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Mya888

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Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« on: 24 August 2017, 03:25:51 pm »
Just a rant really as I'm getting really annoyed with men, one particular client today actually  :FF
Has been a regular for a while now, recently started asking me if I'd go away to Paris for the weekend with him. Escorting is not my full time job and I've got other stuff going on so I knew I wouldn't go and tried to explain it to him. He kept on asking though so I just kept on saying, I will see, can't promise anything etc..
Last week I cancelled on him as I was sick and today he asked if he could see me giving 1 hr notice, I said no as I'm all booked up. Then he asked about the holiday next week, I said not going to happen, as first of all I didn't want to go, second of all I'm going to be away then anyways, so told him the 2nd reason.
Now he keeps on messaging me, saying I should cancel one of my appointments today so he can see me, especially that I won't go away with him.   :FF
Really pisses me off when someone thinks they have the right to tell me what to do, and expect me to agree to what they want like wtf who do they think they are?
Sorry for the moan, I'm usually really patient and understanding but this annoys me soo much.
Anyone else has negative experiences with regular clients?

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #1 on: 24 August 2017, 03:48:04 pm »
some they do it!
yes, take confidence and start to ask more!
i cut off them if it is too much!

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #2 on: 24 August 2017, 03:50:25 pm »
some they do it!
yes, take confidence and start to ask more!
i cut off them if it is too much! remember them that it is a business for you and you have other meeting in schedule.

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #3 on: 24 August 2017, 03:54:17 pm »
Yeah I had something recently too in that a regular offered to take me on holiday all expenses paid but not pay me. I created a post about it.
If I have regulars who I like and enjoy spending time with I don't mind if the time goes over or if i really like them may give discount or do special deals for them.
The ones that annoy me are the boundary pushers who say seeing as now I'm a trusted regular can we do this or that which I don't do. Or try to get personal info about me.

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #4 on: 24 August 2017, 04:35:48 pm »
Too many to mention!

I love being a touring escort now and whilst I have returning clients, which is great, they can't be regular because I'm all over the place.

I had so much trouble from regs expecting preferential treatment I wouldn't be able to cope with with being in one place. I told several to get lost for similar things to what you've mentioned and worse!

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #5 on: 24 August 2017, 04:42:35 pm »
Mentally they are soooo tiring!
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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #6 on: 24 August 2017, 06:54:54 pm »
I thought I liked having regular clients but some of them really start to push the boundaries so it's time to say bye bye
And then it's just proves to me it was the right decision when they can't stay away and constantly try to get in touch.

Don't know if I'm doing something wrong or is it a common thing: idiots who don't understand no, and keep on trying anyway.

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #7 on: 24 August 2017, 07:27:59 pm »
Personally I've always been happier not having regulars as sometimes they get too comfortable or confess their undying love for you. Which is somewhat awkward. I had a guy who I hadn't even seen yet and kept saying he was going to be a regular and he proceeded to ask me 'so what's the damage?' I laughed a little and told him my rates and he said 'ah ok fair enough, it's my first time. next time it will be lower because I'll be regular'

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #8 on: 24 August 2017, 07:57:58 pm »
I love my regulars as they make this job bearable. Non of them push boundaries, if we are having a chat or a cup of coffee (at my discretion) we might overrun by 10-15 minutes but that's at my discretion and its non sexual, as I only see a couple of punters a day its no big deal, I enjoy it.
Many of them have been coming for years.

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #9 on: 24 August 2017, 08:07:00 pm »
Sometimes I feel like saying "why would I want to go to the pub with you or go out for lunch or whatever, we would never meet or mix in civvie life!". So many guys forget we have our own personal lives and commitments that don't revolve around them. I understand when they are not juggling as many people as we do but some are plain deluded.

As for going on holiday with a client, I can't think of one reg(even the ones I really get on with) that I could go away with for a few days without us both hating each other by the end of it! They only see me for an hour or two at any time! Some find it hard to understand that despite being regular, they really don't know ME.

I have had to distance myself from regulars in the past due to their persistent requests to get me out for unpaid lunch/drinks or even trying to over stay time repeatedly. It's a real shame but they do it to themselves!



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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #10 on: 24 August 2017, 08:19:29 pm »
I love most of my regs but got rid of one this week who drives me nuts.

He always wants me to 'want' him. so his booking text goes "do you want me?" or "do you want my cock".
played that game for a couple of years now and the "I miss you" messages inbetween bookings.
He's married and see's loads of WG's - used to see my friend at least once a week.
So his visits to me have decreased just cause I'm not enthusiastic about pretending I'm his girlfriend or something and massaging his ego.
This week he tells me how skint he is cause his cooker and washing machine broke (like I give a shit!) and and IOU would be great! I politely said that due to my 3 week holiday to canada in a fortnight I couldn't do that.
Then he sends the ""I want you" meme to which I respond with the bag of cash icon!
Then he says "Tuesday ok? I have 100 if that's alright with you?"

I lost it!

"Nah lets not eh. Tbh I'm fed up of having to make out I'm really into you and I think you're really rude for asking for credit and a discount. I charge ?130ph and you only pay my old rate (120) anyway. Does your work ask you to work for less than your usual pay? You seem to think this is a hobby. That I do it for fun. I don't. I do it for the money. So lets just say goodbye"

He whined that he'd had an expensive month and he'd pay me up next time but goodbye.

Then today I get an e-mail wishing me a good holiday.

Grrrrrr rant over. I'm not going to have him back. At all. Ever!
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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #11 on: 24 August 2017, 09:36:33 pm »
I think its a common  had so many think they deserve the special treatment,  had to block a few and have given several warnings about their expectations. One recently cant access the cash so freely as got married and desperate to see me and offered 20 quid until he gets it. Have told him not my problem.  Regulars turning bad..

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #12 on: 24 August 2017, 11:26:47 pm »
I love my regulars as they make this job bearable. Non of them push boundaries, if we are having a chat or a cup of coffee (at my discretion) we might overrun by 10-15 minutes but that's at my discretion and its non sexual, as I only see a couple of punters a day its no big deal, I enjoy it.
Many of them have been coming for years.

I agree, ive got quite a few regular clients like that, they're lovely, and it's so nice to have an interesting chat during the booking.
Seems like some guys have got some psychological issues,  when they start getting attached and literally anything you say doesnt matter anymore. I just wish I could recognise that type before the crazy starts!

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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #13 on: 25 August 2017, 08:41:54 am »
Anyone else has negative experiences with regular clients?

Most of my neg experiences have been with regs  :FF

One physically assaulted me, another kept trying to push boundaries (telling me he loves me, would do anything for me, wanting all of my attention outside of a meet, expecting free overtime "because I give you so much money"), another one made multiple bookings for an hour, would cum twice in 30 mins then wanted to leave 1/2way demanding a partial refund.... I could go on but Im sure you get the gist.

Its a tricky one because on one hand they are bringing in regular money & are reliable but on the other hand, the more they see you the more they start to feel entitled and deserve special privileges. Generally speaking, I favour fresh D over reg D. I cant stop rebookings but Ive noticed that Im having to be much tougher with regs and more often then not I end up blocking them, or we end up arguing and I put them off from contacting me again.

My advise would be just to be a bit more firm with him. You might even want to block him temporality to make him realise that you are boss, not him. I did this with one of my regs (the one who kept trying to push boundaries) - he wasnt heeding my instructions and on one occasion he called my phone over 10 times in the space of 30 mins so I laid conditions down by restricting the duration of time we met and how often we would meet. I then ended up blocking him temporarily for 2 weeks. It was a brave move on my part but thats the choice that I made and I guess deep down, I didnt care if he stopped seeing me because the stress wasnt worth it. I also forced him to start seeing other girls because I was the only girl he was seeing & he started developing EAS. Surprisingly, we are at a much better place now but you need to think about all your options and what actions are needed to help your situation.
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Re: Regulars who think they deserve special privileges
« Reply #14 on: 25 August 2017, 10:47:04 am »
Just a rant really as I'm getting really annoyed with men, one particular client today actually  :FF
Has been a regular for a while now, recently started asking me if I'd go away to Paris for the weekend with him. Escorting is not my full time job and I've got other stuff going on so I knew I wouldn't go and tried to explain it to him. He kept on asking though so I just kept on saying, I will see, can't promise anything etc..
Last week I cancelled on him as I was sick and today he asked if he could see me giving 1 hr notice, I said no as I'm all booked up. Then he asked about the holiday next week, I said not going to happen, as first of all I didn't want to go, second of all I'm going to be away then anyways, so told him the 2nd reason.
Now he keeps on messaging me, saying I should cancel one of my appointments today so he can see me, especially that I won't go away with him.   :FF
Really pisses me off when someone thinks they have the right to tell me what to do, and expect me to agree to what they want like wtf who do they think they are?
Sorry for the moan, I'm usually really patient and understanding but this annoys me soo much.
Anyone else has negative experiences with regular clients?


I think you may of given the wrong couple of reasons because if I read them I'd assume you might go if you hadn't got things to do  ;D

Also I have guys saying cancel your other bookings ....I smile and say "well that's a bit mean , how would you like it if you were looking forward to seeing me and I cancelled because someone wanted the whole afternoon or offered me more cash " ???

They usually say "fair enough" I also would say " I can't go because I like my regulars and some really enjoy coming to see me , although it's obviously my business that I'm running , I can't just go away it would cost a crazy amount  in losses "


That should sort nicely xx