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anonymoussw

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Shit
« on: 25 July 2009, 07:27:58 am »
My parents found out last night

Shit shit shit shit
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Re: Shit
« Reply #1 on: 25 July 2009, 10:12:47 am »
Oh dear. What happened and what happens now?

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« Reply #2 on: 25 July 2009, 10:21:04 am »
ah fuck. How are they taking it? Hug ciber directed your way

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Re: Shit
« Reply #3 on: 25 July 2009, 03:42:03 pm »
What are you out to them about already?

If they already know you're gay and that you're not monogamous, the idea of money being involved can be rather less of a shock than if it all comes at once.

If you are out to them, I'd bet the phrase 'being careful' (meaning don't get HIV or murdered) has been used by them, so you could demonstrate how you are, in fact, being more careful than half the men on the scene.
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« Reply #4 on: 25 July 2009, 04:40:00 pm »
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If you are out to them, I'd bet the phrase 'being careful' (meaning don't get HIV or murdered) has been used by them, so you could demonstrate how you are, in fact, being more careful than half the men on the scene.

Thats a good point. I think if i explained to my dad the safety procedures we do I think he would be more happy about that then me going out on the pull of an evening.

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Re: Shit
« Reply #5 on: 25 July 2009, 07:07:51 pm »
Oh hon, sending love your way. It will all work out, information is your friend now. Kisses

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Re: Shit
« Reply #6 on: 26 July 2009, 02:36:09 pm »
Oh dear. What happened and what happens now?

I got home from a night out at 4am. Went to bed, and when I woke up I bumped into dad in the kitchen who told me that "mum has found your escorting site". At which point I went quiet and went to work (day job)

If they already know you're gay and that you're not monogamous, the idea of money being involved can be rather less of a shock than if it all comes at once.

If you are out to them, I'd bet the phrase 'being careful' (meaning don't get HIV or murdered) has been used by them, so you could demonstrate how you are, in fact, being more careful than half the men on the scene.

I have been out to them since I was sixteen, and my mum regularly provides me with large unsolicited bags of condoms. They know I have a very active sex life, yes.

I have since stayed on a friend's sofa and calmed down. My dad sent me an email this morning saying

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What are your plans for today ... we'd like to see you!
Don't need to talk about it today. Mum is ok, just worried about you.

So I have now come home and he seems to be alright atm
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
"if" - Rudyard Kipling

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Re: Shit
« Reply #7 on: 26 July 2009, 03:32:50 pm »
Oh dear lord, so many horrible emotions you must have gone through this weekend. I am so glad that you seem to have the most lovely supportive network of a family- hope all goes ok today. x

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Re: Shit
« Reply #8 on: 26 July 2009, 04:29:54 pm »
Sounds like all they need is to hear the truth from you, which will be really reassuring as like others have said, 'Safety Precautions' is an escort's double barreled middle name. :D

Lovely that they seem so supportive. (hugs) Hope you're feeling okay, too. Must be a little weird having your parents know about it if you're still living with them?
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Re: Shit
« Reply #9 on: 27 July 2009, 01:22:12 am »
wow... :o

well; atleast you're at an advantage. They knew you were gay, and for crying out loud your mom provided you with condoms? If they knew you have an active sex life, it should be absolutely no surprise that you're getting paid for it.

Your dad handled it very well. You have great parents who are understanding and accepting. I can imagine your embarrasement...but Im trying to figure out how did your mom find your escorting site???


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Re: Shit
« Reply #10 on: 27 July 2009, 01:44:15 am »
wow... :o

well; atleast you're at an advantage. They knew you were gay, and for crying out loud your mom provided you with condoms? If they knew you have an active sex life, it should be absolutely no surprise that you're getting paid for it.

Your dad handled it very well. You have great parents who are understanding and accepting. I can imagine your embarrasement...but Im trying to figure out how did your mom find your escorting site???

I left my PC on and some relevant websites open. I think she already had her suspicions, so apparently she followed some links and immediately found my site...
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
"if" - Rudyard Kipling

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« Reply #11 on: 27 July 2009, 01:48:23 am »
I left my PC on and some relevant websites open. I think she already had her suspicions, so apparently she followed some links and immediately found my site...

Ha! Thats how my X boyfriend (who was and still is an escort) found out couple months ago. Left my computer on; with my photos and face showing LOL. But He never, ever told me he was a whore while we were boyfriends. When I brung it up to him one day he denied and denied. 3 years later, he finds out the victim has become the victor. Idaho now! (thats, I da ho)

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« Reply #12 on: 27 July 2009, 07:46:38 am »

I left my PC on and some relevant websites open. I think she already had her suspicions, so apparently she followed some links and immediately found my site...

Interesting. I wonder if you subconsciously wanted to get caught.
At least it sounds like they're taking it well. That's the difficult part over with. If it helps, show them this site, let them know that you at least have a support network to hand should you need it. That might put their minds at rest.

And what now? Will you carry on?
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Re: Shit
« Reply #13 on: 27 July 2009, 10:08:59 am »
Interesting. I wonder if you subconsciously wanted to get caught.

Goodness no, although if it was subconscious I don't think I would know it, but I am pretty sure it was just sheer stupidity on my part...

And what now? Will you carry on?

I hope so. It depends on the outcome of the conversations, but I enjoy this too much not too. It sounds like a cliche, but I havn't felt so alive in ages as I do when I am with a seeing clients.
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
"if" - Rudyard Kipling

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Re: Shit
« Reply #14 on: 27 July 2009, 10:23:14 am »
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I hope so. It depends on the outcome of the conversations, but I enjoy this too much not too. It sounds like a cliche, but I havn't felt so alive in ages as I do when I am with a seeing clients.

It does give you a certain kick sometimes! Especially if you have had a slow period. But seriously good luck. It sounds like you have a sorted set of parents there and also your brother already knows so he can be there for you too.