest - thank you.
Have been there so many times too.

You really would think that when they try to kiss you with their tongue hanging out over your face and you turn your head away, you think they would get the message, but some just don't!

Whenever I visit a guy who is just like the above and I am driving to their place - I just look at the other side of the road, looking forward to the fact and thinking to myself "in a couple of hour's time I will be on that other side of the road after all the nausea and slobbery kissing is over, on my way home, kissing the wad of cash and looking forward to being in my own bed on my own!)"
I had one recently and actually felt sick to the stomach of seeing him yet again. It got too much and had to stop visiting him.
Just remember all the nice ones out there and having a fun time without having to get the sick bag out!
There are more of them - thankfully.

Hannaah · « **Reply #26 on:** 04 February 2016, 02:30:27 am »

I hate GFE.

Too much intimacy and acting, I much prefer PSE/sub bbookings. Both allow me to follow what the client wants/orders without much thinking or faking an emotional connection, so no you're not the only one.

I do offer anal/deepthroat/CIM though as those are things I genuinely enjoy if with a client who knows what they're doing, I hate both gfe/pse/sub if it's with someone who doesn't have a clue.

Maybe mix it up so it's a little naughty/new but not full on pse?

katrina · « **Reply #27 on:** 04 February 2016, 10:22:22 am »

Quote from: hannah13 on 04 February 2016, 02:30:27 am

Maybe mix it up so it's a little naughty/new but not full on pse?

I like a mix of different types of booking, doing the same thing over and over can be really boring.

I've just remembered how I used to get out of all the slobbering, try eating garlic...A lot!!! :-) lol

BarbaraB · « **Reply #28 on:** 04 February 2016, 05:27:57 pm »

well i had problem with this when i had BF, honestly now i just don't like when some seriously don't know how to kiss, put all tongue to my mout mostly throat and think this is ok in my head is all time just stop it ...

Shewolf · « **Reply #29 on:** 04 February 2016, 10:28:59 pm »

Quote from: Alice G on 04 February 2016, 01:00:58 am

I had one recently and actually felt sick to the stomach of seeing him yet again. It got too much and had to stop visiting him.
Just remember all the nice ones out there and having a fun time without having to get the sick bag out!
There are more of them - thankfully.

Alice, yep, sometimes it's just not worth the money. I am seeing one tomorrow who has just texted me that, because I have made him wait to see me (have been putting it off), he is going to make me 'cum' twice. I have never...ever...'cum' with one of these men. Ever. And I doubt I ever will. But...I do a great Meg Ryan. Tiresome but necessary x

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