Hi I'm looking for some advice, for the past year and a half iv been offering the whole GFE to clients, iv never had a problem with it and just got on with it, but recently the though of GFE makes my skin crawl. The DFK, the way they take my face in there hands and Kiss me, they way they want to "make love" and cuddle me after it, it's honestly making me feel physically sick. It feels wrong and personal and things I only want to do with an actual partner,

 what I'm wondering is if anyone else ever feels like this, also would I be best offering PSE, I'm quite vanilla and don't do things such as facials/CIM/anal etc so I'm not sure if that would even work with me, I wish clients would treat this more of a business transaction rather than see me as a girlfriend, I understand that's what they are paying me for but why can't it just be sex, like a one night standin is, why all this you are so hot babe, kissing my neck, stoking my hair, slowly making love to me. I would much rather arrive have a small kiss, tits sucked, bit of oral, (on him, not me) sex in any position that does not involve eye contact, guy cums, says thanks then leaves.  I hope this makes sense and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks X

I can totally relate to this. I've only just started but I had my first full-on GFE booking yesterday and it was hard work for me, and very draining. I've also considered offering PSE (my service is GFE with a strong hint of PSE anyway) but like you I don't offer CIM or anal.

I think if it's really getting to you, you shouldn't do it. You'll end up hating this job and feeling like you've disrespected yourself.

I used to offer anal but after yesterday I decided to stop offering it. It's a very personal thing for me, and to me, it feels like something I want to reserve for my personal life. I personally need to feel as though there are some things that clients don't get, some things that can't be bought. Maybe you're getting to a stage where GFE is something that can't be bought. I can tell already that I'm going to get to that stage with it too.

There are plenty of whores who have a 'come in, fuck me, fuck off' approach and they do perfectly well. It's just a case of marketing yourself correctly. Maybe offering shorter appointments would be helpful, although that may be difficult with outcalls.  This is something I really want to start pushing for, like you I would far prefer for them to just come in and empty their balls and bugger off again. Maybe it's time for a rebranding!

Thanks girls, I was going a bit daft thinking it was just me. I totally agree GFE is extremley draining.
Yeah i don't really think PSE would work without the anal and CIM.

I know it's weird but I would love them to come in fuck me then leave, I want to be an object, in the sense that they are using me for sex, I'm totally fine with that.  I think a rebranding is the perfect idea, again I only offer outcalls so will need to think of the best way to go about it. It's funny how I can get down and suck a dick with no problem at all but as soon as a guy starts kissing my neck and face in a "Romantic" way I just cringe and want it to stop.

Your right Alice I need to keep the whole reason of why I am doing this to the front of my mind.... The money! Iv been ditched recently by a regular as I wouldn't make eye contact with him while having sex, it's  something I struggle to do with clients, that for me is something I want to do with a partner. Looking into a clients makes it feel to personal for me. I'm Gonna have to have a good think today on how to rebrand myself and hopefully get back into liking my "job" xxx

Good luck lovely xx of course part of life is having to have jobs that we don't like, but the joy of escorting is that it's completely up to us what we offer and to whom.  I'm exactly the same as you in terms of wanting to be treated like an object, and there *are* clients out there for that. Once I'm more established I intend to do exactly the same.

Is having an incall place an option for you? Could you rent a room for a couple of days a week and offer 15-30 minute quickie slots? Then it could be one in one out.

I feel sorry for the lonely clients who clearly just want a bit of love and affection. But there are plenty of girls who cater for this and really enjoy doing it, there's a niche for everyone and  you shouldn't have to do anything you don't want to do xx

I can just about kiss and hug and all that (yes it does make me cringe as it's all so false really) but I can never look into their eyes. Funny isn't it. Maybe I am not that good as an actress as I think I am.

Hello

Maybe some options are:

- Doing shorter bookings (is there any way you could somehow find a place to offer short incall bookings? You'd get a big rush of business offering them esp if you've been outcall only previously)

- Advertising your submissive side more, and that it turns you on to be "taken"

- Saying on your profile that you are looking to explore your sexuality, and are now offering a little more than GFE for the right kind of man.

However if you want my advice (which maybe you don't!) I think you're onto a good thing if the issues you are encountering are men being too nice and affectionate. By exploring more of a PSE route, you are still going to encounter problems, but of the opposite kind - i.e. men treating you like an object - sometimes treating you like shit. Which is the lesser of two evils for you xx

Yes, I also think you're probably better off trying quickie 'fuck and go' bookings rather than moving to PSE. All of the impersonal nature without the expectation that anal / whatever is included...

An alternative would be looking at something where they're physically incapable of doing something you don't want. Bondage stuff can be very portable. Stand them up, strap their hands to something, go down on them, then let them have you while you're bent over in front of them.

If renting somewhere for incalls isn't possible, is doing some brothel shifts an option?

Seconding, thirding (or whatever) the suggestion of promoting short bookings more. There is no time for much of the cuddly stuff in 30 minute appointments.

I would beg to differ! I have plenty of 30 minute GFE type apointments!

I only ever get clients who want a quick shag in my half hours. Anyone who wants something a bit more intimate usually books an hour and upwards. Of course, this might be a function of personal tolerance level - I don't really count some kissing as a particularly touchy-feely meeting.