I went through a phase of very openly telling friends about what I do because I was struggling so much with the double life and feelings of isolation and lack of connection that I was experiencing. I guess I was craving acceptance.

Nobody acted horrified, though I'm aware that things were said behind my back but the result that did come as more of a surprise was how many people expected me to set them up in business and although I did happily help a couple of friends, I rapidly realised that they expected me to do everything for them, as though they were entitled to a slice of all of the "money" they were convinced that I was making.

I had a string of people who seemed to latch on to me and time after time it became apparent that their motivation was to see what they could get from me.

Both from males and females, I made myself a bit of a target by sharing what I do openly. I found that people could get very jealous as they perceive that WG's are earning tonnes of money without having to "work" for it.

I've since relocated and have decided to keep it to myself in this new area. I'm past the stage of feeling that anyone has a right to know my business. A lesson learnt.

I've also made this mistake in the past. I was too open about my life, and people used it against me. They also expected me to pay for alot of stuff, which frustrated me. I had one friend who was behind on her payments for our holiday, and she kept asking me to cover it because I have 'tonnes of money.' I don't think I've ever had tonnes of money...

Yes men rarely see that we are running this as a legitimate business.  They think it is something we merely dabble in and we want sex 24/7.

Yep I've been trying to exit for the past 3 years and it's hard especially when you don't have a network of sound people you can relate to, it's so isolating I'm glad I am on this forum now, I know for the next 6 weeks in lockdown I will be on it quite a lot ! Onwards and upwards though x

I've also made this mistake in the past. I was too open about my life, and people used it against me. They also expected me to pay for alot of stuff, which frustrated me. I had one friend who was behind on her payments for our holiday, and she kept asking me to cover it because I have 'tonnes of money.' I don't think I've ever had tonnes of money...

I’ve gotten this as well & I believe I’ve written about it. A 10 year friendship ended over this job ~ thats the extremely abridged version, but I was making $$, she didn’t have any, seemed to think she should have some of mine😳 & when I refused, proceeded to out me on FaceBook. Thanks Karen.

Emotional blackmail, man.

I also look at every single guy & think, I bet you see SWs. Anyone who talks about how great their BF is? I’m thinking yeah, he probably ain’t as great as you think he is. I’ve learned it’s impossible to keep track of where your guy is all the time. They will find a way to see us, & they will find a way to get around any set up the GF/wife may’ve set up.

Unfortunately bc of this job I’ll never trust a man. Ever. I’ll just tell him to go ahead & lie to me🤷🏼‍♀️. I know you’re going to anyway, so just do it. What I WON’T tell them? Is how amazingly good this job has made me at reading body language & cues. I’ll find OUT your lies my friend. Then I’ll pounce😈.

Not to mention the exposure to drugs and alcohol, that are all fine taken recreationally in your own time, although dangerous if you have an addictive personality, but not the ideal potential working hazzard that comes up.

I don't see the link - I've been a sex worker for a fairly long time and I don't take drugs or drink alcohol, nor am I exposed to either while I'm working (or at least only very rarely)? I suspect it's more to do with the company you keep.

I don't see the link - I've been a sex worker for a fairly long time and I don't take drugs or drink alcohol, nor am I exposed to either while I'm working (or at least only very rarely)? I suspect it's more to do with the company you keep.

It certainly depends on the company you keep, the safety in numbers can help as far as that goes but you can end up perusing with those who use drugs to cope with demand or just use it recreationally just because.

Having others around when you are working can almost become addictive as I know work can be lonely for a lot and being able to talk to others really helps with motivation and to keep you going but you can get dragged into things if you are not strong of mind. I like to network on occasion but I think now I just to just stick to me myself and I when it comes to work. less drama, more focus, more money.

Totally with you on this one.
And on the career bit, it's good to have options
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That's the only thing that gets to me and I wish we could organise some group or something to deal with this. So many WGs seem to have this problem and I only know a few working girls but they, like me, have basically no friends here (in the city they work).

I've always been a social butterfly and need to have a group of friends around me cause I enjoy close connections with people, but here in London I haven't done that because of they job. Why? I hate lying to friends. I had some friends and told them the truth and they stopped talking to me. Also I work weird hours so I find it hard to say "lets meet at 10" then get a call for 10 for three hours and have to give up all that money for a coffee with a mate. I find I've become closed when I meet people, always worrying they'll find out and so I get very quiet and hate talking about myself....

So, what to do? I'm positive and have plans to change this reality and get out there and make some great friends. I've no doubt I'll be successful but yes, in any other job it's not an effort to make friends but when you're a prossie you really have to work hard, force yourself to get out there and make strong, meaningful connections.

I also agree with the impact on romantic relationships. My relationship was wonderful but couldn't continue because of my job (he was fine with it but as he fell in love with me he could no longer accept my job). I'm happy to be single while I work, but one day I'm going to want to have a partner again...

Career

I have a degree and my passions lie in another field and I want to build my career in that. But again, it's hard to walk away from this money and this "zero effort" job. What of the future? Where do you want to be in five years time? I think if you do not have a "goal" for the money you're earning and for your future, then you can easily become a prostitute and nothing else i.e that is your entire identity and you've nothing else, no ambitions, no plans for the future but instead living day by day, client by client...

xx
p.s i love my job, but if we're looking for negative stuff, there it is.
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