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JellyBean

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« on: 02 March 2013, 06:16:31 pm »
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ana30

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Re: Relationship
« Reply #1 on: 02 March 2013, 06:29:06 pm »
He doesn't want a family or a relationship. He got "cold feet". Nice of him that at least he's being honest (Germans might be "cold" but from experience they're very honest people "no games" type). Time to move to new pastures Laila. I know..it sucks to have your heart broken...but hey, that's life... Sometimes people will break your hear and sometimes you'll break peoples heart. Hugs. xoxo

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Lady_Lust_XXX

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Re: Relationship
« Reply #2 on: 02 March 2013, 06:32:16 pm »
Hello Ladies
Ive been dating someone for 1 year.I met him through escorting and sort of fallen for him,he pushed wanting a relationship"
After 1 year he tells me he could not give a women a home or family nor does he want a reltionship.He does not know i do not want children but i would rather i have the option.I feel rejected and used as i told him i dont see what in this for me.
We do have a cultural difference he is German and i do find him wooden cold and very different to a Brit.
I get confused when he still mails me when i have told him this is not what i want and respond as i think maybe he has changed his mind.
Its not about sex as i dont see him much and when i have done he has to pay for his flight hotel and taking me out then he cannot climax.


Time to move on Laila and not get hurt any more than you have.

He has been honest with you so by hanging on in there you are only going to get disappointed again and again.

Beauty is nothing to do with having a pretty face.
It is about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart,
And most importantly a beautiful soul.

lady c

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Re: Relationship
« Reply #3 on: 02 March 2013, 06:41:14 pm »
seems to me that he mislead you a little to having a relationship now he is saying he can,t offer you all the things in a relationship ok so its simple really he is being honest so its the decision you have to make if there is no long term future..I hope ur ok its upsetting but you will be fine hugs..x

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Re: Relationship
« Reply #4 on: 02 March 2013, 07:40:25 pm »
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« Last Edit: 08 March 2013, 05:48:13 pm by Nobody Interesting »
Someone's been a bad girl

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« Reply #5 on: 02 March 2013, 08:17:22 pm »
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Re: Relationship
« Reply #6 on: 02 March 2013, 08:40:40 pm »
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I did tell him why he did not stay a punter,he gets upset

Because he wanted to get it for free.

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.....and does not want to hear thats how we met.

This guy has issues with paying for sex so he may have issues with you getting payed for sex. He obviously doesn't want to be reminded he needs to pay to get booty! And you're a big reminder of that.

And all this reminds me on why I don't date clients.  ???
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Re: Relationship
« Reply #7 on: 03 March 2013, 08:05:58 am »
Thank you for your lovely kind words.

I did not want a relationship when i first met him,he pushed finding out everything about the real me.I gave myself to him and to hear that he wants to see me time to time now is hurtful.I did tell him why he did not stay a punter,he gets upset and does not want to hear thats how we met.
I feel he got to know me but made sure i did not get to see the real him.Maybe it was a challenge for him to get me.
 When i meant cold there is no emotion in him at all.The most you got out of him is "I like you" no holding hands no touching nothing.....But yes i am in love with him.

Try not to expose your life at the first instance. Some men get bored easily.  His body language says it all. Let this be a lesson learned. It sounds to me he pushed for a relationship trying to get his own way. This would have put me off. Personaly I couldn't jump in to a bf/gf relationship, missing out dating now. Every man has emotions they just don't show in the same way as woman.

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Re: Relationship
« Reply #8 on: 03 March 2013, 02:12:01 pm »
Hi There

I am very sorry for your broken heart and don't want to add to your situation but think I can contribute as I've been here before.

Now that he's laid out the ground rules and explained that he has nothing to offer you, the reason he is still corresponding with you is because he still would like to enjoy the benefits of fucking you with your acceptance of his terms.

If a person loves you, they will take a bullet for you. If a relationship or a marriage is what you want, that person would walk to the ends of the earth to make you happy. If they won't, they don't love you by the correct definition of the word.

I know this because I wasted the better part of my life on men like this and its because of men like this that I'm still whoring my ass at the age of 34. I had potential, I had looks I could have been the girl living in the suburbs with a husband and 2.5 kids but I wasted myself on the wrong men.
 
My suggestion is if he makes any moves again tell him that if he's going to treat you like a whore, he should pay you like one. (Honestly, even if he does offer to pay you. If you love him, the pain of being treated like that by the person you love would be too much to bear and damage your self esteem.)

There are other men out out there who would self destruct for the benefit of walking on your arm and that is the man you should hold out for.

PS: I am half German if that makes me seem more honest or my story more credible

Claire





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Re: Relationship
« Reply #9 on: 03 March 2013, 03:26:06 pm »
I would just like to add that the sincere bfs are harder to find.

ana30

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Re: Relationship
« Reply #10 on: 03 March 2013, 03:50:56 pm »
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I would just like to add that the sincere bfs are harder to find.

Specially when you meet them as clients lol!
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« Reply #11 on: 03 March 2013, 08:25:20 pm »
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