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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Lotus300 on 09 February 2017, 09:42:00 pm
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Personally I love sex and I usually feel pleasure with my clients. Sometimes I simulate. But it is rare.
But I was wondering if it was the same for other sex workers? I am curious to read your comments because the majority of customers seem to like the idea that we also feel pleasure.
Thank you in advance! :)
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I would say I get sexual enjoyment out of about half of my bookings.
Of the rest, the majority have only booked 15 or 30 minutes and just want to cum and go, which is fine by me. I still enjoy these bookings but the pleasure comes from giving a good service.
There are a small minority who only book 30 minutes and think they're going to make me orgasm with a bit of clumsy finger work or shit oral. With those guys I'll fake it. I'd rather have a guy who is honest about just wanting his own needs met.
Counter-intuitively, I find the most tiring bookings are those when I've come. I can do the cum-and-go guys all day long with just a 5-10 minute break in between to freshen up. but after an intense orgasm I'm absolutely wiped out for a bit.
Had a new guy tonight at 6pm and the sex was really intense and passionate. I had another guy booked for 8pm and I was SO RELIEVED when he failed to confirm!
I'm probably self-selecting to a point because most of my feedback (and especially my field reports) mentions how I enjoy myself, so I tend to attract men who are looking for that.
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There was a similar thread a while ago. Interesting to see any difference in responses this time around. :)
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I only fake with those not good other than that it is all good, some of these men think they know how to please. It is far easier to get them to finish quicker.
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I'd say I get sexual enjoyment in 75-80 percent of bookings at least, but that's because I orgasm really easily! I think it's a personality thing, too, plus I screen quite heavily and am fairly picky about who I see, which might up the odds a little.
If I didn't enjoy the sex I'd give up escorting.
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I'm probably self-selecting to a point because most of my feedback (and especially my field reports) mentions how I enjoy myself, so I tend to attract men who are looking for that.
I never thought of it. Very good point.
There was a similar thread a while ago. Interesting to see any difference in responses this time around. :)
I can not find this other thread.
Edit: I guess this is the thread titled "Orgasms with clients"? Yes it will be interesting to see if the answers are different.
I only fake with those not good other than that it is all good, some of these men think they know how to please. It is far easier to get them to finish quicker.
LOL True.
I'd say I get sexual enjoyment in 75-80 percent of bookings at least, but that's because I orgasm really easily! I think it's a personality thing, too, plus I screen quite heavily and am fairly picky about who I see, which might up the odds a little.
If I didn't enjoy the sex I'd give up escorting.
It's the same for me!
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Thank you for your answers! I look forward to hearing what others are experiencing. :)
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Neither. I can't reliably orgasm even in my personal life, and most of my sexual enjoyment these days comes from indulging my fetishes (which I don't do at work) and the mental connection I have either to my fiance or FwB. I also dislike receiving oral and vastly prefer penetrative sex, but that hinges on the gent being endowed just right (both too small and too big are bad). As such work sex doesn't provide much stimulation at all.
However, I also don't fake it since I don't want to encourage people scraping all over my genitals with their facial hair or what have you. I just make sure to focus on them and apologetically explain I cannot O because of medication if asked (not actually true but easier than "I just don't climax, nope, no idea why!").
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I don't particularly require sexual pleasure. I have more than enough sex to satisfy me, if I orgasm (and I do in most bookings in which the client would like to see me get off) it's more for the client's benefit than mine.
My pleasure is doing a good job, we get along (which is why I screen very heavily these days, and stop seeing anyone who rubs me up the wrong way), I get paid - that's what I get a kick out of.
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I find it hard to orgasm anyway, but sometimes through oral, if the guys any good and I really want to come, then I get my mini vibe out and do it myself.
There's only 2/3 guys who know I do this as it gives me a massive orgasm and it's exhausting so I don't do it too often.
I've only had a real orgasm with maybe 5 clients in the year I've been doing this.
I rarely enjoy the actual sex so I just make the right noises and hope they finish quickly!
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I guess it just depends, I've had an orgasm from maybe 25% of my total clients ever I don't really orgasm easily it has to be the right set of things happening with the right person who knows how to push my buttons. I enjoy many of my clients though sexually at least half I'd say were pleasurable experiences though sometimes the booking is just doing my routine and it's not very long or I don't really like them much and what they are doing so I fake a reaction for them.
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I get a buzz from doing this job, yes I get pleasure sexual pleasure, often even from the 15 minute jobs.
I have not had many booking lasting over an hour but these are tougher for me.
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Ive cum quite often ftom clients who actually intervene and dont just want a cock sucking. However i have faked it too to get some over with. Im single tho so my clients are actuallly my real sex life for orgasms x
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Thanks for your interesting answers. :)
Im single tho so my clients are actuallly my real sex life for orgasms x
a) Yes I think there is probably a correlation between being single and having sexual fun working. In the periods of my life when I was alone, I had more pleasure than in the periods when I had a spouse.
b) If I see few customers in a week, I tend to have more enjoyment than if I have a lot of customers.
c) And I have more pleasure with my regulars than with new customers.
But I wonder if it's the same for other sexworkers? :)
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Hi,
I am quite new to escorting and so far try to keep a distance between doing my job and not not getting too carried away and losing control during a job.
There is one guy who has seen me a few times now. He loves to go down on me but i try to stop him before he makes me cum. Partly to do with my neighbours as i can be quite loud and they dont know what i do and I dont have a partner.
One time i lost total control and he made me cum and i was very noisy and got embarrassed. After we had sex and he made me cum again and my neighbour must have heard as I was very loud.
Because i dont have a regular sex life apart from escort work I look forward to the next time with him.
Not sure if i should hold back or just go for it and ignore the neighbours.
I find it hard to fake but maybe just my inexperience.
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Hi,
I am quite new to escorting and so far try to keep a distance between doing my job and not not getting too carried away and losing control during a job.
There is one guy who has seen me a few times now. He loves to go down on me but i try to stop him before he makes me cum. Partly to do with my neighbours as i can be quite loud and they dont know what i do and I dont have a partner.
One time i lost total control and he made me cum and i was very noisy and got embarrassed. After we had sex and he made me cum again and my neighbour must have heard as I was very loud.
Because i dont have a regular sex life apart from escort work I look forward to the next time with him.
Not sure if i should hold back or just go for it and ignore the neighbours.
I find it hard to fake but maybe just my inexperience.
Who cares, they'll just think you're a goer ;D
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I know you are right. I just get embarrassed about it and shouldn't care what other people think so much. It's weird though cos I just lose myself and find myself screaming the house down but only realise I'm doing it once I'm about to orgasm. Does feel amazing though and better than most of my exes. Also he is so considerate in and out of bed.
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I have had to train myself over the years to be quieter. Not just cos of SW, just cos of thin walls.
Bite the pillow ;D if on top still pick it up if poss and bite. Play background music.
I don't scream as such now but can get quite moany even on my own but I am aware of my neighbours as I do occasionally hear them through the walls. Are you sure that you're not making it feel a bit worse in your head though?
Do the neighbours work during the day? Are they actually in the rooms adjoining you at the time?
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Hi yes my neighbour is in most days. But I do work from a working flat too mainly so no problems there. I think I worry too much about what people think.
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Who cares, they'll just think you're a goer ;D
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I think I worry too much about what people think.
Yes, probably. :)
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I just get really embarrassed. I have thin walls and can hear my neighbours talking so no doubt they can hear me screaming the house down. The last time my client was around I saw him out and bumped into my neighbour who had a massive grin on her face. Afterwards she said she could her me halfway down the street. I could have died.
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I just get really embarrassed..... Afterwards she said she could her me halfway down the street. I could have died.
LOL I understand you.
With the money you will earn from this job, you will be able to afford a better rent. Better soundproofed. :)
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This is just a job to me.
I enjoy getting dressed up, I'm a natural flirt by nature. As soon as money hits my hand I go into my zone; I probably get more of a thrill out of being paid, even now. I like money. I like being in complete control of situations. I've had situations/concepts that I've found arousing. If that can be interpreted as getting off, mmm, possibly. If someone asks me if I enjoy it - sure, I'll enjoy whatever you want me to enjoy (within reason and boundaries). You pay me for that fantasy and escapade, and if you're a genuinely nice person, I'm not going to thwart that for you.
What I like in my personal life is my personal life - I don't talk about it, I don't invite people to explore it.
Personally I take the stance that everyone is different and that's fine - if you genuinely love the sex you're having then more power to you. If you're just of the opinion 'well, another day at the office!' then equally the same power to you.
What's always annoyed me is after a day full of crap bookings, when I've been lying on the sofa watching crap TV being vaguely aware that I am in the mood and thinking 'urgh... no, I'd rather just have a wispa' ;D
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fake it sometimes but its real other times often with clients you would not expect to make you cum
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fake it sometimes but its real other times often with clients you would not expect to make you cum
I fake it always with one to one bookings with Men. When I am with couples it is always real as the lady always makes me cum.
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I don't think I'm a good faker but would find it embarrassing too. Might need to practise on this.
Do guys accuse anyone faking it ?
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For me it's all fake. As it's about their sexual satisfaction not mine. I am a fab actress, but this is my job and that's all it will ever be.
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Do guys accuse anyone faking it ?
I've been accused of faking it when its been real and believed when I've faked it ;D
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I've been accused of faking it when its been real and believed when I've faked it ;D
LOL Same for me!
I guess men are not very good at knowing whether it's true or not.
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LOL Same for me!
I guess men are not very good at knowing whether it's true or not.
Yeah the ones who expect it to be like what they've seen in the movies.... ;)
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I try to get as much as I can in my bookings because I have no one else in my personal life that Im fucking. Been single for years and dont really socialise as much as I know I should do and Im getting bored of the dating app scene.
If I cant cum I dont fake it, I just focus on them and I get satisfaction knowing I helped them to the finish line.
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I know you are right. I just get embarrassed about it and shouldn't care what other people think so much. It's weird though cos I just lose myself and find myself screaming the house down but only realise I'm doing it once I'm about to orgasm. Does feel amazing though and better than most of my exes. Also he is so considerate in and out of bed.
Hahaha when I was like 28 I suddenly found out I loved screaming. Hell, the more I screamed the more I was turned on so I screamed even more!!! I'm not talking small sexy screams I'm talking wild loud screams going on and on.
Once on vacation in a nice hotel the neighbors just called the security. Can't really blame them now that I'm older/wilder. Another time at my bf the neighbors from the house next door called the police:)
I miss that screaming though. The whole liberating part of it felt absolutely amazing though I can't even imagine doing it with a client in a hotel or my flat. It ends up with me swearing a lot when I climax lol. Such a shame.
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I wouldn't say I enjoy screaming due to the embarrassment but love the pleasure I get. My client keeps saying I shouldn't be embarrassed and just let it out as he likes things to be natural. I suppose it lets him know he must be doing something right.
It doesn't happen all the time though. Today I was more sedate but the orgasm was just as good but in a different way.
If only all my jobs were even half as good as this.
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Hahaha when I was like 28 I suddenly found out I loved screaming. Hell, the more I screamed the more I was turned on so I screamed even more!!! I'm not talking small sexy screams I'm talking wild loud screams going on and on.
Once on vacation in a nice hotel the neighbors just called the security. Can't really blame them now that I'm older/wilder. Another time at my bf the neighbors from the house next door called the police:)
I miss that screaming though. The whole liberating part of it felt absolutely amazing though I can't even imagine doing it with a client in a hotel or my flat. It ends up with me swearing a lot when I climax lol. Such a shame.
I'm a screamer in my personal life as well. I've had partners put their hands over my mouth to make me more quiet, which just works me up more and makes me louder lmao.
I remember there was one time, long before any of this, I hooked up randomly with an ex who dropped me off from a shift after my old job. We were having tea and I thought 'well, why not'. Didn't think anything about it until one of my neighbours gave me this real shit eating grin the next day when he saw me walking down the stairs; it took me about a minute to realise what he was smirking at, then I just turned bright red and scurried away.
Even if I did get off doing this, I couldn't - I'd have neighbours banging my ceiling telling me to shut up ;D
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I try not to fake it but I'd rather do that than send away a disappointed client. I have a huge desire for sex and never cease to enjoy it. I guess I wouldn't have become an escort and stuck at for so long if I didn't ;) I'm quite sensitive and orgasm easily so it's real maybe 80% - 85% of the time. The rest are either too quick, don't get that far, are rubbish at stimulating a woman or I'm in an off mood.
I'm naturally noisy. Not so much a screamer as loud grunts and moans. I do my best to stay quiet, especially with outcalls, unless the client encourages me. Some do like to hear a girl enjoying herself. It was a constant source of embarrassment for my ex-husband who was always holding his hand over my mouth, but my current boyfriend is fine with it.
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I'm a screamer in my personal life as well. I've had partners put their hands over my mouth to make me more quiet, which just works me up more and makes me louder lmao.
I remember there was one time, long before any of this, I hooked up randomly with an ex who dropped me off from a shift after my old job. We were having tea and I thought 'well, why not'. Didn't think anything about it until one of my neighbours gave me this real shit eating grin the next day when he saw me walking down the stairs; it took me about a minute to realise what he was smirking at, then I just turned bright red and scurried away.
Even if I did get off doing this, I couldn't - I'd have neighbours banging my ceiling telling me to shut up ;D
Lol! I so get it:) My screaming was just legendary and yeah, the louder I got the more I felt turned on so would get even louder:)
I do think that if I settle down one day I want a house so I can just scream all I want:) Or a soundproof bedroom because the non-screaming version of me is less fun haha
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I try not to fake it but I'd rather do that than send away a disappointed client. I have a huge desire for sex and never cease to enjoy it. I guess I wouldn't have become an escort and stuck at for so long if I didn't ;) I'm quite sensitive and orgasm easily so it's real maybe 80% - 85% of the time. The rest are either too quick, don't get that far, are rubbish at stimulating a woman or I'm in an off mood.
I'm naturally noisy. Not so much a screamer as loud grunts and moans. I do my best to stay quiet, especially with outcalls, unless the client encourages me. Some do like to hear a girl enjoying herself. It was a constant source of embarrassment for my ex-husband who was always holding his hand over my mouth, but my current boyfriend is fine with it.
I agree. I try my best not to fake but I don't want a client to feel disappointed or inadequate so I do it anyway lol!
I can also be quite noisy when it's going good, the clients who I've faked with would not be able to tell the difference between my real orgasms and my fake ones, I deserve a trophy! Haha!
It's so funny because the ones who are good in bed usually don't realise they are and think they're average, but the ones who consider themselves an Adonis or think they can make every woman squirt and have multiple orgasms are usually shit and do nothing for me so that's when I get my acting skills on!
I had one client who was in his 60s finger me and give me oral, he wasn't that great, I faked the moans, oral can be enjoyable for me even when they don't have a good technique. This client was like "Oh my god you're gushing" I nearly laughed out loud! I did not gush once, I simply get very wet, but nowhere near the same as "gushing". Clueless bless him! ;D
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Depends on the person really. I can usually enjoy most bookings though but that also depends on what we're doing and how I'm feeling. Certain activities on certain days with a punter I'm not clicking with can be hard work. Bookings doing things I specialise in and therefor get loads out of are brilliant fun and even though I mainly don't orgasm I still get a lot of pleasure from it all. I wish I could have an orgasm everytime with every punter but it's only happened a handful of times. I never fake it either. Never have done in personal life or as an escort. Just feels wrong to do so.
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I find it embarrassing to try and fake and try to avoid it.
One client asked me why I wasn't making much noise during a booking. In the end he even asked if I could just fake it.
I tried thinking I was sounding ridiculous. He seemed to be happy though.
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I rarely get sexual pleasure from a booking. I am not there for my pleasure, I am there to give the client what he wants. And let's be real, some of these guys haven't a clue where to start or what to do.
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On average out of 10 guys I would say I fake with 8 and 2 will be genuine.
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Fake it unless they are showing potential
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Fake it all the way. I've never had an orgasm with a client and I never want to, the thought of someone who has paid me making me cum makes me feel ill. It's just a job pure and simple - I switch off and go onto autopilot.
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I only usually orgasm with about three clients and love it. My fave one sees me at least once a week and sex is always amazing.
I don't have a partner so this is all the sex I get so might as well enjoy it when you can.
Most guys don't have a clue and some only last a few minutes.
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I never had and probably never will. I dont really fake it but I moan which some interpret as an orgasm. I try someties. I might try and think of a good sexual experience in my personal life but I feel like that just ruins the good memory for me. I find for orgasms, I have to be genuinly attracted to someone. even then, I need to be attracted to more than their appearance.
But I am surprised in seeing how so many ladies here seem to enjoy it. It would maake the job a hell of a lot easier if i could.
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I never had and probably never will. I dont really fake it but I moan which some interpret as an orgasm. I try someties. I might try and think of a good sexual experience in my personal life but I feel like that just ruins the good memory for me. I find for orgasms, I have to be genuinly attracted to someone. even then, I need to be attracted to more than their appearance.
But I am surprised in seeing how so many ladies here seem to enjoy it. It would maake the job a hell of a lot easier if i could.
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I do enjoy it mostly, however I don't orgasm with them. Naturally, I am very quiet in bed, but for them I make some noise just to reassure. hopefully they cum before I have to get too full on faking it. I used to be very shy about that, until I had this one weirdo who wanted me to be moaning like a pornstar - even though he was not penetrating me (or stimulating me at all) ??? It was one of those bookings where you come out and you know that your acting skills have improved about 30% minimum, not to mention your tolerance and endurance.
The thing is, I find it hard to cum with other people at any rate - but with a client I almost don't think it would be physically possible because I am operating in an entirely separate mental space than with civilian sex. Even when a client is really hot, I still am physically detached from the whole thing and in 'work mode' - so I can't enjoy it until later ;) And that is another reason I would never see working as cheating because it is just in no way comparable to sleeping with somebody else out of the relationship because they are hot or whatever.... The technical act may be the same, but the mental experience is in no way comparable.... But I can't imagine anybody outside the industry would relate to that knowledge..... :-\
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I have to confess that I sometimes find it easier to get off with clients than with my BF :-\
I think I have a strong attraction to the whole novelty aspect. I mean seeing someone new. Because I can see a client once and have a storming orgasm, but then see them again and be "meh" (and they're not doing anything different.)
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I'm not in a relationship so this is the only sex I get. When I'm really horny I find it hard to keep in control sometimes. So rather than fight it I just go with the flow and enjoy myself.
Especially with some of my regulars, I'm getting paid to have a good time often with an orgasm at the end of it.
The majority of my clients though I don't enjoy it as much.