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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Erotic flower on 30 October 2015, 07:05:20 pm
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I just recieved an email from a cousin who has told me to give up escorting that it's a shame at my age
I'm resorting to doing that still. Her daughter has defiantly told her I am working I thought she was discreet yet dosnt want me telling her mother she's a stripper.
I kindly reminded her it's none of her buisness and I do not owe her or anyone else money and not indebted to people.
She says it will cause a mental break down to which I've said financial bankrupt would have been far worse.
I've kept my home I am not mad because of escorting the damn woman can get on some one else's crusade.
I've told her to get on with her own life and not tell me what to do in future.
I feel annoyed but focused :FF
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It's really aggravating when relatives get nosey, isn't it? Personally, I'd tell her about the culprit's stripping, but then again I am petty and vindictive. ;D
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Tell her to f*** off.
Which is the only advice there is really.
I've been escorting for a solid year now. Sure I do care if my family learn. The thing is I care less and less about their judgement.
Now the attack is mostly the lamest form of defence so just BE CALM AND FIRM tell your relative to f*** off. As long as you don't show her you're scared/worried/annoyed it'll work.
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I just recieved an email from a cousin who has told me to give up escorting that it's a shame at my age
I'm resorting to doing that still. Her daughter has defiantly told her I am working I thought she was discreet yet dosnt want me telling her mother she's a stripper.
I kindly reminded her it's none of her buisness and I do not owe her or anyone else money and not indebted to people.
She says it will cause a mental break down to which I've said financial bankrupt would have been far worse.
I've kept my home I am not mad because of escorting the damn woman can get on some one else's crusade.
I've told her to get on with her own life and not tell me what to do in future.
I feel annoyed but focused :FF
The best thing to do is ignore or block these people from your life. I usually get the "you dont know what people are saying behind your back", I only respond with "quite frankly I do not care" and I go on with my day.
Ignore her and block her from your email and I think you are doing the right thing in not blabbing on the niece but it would be good to just keep her at arms length.
It can be frustrating but you have to remember people, women especially are intimidated by us or are just plain jealous with what we are able to achieve.
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I'm sure my relatives would react the same way if they knew so far I just tell them I'm making money from art commissions. But they need to understand that you can make your own choices weighing risk and reward and you can take care of yourself. I think some people also get off on the idea of knowing your secrets and trying to tell you what is best. Easier to just not talk to them.
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Deeeeeeeelete!
That sounds dramatic as hell, I'd either straight delete it or tell her she ought put that much effort into thinking through the sex life of her partner. Because, you know, he has options. ;D
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She lives in USA not UK and I feel very distant from her she visits London once a year and has been told by me some home truths vis email she dishes it out but dosnt like truth herself.
I prefer she dosnt contact me again it's no loss.
I didn't meet up with her last year because I was working and this year I can't.
She just expects everyone to drop what they are doing because she's in town .
Her daughter has serious addiction issues so I won't make matters worse there.
Better off without to be honest we were never that close.
I have wonderful non judgemental friends enough said eh ...
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She lives in USA not UK and I feel very distant from her she visits London once a year and has been told by me some home truths vis email she dishes it out but dosnt like truth herself.
I prefer she dosnt contact me again it's no loss.
I didn't meet up with her last year because I was working and this year I can't.
She just expects everyone to drop what they are doing because she's in town .
Her daughter has serious addiction issues so I won't make matters worse there.
Better off without to be honest we were never that close.
I have wonderful non judgemental friends enough said eh ...
It took me moving thousands of miles away from family to get away from the drama, I have cut ties with everyone, even though I still have cousins etc on my facebook who know who i am when they need financial assistance. But other than that I thank god that I no longer have to deal with their judgmental attitudes.
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She lives in USA not UK and I feel very distant from her she visits London once a year and has been told by me some home truths vis email she dishes it out but dosnt like truth herself.
I prefer she dosnt contact me again it's no loss.
I didn't meet up with her last year because I was working and this year I can't.
She just expects everyone to drop what they are doing because she's in town .
Her daughter has serious addiction issues so I won't make matters worse there.
Better off without to be honest we were never that close.
I have wonderful non judgemental friends enough said eh ...
It took me moving thousands of miles away from family to get away from the drama, I have cut ties with everyone, even though I still have cousins etc on my facebook who know who i am when they need financial assistance. But other than that I thank god that I no longer have to deal with their judgmental attitudes.
Thankyou xx
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When my mum found out (my sister blabbed) she asked me if I was on drugs.
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Is it not the reason that we have to keep our mouth shut and do not tell any people what we are doing? I know it's hard and I found out my best friend ( even she dosen't want tell same) is a girl I have met in agency and now we are both indie, stlil keep in touch and support each other, but what I mean is I can tell her everything, share my problems with job as I will never do with my family. Just can't imagine my mum or others will know what I do
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Most people are too narrow minded to understand.
I can't imagine ANY of mine getting what I do.... They are all in the dark ages ....! ::)
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Most people are too narrow minded to understand.
I can't imagine ANY of mine getting what I do.... They are all in the dark ages ....! ::)
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When my mum found out (my sister blabbed) she asked me if I was on drugs.
Mine would just say "oh well you always liked men and money"
Which is 1000% true.
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I got a new years card from an ex who knows what I do (wish I hadn't told him) and he wrote a rather preaching comment in them about hopes I form beautiful relationships or something in the future.
I threw it away.
Who is he to judge me when he is always falling out with people! And I never fall out with a soul unlike him.
Some people eh.
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Think you dealt with it in a mature manner its no ones business apart from yours.
I just recieved an email from a cousin who has told me to give up escorting that it's a shame at my age
I'm resorting to doing that still. Her daughter has defiantly told her I am working I thought she was discreet yet dosnt want me telling her mother she's a stripper.
I kindly reminded her it's none of her buisness and I do not owe her or anyone else money and not indebted to people.
She says it will cause a mental break down to which I've said financial bankrupt would have been far worse.
I've kept my home I am not mad because of escorting the damn woman can get on some one else's crusade.
I've told her to get on with her own life and not tell me what to do in future.
I feel annoyed but focused :FF
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Well my mum caught me out a treat. I popped round 1 night and she asked me if I wanted something to eat 'Linzi' to which I replied yes without thinking, apparently my brother told her but my family know now, they don't accept it but it makes my life easier without lying.
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Well my mum caught me out a treat. I popped round 1 night and she asked me if I wanted something to eat 'Linzi' to which I replied yes without thinking, apparently my brother told her but my family know now, they don't accept it but it makes my life easier without lying.
That was smart of her:)
I'd react to my working name just the same!
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Luckily I live far far away from any relatives so can live how I wish.
My next of kin died long ago (parents) so can make my life choices without judgement.
The only one area I have to worry about is would my son ever twig .....
Oh well cross that bridge as and when I do/hopefully don't come across it. :-X