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cassie

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Re: Shit
« Reply #15 on: 27 July 2009, 03:42:06 pm »
What a shock to the system, you poor thing!
but it sounds like it's going to be ok and your parents seem very calm and cool about it. To me the fact that your dad mentioned that your mum found your website as you were casually in the kitchen together shows it. You didn't have them call you in to have a word or a chat.

Obviously the chat is now unavoidable and from what you have said here I too think once you have told them about security measures and stuff they will be ok, if not fine about the escorting thing.

If my mum found out, I would have come home to be confronted with the: "I think you have some explaining to do, young lady!" speech  and remember I'm over 40 now.

Good luck hon, hugs.
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Re: Shit
« Reply #16 on: 27 July 2009, 04:05:46 pm »
Quote from: cassie on 27 July 2009, 03:42:06 pm
but it sounds like it's going to be ok and your parents seem very calm and cool about it. To me the fact that your dad mentioned that your mum found your website as you were casually in the kitchen together shows it.

He did seem quite angry at the time, but I think that's because mum had been upset the previous night (while I had been out on the town) that said they seem to have relaxed now.
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Re: Shit
« Reply #17 on: 27 July 2009, 04:23:09 pm »
Ah,  I didn't quiet get that from what you said, sorry.

I suppose they would be upset and maybe hurt that you haven't told them about it, but hopefully they will understand that it's not exactly the type of job you tell your parents about, regardless if you are straight or gay.

It's good they want to talk , I'm assuming they are about my age, so once they get over the shock and you can tell them that you are looking after yourself and keeping safe, I'm hoping they will come around.

Maybe let them read some stuff on this site? So they can understand the industry you are involved in.

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Re: Shit
« Reply #18 on: 28 July 2009, 10:48:41 pm »
Quote from: cassie on 27 July 2009, 04:23:09 pm
Ah,  I didn't quiet get that from what you said, sorry.

I suppose they would be upset and maybe hurt that you haven't told them about it, but hopefully they will understand that it's not exactly the type of job you tell your parents about, regardless if you are straight or gay.

It's good they want to talk , I'm assuming they are about my age, so once they get over the shock and you can tell them that you are looking after yourself and keeping safe, I'm hoping they will come around.

Maybe let them read some stuff on this site? So they can understand the industry you are involved in.

xx

We'll see. The conversation will probably happen tomorrow...
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Re: Shit
« Reply #19 on: 28 July 2009, 10:59:17 pm »
Hey Benny. 

Sounds like you have a great set of parents there to be honest with you.  I guess this will be a testing time for all of you and you know we are all here for you, as always.

Love
Alex xx
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Re: Shit
« Reply #20 on: 29 July 2009, 10:00:47 pm »
Ok. So I've had the conversation. Lots of awkwardness and crying. Mum and dad don't want me to do it, and are worried about the implications in the future, what might happen if this comes out etc...

While I don't agree with there reasoning, I love them very much and don't want to hurt them. Which is more important than anything else...

So I have agreed to stop.
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Lilly1230

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Re: Shit
« Reply #21 on: 29 July 2009, 11:04:11 pm »
Hi honey

Arriving late in the day but hope you're okay. You will be sorely missed from here if you choose to go but no one can blame you if you chose not to venture on the forum.

Best of luck sweetie

Hugs

Lilly xxx
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Re: Shit
« Reply #22 on: 29 July 2009, 11:43:01 pm »
Quote from: bennyboywonder on 29 July 2009, 10:00:47 pm
Ok. So I've had the conversation. Lots of awkwardness and crying. Mum and dad don't want me to do it, and are worried about the implications in the future, what might happen if this comes out etc...

While I don't agree with there reasoning, I love them very much and don't want to hurt them. Which is more important than anything else...

So I have agreed to stop.

It all sounds like a great family set-up. 

If the after effects are their main worry (and I agree with them as it is a worry for most of us, especially if you want a 'serious 'career after) how about going faceless and rebranding as a comprimise?

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Re: Shit
« Reply #23 on: 30 July 2009, 08:11:04 am »
Quote from: Trafford on 29 July 2009, 11:43:01 pm

It all sounds like a great family set-up. 

If the after effects are their main worry (and I agree with them as it is a worry for most of us, especially if you want a 'serious 'career after) how about going faceless and rebranding as a comprimise?



If you do go down this route, you know we're here for any support we can offer. I remember you were looking for your own place which might be harder to save up for if you do give this up. So I reckon your decision is tearing you up inside.
You're young and gorgeous so not thinking about future consequences, but your parents do have a point. I'm old enough to be your mum (shut it), so I can see it from their prospective, even if you can't. If you do want to continue, discuss Trafford's suggestion to them, see what they say.
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Re: Shit
« Reply #24 on: 30 July 2009, 08:23:47 am »
Quote from: bennyboywonder on 29 July 2009, 10:00:47 pm
While I don't agree with there reasoning, I love them very much and don't want to hurt them. Which is more important than anything else...

So I have agreed to stop.

Oh my gosh  :'( Benny, nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! If you dont agree with their reasoning, why should you stop? Isnt it equally important to be true to yourself? You can love them AND be true to yourself.

If you feel the need to take a break, by all means do so. But if you stop let it be cause you wanted to, not cause your parents think you'll end up perverted and resentful down the line.
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Re: Shit
« Reply #25 on: 30 July 2009, 10:21:03 pm »
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Oh my gosh  :'( Benny, nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! If you dont agree with their reasoning, why should you stop? Isnt it equally important to be true to yourself? You can love them AND be true to yourself.

I think that would be pretty selfish of me Joey. Escorting is not the most important thing in my life, and not hurting my parents (who have provided me with so much, and put up with my shit for twenty five years) rates far, far higher.

Quote from: Trafford on 29 July 2009, 11:43:01 pm
If the after effects are their main worry (and I agree with them as it is a worry for most of us, especially if you want a 'serious 'career after) how about going faceless and rebranding as a comprimise?

I thought about that. But I said I'd stop, so I'll stop.
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Violette

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Re: Shit
« Reply #26 on: 30 July 2009, 10:57:16 pm »
Oh Benny, we will miss you. When you have family who care about you, sometimes these are the sacrifices we make. Good luck in whatever you choose to do. Kisses and Hugs Violette
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Re: Shit
« Reply #27 on: 30 July 2009, 11:54:51 pm »
Oh BennyBoy, what a shame for us, we'll miss you very much.

I understand your parents concerns and especially because you are young and will look to a different career somewhere along the line.

Respect to you for making the decision to stop because of the love you have for them, I hope they know what a loving son they are blessed with. Just one small but - there's always a but: make sure you won't resent them in the future for making you stop.

Take care of yourself whatever your do hon,

Cassie xx
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