I had a reg whose been pushing for more and more stuff at the same rate. Ive put my rate up recently for extras like anal play strap on etc. He said can he still get a discount lower rate. I said no. Hes pissed me off cos hes gradually asking for more stuff on each booking so ive upped my rates and he can take it or leave it. 😘

1+  Couldn't have put it better myself *taking notes*

I think sometimes many of us do vent or complain about the behavior of some of our clients on saafe (i.e. us, being partly to blame?) as if we are "the VICTIM" of their inconsiderate behaviour. 

However, it might be worth thinking about the possibility that we could be/could have been inadvertently sending some wrong signal(s) to these guys by not very clear about what's ok and what isn't to begin with e.g. communication issues (potentially, for the fear of losing his business or his repeat business = money).  Men are generally fairly straightforward if you tell them yes or no upfront.  They won't keep on going at it.  When the answer is not so clear, they get confused and end up doing things you don't like (repeatedly pestering etc).  They are not that complicated.  Sometimes, but not as complicated as women can be.   

i agree in some way!
with some even you are clear about what is ok or not...they still dreaming and asking more!
i think that it is natural for human being the desire to be special/unique! punters like it!

This is what I mean about spotting the signs early, I have plenty of regulars who would never dream of pushing boundaries. The majority of clients I have had problems with have been problematic from the start, and many newbie clients have not gone on to be regulars because of their boundary pushing behaviour. I give the benefit of the doubt for the first booking if after that they are out of order then I will be very plain about what I will and won't accept.

I know there are plenty of perfectly pleasant, absolutely amazing clients, and those are the ones I'm interested in accepting bookings from. Anyone difficult only gets in the way.

I agree, it's better to set ground rules or you end up frustrating yourself and leading on clients thinking it's ok because you said it was. The extra money you get there and then could end up costing you later down the line when they ask for discounts and you feel obliged because you did something similar before with them or someone else. Honesty is the best policy. As much as we are in the escorting business I'd rather not create stress for myself because this -is- a business, my business as I am my own boss and the aim at the end of the day is to make money.

I'm going to start asking Starbucks to give me my daily coffee for ?1 less because I get one every day.

Doesn't simply work like that. If they have it advertised where they have a loyalty scheme you can do it like that but if not you can't just ask the cashier for an off the books discount.

The same system is in place for me.

i agree in some way!
with some even you are clear about what is ok or not...they still dreaming and asking more!
i think that it is natural for human being the desire to be special/unique! punters like it!

I think if you are accepting and ok about it, there is no problem.  It's a different type of situation xx

what i noticed that they are buying present as gift! then expect some times for `free`. ahahhhh i prefer cash than things. 
last time one bring a lunch with my fave food...and he asked if we can count time after lunch!...then invite me at theatre with lunch so 4hrs social...told me do not worry i pay for lunch and theatre! ahah really? then other 4hrs in private.
of course he won t pay social time...because is a gift! LOOOOOOOL


i replied that i get payed for social/private time....
he s starting to be one of special privileges club!

 

I also dont mind running over if we are having a good time/chat (& I dont have another booking directly after) but what really pisses me off is when they feel that they deserve to get extra time because they spend regularly on us. They choose to spend all that money on us, we dont force them to - same way that it should be our choice to give them overtime or not, they shouldnt force us to!!

This! Exactly this. Most of my regs are around my age, so we shoot the shit about movies, tv shows, gym workouts, gigs, food. It even led to some ingenious code for booking.

But they always apologise when they see the time, the older ones rarely do and always want to talk about sex or pry into my personal life.

They pay for x time, anything further is at my discretion.

pretty sure this reg is upset with me now, but I had to reinforce the message, why then am I feeling so bad....

Oh dear I've just had to set a regular straight just today.  Too much contact between bookings.

I am the first wg this chap has seen and also he is still recovering from the loss of his partner. So I have been gentle but firm with him and thought he understood that this is a client/escort relationship and that's it.

However slowly there's been more contact between bookings, now I don't mind the odd email or text and a complicating factor is there's a spell of time he won't see me since I'm away from my home area and he will have a spell in hospital.

As I said the emails are slowly creeping up, last straw was an email today asking if I was ok, which I didn't answer, then this evening he tried to call me and left a VM, sounding slightly annoyed I hadn't responded to the email.

So I've just emailed him and firmly but nicely spelled it out to him, which wasn't a pleasant task but had to be done.

I actually do have a loyalty card scheme - five bookings and sixth one is free! Never hurts to give a bit back...