Author Topic: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges (Read 5494 times)

Guiltypleasure · « **Reply #15 on:** 25 August 2017, 10:51:27 am »

Quote from: Shwiftysquancher91 on 24 August 2017, 07:27:59 pm

Personally I've always been happier not having regulars as sometimes they get too comfortable or confess their undying love for you. Which is somewhat awkward. I had a guy who I hadn't even seen yet and kept saying he was going to be a regular and he proceeded to ask me 'so what's the damage?' I laughed a little and told him my rates and he said 'ah ok fair enough, it's my first time. next time it will be lower because I'll be regular'

Goodbye mate -click-

I've had this and I just remind them I am fulfilling a fantasy without the ties ( sometimes I talk about someone else/ 3rd person) it's a business and your rates are non negotiable .

That you can keep him as a full paying reg

If you wanted to that is .

Kendall · « **Reply #16 on:** 25 August 2017, 01:14:22 pm »

This is why I hate 'regular' regulars, my paintence is paper thin for anyone who trying to cross boundaries physically or emotionally which is what 90% of them have ended up doing at some point.

Gracious · « **Reply #17 on:** 25 August 2017, 01:35:35 pm »

Quote from: Guiltypleasure on 25 August 2017, 10:47:04 am

Also I have guys saying cancel your other bookings

I get this as well, even from guys Ive never seen before so Id say "sure, Id be happy to cancel my booking and see you for double my fee for the inconvenience and money I will loose": they quickly renege and say they will be back in touch soon loooooooool

Schwiftysquancher91 · « **Reply #18 on:** 25 August 2017, 01:46:23 pm »

Quote from: Guiltypleasure on 25 August 2017, 10:51:27 am

I've had this and I just remind them I am fulfilling a fantasy without the ties ( sometimes I talk about someone else/ 3rd person) it's a business and your rates are non negotiable .

That you can keep him as a full paying reg
If you wanted to that is .

If they are attempting to take advantage before I've even seen the I'd rather not, I feel like I'm just encouraging them to start asking for other I wouldn't usually do..

Well when I start doing incalls I might consider swaying for potential regulars and more forgiving but for now I've got to deal with non regulars trying taking mick ha ha >.<

RKitten · « **Reply #19 on:** 25 August 2017, 02:00:45 pm »

I had a couple of regs I had to cut off, both for the exact time reason. Time scamming. I'm pretty chilled about potentially running over, but there comes a limit. One wanted evenings and overnights for the cost of a couple of hours, the other wanted 2 or 3 hours for the cost of half an hour.

The latter really peeved me off, pressing for constant messaging, whining how he could only afford to see me once a week but not if I charged him the full rate for the time. Not my problem. Eventually I snapped and told him he wasn't welcome anymore.

I don't mind running long if we're just chatting and hanging, but not if you expect me to keep shagging. And especially not when you're asking for time during the work day, I have a day job, don't fuck with it.

Gracious · « **Reply #20 on:** 25 August 2017, 02:12:08 pm »

Quote from: RKitten on 25 August 2017, 02:00:45 pm

I don't mind running long if we're just chatting and hanging, but not if you expect me to keep shagging.

I also dont mind running over if we are having a good time/chat (& I dont have another booking directly after) but what really pisses me off is when they feel that they deserve to get extra time because they spend regularly on us. They choose to spend all that money on us, we dont force them to - same way that it should be our choice to give them overtime or not, they shouldnt force us to!!

Mirror · « **Reply #21 on:** 25 August 2017, 02:38:58 pm »

Quote from: Mya888 on 24 August 2017, 03:25:51 pm

Just a rant really as I'm getting really annoyed with men, one particular client today actually
Has been a regular for a while now, recently started asking me if I'd go away to Paris for the weekend with him. Escorting is not my full time job and I've got other stuff going on so I knew I wouldn't go and tried to explain it to him. He kept on asking though so I just kept on saying, I will see, can't promise anything etc..
Last week I cancelled on him as I was sick and today he asked if he could see me giving 1 hr notice, I said no as I'm all booked up. Then he asked about the holiday next week, I said not going to happen, as first of all I didn't want to go, second of all I'm going to be away then anyways, so told him the 2nd reason.
Now he keeps on messaging me, saying I should cancel one of my appointments today so he can see me, especially that I won't go away with him.
Really pisses me off when someone thinks they have the right to tell me what to do, and expect me to agree to what they want like wtf who do they think they are?
Sorry for the moan, I'm usually really patient and understanding but this annoys me soo much.
Anyone else has negative experiences with regular clients?

There's no need to explain yourself to him, just say 'I don't want to go'.

I've had just as many problems with newbies as I have with regulars, in fact the only reason I've had problems with regulars is because I didn't clamp down sooner. This week I've had a couple of clients I've seen once try to push boundaries with regards to a second booking, this is really disappointing and a huge warning sign. One has already had the riot act read to him regards his behaviour in his first booking, he also claims to really like me so why piss me off trying to find the most extreme outfit I will wear?The other thinks he can phone out of hours and just drop in (despite my extremely limited availability) when he likes.

Guiltypleasure · « **Reply #22 on:** 25 August 2017, 03:01:12 pm »

I just really don't actually understand it ! I've had one guy really shocked after calling tons of times and I've said I'm booked , in the end he said " what you see more than one a day "?

I said " what do you think " ? He said " Bloody hell "

Think they think we're alone most of the time !!! Which has been the bloody case this week !

SimplySinful · « **Reply #23 on:** 25 August 2017, 03:01:50 pm »

Quote from: Gracious on 25 August 2017, 02:12:08 pm

I also dont mind running over if we are having a good time/chat (& I dont have another booking directly after) but what really pisses me off is when they feel that they deserve to get extra time because they spend regularly on us. They choose to spend all that money on us, we dont force them to - same way that it should be our choice to give them overtime or not, they shouldnt force us to!!

Totally this. It's our call not theirs.

I keep my regs on a tight rein, meaning I am always on the lookout for any kind of boundary pushing so it gets nipped in the bud. If that's not enough then I'm upfront with them. If even that isn't enough well then they don't get to be my regulars anymore.

Justine · « **Reply #24 on:** 25 August 2017, 03:39:39 pm »

I made a list last night of all the regs who I have got rid of over the last year or so. It is quite a long list because I found one by one they would do or say something which was out of order. Cancelling last minute more than once, texting at the very moment they were due to arrive and telling me they couldn't make it. Many more reasons but all made me think they assumed it was only me so I would see them whatever happens. They were so wrong.

Having denied myself a lot of money from these men as most of them were as regular as fortnightly/3 weekly I still felt and feel so much better that I don't need to see them again but more to the point they have realised they can not mess me around in any way at all.

There are NO special privileges meted out to any client as far as I am concerned. I treat them all exactly the same and if they start playing games they are out.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #25 on:** 25 August 2017, 06:04:51 pm »

I have a very useful term for these men.

These are HIGH MAINTENANCE men/punters. Being "High maintenance" is often used for women by men for a variety of reasons. (this is not about men vs women, just in case some people might think ). There are good guys. I agree with Justine. I'm expecting one on Sunday. I need to be very firm on him. $:-\$

sweetmilf · « **Reply #26 on:** 25 August 2017, 06:09:25 pm »

Quote from: RKitten on 25 August 2017, 02:00:45 pm

I don't mind running long if we're just chatting and hanging, but not if you expect me to keep shagging.

Lately, I realised that time is time whether you are chatting or shagging.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #27 on:** 25 August 2017, 06:24:57 pm »

Quote from: Guiltypleasure on 25 August 2017, 10:47:04 am

I think you may of given the wrong couple of reasons because if I read them I'd assume you might go if you hadn't got things to do

Also I have guys saying cancel your other bookings ....I smile and say "well that's a bit mean , how would you like it if you were looking forward to seeing me and I cancelled because someone wanted the whole afternoon or offered me more cash "

They usually say "fair enough" I also would say " I can't go because I like my regulars and some really enjoy coming to see me , although it's obviously my business that I'm running , I can't just go away it would cost a crazy amount in losses "

That should sort nicely xx

1+ Couldn't have put it better myself *taking notes*

I think sometimes many of us do vent or complain about the behavior of some of our clients on saafe (i.e. us, being partly to blame?) as if we are "the VICTIM" of their inconsiderate behaviour.

However, it might be worth thinking about the possibility that we could be/could have been inadvertently sending some wrong signal(s) to these guys by not very clear about what's ok and what isn't to begin with e.g. communication issues (potentially, for the fear of losing his business or his repeat business = money). Men are generally fairly straightforward if you tell them yes or no upfront. They won't keep on going at it. When the answer is not so clear, they get confused and end up doing things you don't like (repeatedly pestering etc). They are not that complicated. Sometimes, but not as complicated as women can be.

SimplySinful · « **Reply #28 on:** 25 August 2017, 07:24:25 pm »

Oh dear I've just had to set a regular straight just today. Too much contact between bookings.

I am the first wg this chap has seen and also he is still recovering from the loss of his partner. So I have been gentle but firm with him and thought he understood that this is a client/escort relationship and that's it.

However slowly there's been more contact between bookings, now I don't mind the odd email or text and a complicating factor is there's a spell of time he won't see me since I'm away from my home area and he will have a spell in hospital.

As I said the emails are slowly creeping up, last straw was an email today asking if I was ok, which I didn't answer, then this evening he tried to call me and left a VM, sounding slightly annoyed I hadn't responded to the email.

So I've just emailed him and firmly but nicely spelled it out to him, which wasn't a pleasant task but had to be done.

Alison381 · « **Reply #29 on:** 25 August 2017, 08:52:54 pm »

One of my regulars has just asked for a last minute booking (Which I dont do) for half my rate because its him.... Yeah ok then mate

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Author Topic: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges (Read 5494 times)

Guiltypleasure

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