Basically he opened up, was honest to you but you were not honest to him by not disclosing you used to charge for sex. So in your eyes it's ok to charge for sex but it's not ok to pay for sex? Some double morality there. Amazing things happen when people are honest to each other, you guys could have reached some sort of agreement, like if he was planning to continue paying for sex then you could continue hooking. I believe that's a pretty fair thing. On the other hand if you're not into the "sexually open marriage thingy" i could understand you bailing out. Ghosting him after a 6 month relationship just for being honest? Wow... that's pretty cruel in my opinion, probably the guy will never disclose his pay for sex habit to the new girlfriend as he will be too afraid of being dumped again (which is funny considering the ex who dumped him was an escort herself). Again... double standards.
Love, reread what I wrote: “A year later, I met this great guy (in my civvy life) but later found out that he goes to working girls and is familiar with this world. He didn’t know that I worked but he told me everything that I needed to know, to know that he would still continue. Listened to everything he had to say then ghosted him. I was upset with myself because I took a good four-six month break trying to see where our relationship would go.”
To provide some context, he told me that it was something he was addicted to and was probably never going to stop. Keep in mind, he told me this not knowing that I even know the industry exists. If you read properly, I met him outside of the industry. As someone that wanted a monogamous relationship at the time, why would I willingly get into a relationship with someone I don’t yet trust to know that part of my life, is technically involved in that part of my life, and has already said he isn’t going to stop?
Hence, we both weren’t looking for the same thing —- we had varying needs/wants. If I would’ve known prior, I wouldn’t have explored the connection as long as I had. If I wanted him as a client, that wouldn’t have been a problem. Although, I didn’t go into the relationship agreeing to expose that part of myself so I shouldn’t have to “compromise”, or essentially “meet him halfway”.
Remember, just because you work or have worked doesn’t mean you have to put yourself in situations that don’t align with what you inherently want. If I wanted a client, he would’ve been perfect, but I didn’t invite him into my space with the notion that he could be my new regular x
Topic: Retired escorts - how was your transition? (Read 6659 times)