I have missed my ex a lot over the past few months. He used to help me financially a little as I asked him but he didn't know I saw other men. He never offered any whiff of commitment and that is why a) I didn't stop doing this work a little and b) we split up.

He now says he misses me and is unhappy but...when we spoke on the phone I told him I was doing a course and he started quizzing me about where I had got the money from to do it. I told him I had done extra jobs etc...he kept asking 'what sort of jobs'?' etc. I had to tell him to stop being nosy in the end as he went on and on.

He obviously suspects me doing this but I feel offended by that because I feel he has jumped to that conclusion without really knowing. Therefore, he is thinking negatively of me straight off instead of vice versa. Surely if he really cared about me he wouldn't think that.

Am I wrong to feel like that?

Could he have seen your ads, and is he likely to cause you problems if he has?

Possibly yes but I think if he had seen my ad etc, the last thing he would be doing is texting to ask me to get back with him...I think he'd run a mile because he is not the most open minded of people x

I think you need to get rid of that ex and don't engage with him any more. He's bringing nothing positive to your life, just worries 

I guess I know you're right. I want to be with a man who thinks the best of me even if I am deviant really. I am only deviant because I have to be right now. I sometimes wonder when people judge etc, how the hell do they think single parents (and single women) manage financially these days! It's not easy when you have responsibilities etc.

Well doing a particular job - any job - doesn't make anybody a 'deviant'?

Whilst we're not here to discuss anybody's personal arrangements outside the work context, if you think this man is going to make your life difficult or uncomfortable whether he's cottoned on or not then I agree with Ana and I'd break all contact, especially if he's judgemental about sex work and sex workers. Deviant, ffs .

I say deviant because that is how society makes me feel...because I have to do this in the manner of some sort of spy, something I am sure others on here feel too.

I agree. I'll tell him to f off.

Yes I was wondering why on earth you are engaging with him?

Yes I was wondering why on earth you are engaging with him?

simply because I have forgotten what it feels like to have sex with someone I find attractive 

Unless he puts a ring on your finger he has no right to tell you what to do, quite frankly even if there is a ring on that finger.