I think you have to carefully consider every scenario. Yes being honest would mean a lot less pressure. But if he didn't accept it, and got angry about it, is he the type of person to use that information against you? The same question applies if the relationship goes sour.
If you carry on and don't tell him, you'll feel guilty- unless you can compartmentalise really well, but will regardless worry if he will find out. And then if he does you will be in the scenario above anyway. When I started going out with my ex I quit my job. I never told him I had escorted. There was always that nagging in the back of my mind telling me not to give him that sort of power over me. And now I thank my lucky stars that I listened to that voice in the back of my head. In hindsight the fact that I didn't trust him enough to tell him was the first of many red flags.
If you leave escorting for him, and the relationship goes wrong, you will probably regret it. Not to mention, I for one took for granted the freedom that escorting gave me. My world got so much smaller once I quit escorting for him- everything was affected; my travel plans, my career plans etc. Because I simply could not afford to do those things anymore. I missed escorting a lot.
BUT part of my decision was made because I was suffering awful burnout from living my double life.
It depends on what you want right now out of your life. Do you want independence/ options open or do you want to settle down and have a family?
I guess what my point is, is that if this person isn't the person you see spending the rest of your life with/ someone you completely trust, then the relationship is not worth your job.
If it's a new relationship and you are still in the honeymoon period it can be hard to detach away from how nice it is to have hugs and kisses etc, but eventually you will take those for granted, much as you may take the money and security for escorting for granted now.
I believe that you should do what will make you happy- but make sure this isn't just your happiness this week, or 3 months time, but for your long term happiness. Because at the end of the day life is unpredictable and you need to make yourself happy and fulfilled, because no other person can make you truly happy. It's that whole 'love yourself thing'.
If you want to have a natter you can PM me.
You'll work it out chick
xx