Hi Kirsten,

Sounds like you've been lucky for the moment but if you read the "warnings & wasters" section you'll find out how LUCKY you were cause there's some very crazy people out there... In my case I have VERY strict screening procedures, in fact, I'm a total bitch on the phone so I'm surprised that people still book me (but that's another story). Despite my numerous screening procedures I've had a couple of "scares" in all these years from "Mr nice guy" who sounded wonderful. So if I were you I would definately start screening people. Maybe a swingers site is a more "safer" venue (?) but once you start putting yourself in escort directories and AW then you really need to be careful.

Kirsten do be wary and do as much background checking as you can, ask for landline numbers, etc., but, I think above all else always trust your instincts Kirsten.

If you have any doubts about a job, just don't take it, it's not worth it, despite how much money might be offered, there are plenty of other clients and jobs.

Also get a buddy so someone knows where you are and when.

It's not all doom and gloom though, it can be a very rewarding job. I've met lots of lovely, interesting men and had a real laugh with them.

 

I used to be a member of a swingers website and I sort of fell into escorting from there - a few guys on there wanted to "spoil" me and "look after" me - which usually ended up with a bonus envelope of cash and a few treats. But I'm looking on here for tips to become a proper indie possibly escort and now I just feel so stupid.

I never used to do any security checks  I would just message them on the website, check if they had any verifications and even if they didn't I'd still show up at hotel rooms and meet them in bars and go straight back to theirs. Now I think of all the trouble I could've put myself into. And also - now I just feel totally lost in the whole, doing the right thing. I've read all the information on here, so I just need to try and do those types of things, right? I'm guessing I'd be a total idiot not to do them now 

Hi Kirsten,  the past is the past or as the saying goes, yesterday is history, so get on living in today. 

Many people find themselves putting it about after different situations in their lives,  they do eventually come to their senses most of the time. 

Most guys (IMO) who think they are going to get their end away FOC will try and entice a female into their lair.  You have managed to get through that part of your life and you are through the other side.

First thing to get set up as an Indie is to set up a profile on Adultwork and take it from there.  Read everything on the main site here and then read it another two times just in case you missed something the first two times as it is possible.

When you start working for yourself always remember to do security checks although if you will be doing incalls it will be a little bit more difficult and you have to go on your 'gut' feeling.  My expression for that is, 'if you dont like the sound of him (for whatever reason), dont give him a booking', you can either say you dont do the services he asks for or that you are booked up to such and such a time and tell him to call back (in the meantime mark his number on your phone and never take his calls again).  Some guys may try to call from another number to test you out but if he uses same voice you should know this.

Once you have done all the above and you are still unsure then use either of the "search" buttons (one beside the "home" button and the other at the top right hand corner).  If you still dont find the answer then put up a thread.  What you will learn during your investigations is invaluable.

Good luck.  Onward and Upward.

Ok so you took risks but nothing happened luckily. so put it behind you.  It is the past.  We cant change the mistakes we have made but we can  ensure we dont make them again.  Its how we learn.  If we never made a mistake we would not be human.

Now though you know better and can put security procedures in place so you know you will be safe.  Thats all that matters