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It's never worked for me. There's a girl I'm friends with who I've had sex with once, but I'm not sure that counts. I think we could be great fuckbuddies (both of us are bisexual and prefer women, but are a bit attached to current boyfriends) if she wasn't so un-fucking-reliable, I barely see her! And when I do one or both of us is 'on' -_-

As I mentioned in the quote in the OP, me and my current boyfriend had a couple of months after my break up and overlapping his of swearing to everyone that it was just sex, and that we were really good mates as well. We now both admit that after the first few weeks that was blatant bullshit.

EDIT: Aside from other women, I would be very suspicious of anyone trying to get me to have sex with them in a non-work environment. Sure, maybe he thinks we have great chemistry and wants to be friends with me too, but more likely he's seen my price tag and figures he can bypass it by throwing the whole 'friendship' angle in. No ta.

Joey, my boyfriend is a straight man and he genuinely doesn't give a shit. He has been in my flat while I was working, he's been at parties where I had a go with everything with a pulse, the first time we hung out was at a party where I fucked everyone there! He knew what he was getting into with me

Everyone's different. For me, friends with benefits doesn't work because it's too much effort to keep it going, not because of jealousy.

8 years ago, I dated a boy for three months. We were a terrible couple, but when he broke up with me, we remained friends, and we continued fucking for a year or so after that. At a certain point in our relationship, he decided that we shouldn't have sex anymore. Eight years down the line, he is now my best friend in the whole world.

My fb and I became a couple after about 6 months, this lasted for 18 months some of which was great other bad, then we broke up for 2 months and became friends again for 3 weeks and are back to being fbs and we are both seem happy about the arrangement.

Truth is we get on great, we have fantastic sex, but neither of us is prepared to give up our freedom and the time needed to form a proper relationship and when we got together we were expecting too much from each other, which put a tremendous amount of strain on us.

Now we know not to expect more from each other than good mates would, apart from occasional hot sex.

Perfect!

Good thread, Victoria, gives me a chance to whine.

6-7 years ago I had this (female) friend, we were brilliant together, you know, the sort of friendship when you finish each other's sentences and always know exactly how the other one is feeling. Unfortunately, she was after a girl who wasn't even into women but kept stringing my friend along with false promises. After a couple of years I did manage to seduce her (my friend) at last but she soon decided that she'd save herself for her evil idol and we became friends again - for half a year or so till she left the country to follow her evil idol. The last I heard of her, they did get together for a short while and then she was dumped (of course!).

After that I found another buddy - through work. Sex was great, we would even throw in an occasional client (bad idea. Men think their ultimate fantasy is girl on girl, but when they get it for real and see that no one in bed is interested in them, they get pissed off) but after a while I broke off the friendship - sex had nothing to do with it, I'd still have it any day with her - but as a friend she was unreliable beyond belief.

So I'm genuinely jealous of those for whom it does work out.