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Kay

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #105 on: 11 September 2018, 11:11:52 am »
Surely if you're paying tax there won't be a gap in your CV ? I've said I'm a massage therapist on my tax returns

I think it's more in terms of how it looks in your career history. If you did, say, a degree in chemistry then spent 2-3 years whoring before applying to work in a lab, 'massage therapist' might look a little odd on your CV...
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #106 on: 11 September 2018, 12:32:29 pm »
I think it's more in terms of how it looks in your career history. If you did, say, a degree in chemistry then spent 2-3 years whoring before applying to work in a lab, 'massage therapist' might look a little odd on your CV...

I don't think it's too odd to have an unskilled job in there somewhere (although I don't have any qualifications as such, so mine would pretty much all be like that ;D) and lots of people would understand the need to amass some cash through part time work and have a bit of a break from the hard going stuff? Mine would say 'sex worker' :).

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #107 on: 15 September 2018, 05:10:09 pm »
I think it's more in terms of how it looks in your career history. If you did, say, a degree in chemistry then spent 2-3 years whoring before applying to work in a lab, 'massage therapist' might look a little odd on your CV...

I don't think thats true. I did an economics degree, then did a counselling night course. I found a lot of the people on the night course did random degrees then genuinely did massage therapy as a job (not the sexual kind) then wanted to be a counsellor. I think the fact I'm earning so much money, might make it obvious I'm in the sex work business though haha but I won't have a gap as I'm paying tax.

I love 'whoring' and don't really want to do anything else, so much money for so much fun! If I change my mind as I get older I think I'll be find job wise :) got a degree as back up and I could just do the counselling thing as I did plan before. 

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #108 on: 17 November 2018, 01:18:36 am »
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #109 on: 29 November 2018, 11:46:05 am »
As an ex-escort, I feel in a better position to post here having seen both sides. There are still times I feel tempted to be honest I cannot be bothered with all of what escorting involves.

Having to rush around for bookings, hunger pangs, treated like a piece of meat, having to be polite remaining professional in case loss of business, feeling like waiting on tap, sometimes a great turn out others a complete waste of time, exploring not valued or appreciated by clients with the odd few who do treat with respect.

A high % of timewaster upsetting phone calls.  Paranoia looking through the peephole of the front door and windows, being on edge when clients are due thinking is he going to play up, even good clients can turn sour, always having to be on your guard, fed up of being judged but know it comes part and parcel with escorting, socialising can be affected with family and friends feeling isolated leading to depression.

All adverse events can lead to feeling not right be it annoying, sad, crying or anger is thinking something like F him to feel better.

For me escorting was a dark world.

I went into escorting blind and feel blessed having the opportunity to put it right this time around. I look forward to the year milestone of having given escorting up. Yes, the money was great, and the sacrifice was huge for the money.
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #110 on: 05 December 2018, 10:17:10 pm »
Because you will soon see most men as dumb so dumb it is a little or a lot frightening.
The morons that ring or wont ring even when you have on your ads no texts or then text and ask what town you are in even though you have told them the site and they said they saw it and read it.
Then they ask how much, what do you do what will we do etc.
Or say they are on their way do not arrive then next and on and on and on the level of stupidity is mind numbing I may never be able to look a man in the face again without seeing STUPID across his forehead

Bless the non messers that come and enjoy as we should BLess them

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #111 on: 26 December 2018, 03:26:28 pm »
Most I can deal with (except the amount of blokes that don't know how to wipe their ass!!) but 1 thing that will always stick with me..... 95% of my clientele are either married, got girlfriends/fiancées or have baby on the way. How could I ever trust a man to be faithful to me? It has certainly destroyed my trust!

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #112 on: 28 December 2018, 06:57:10 pm »
Most I can deal with (except the amount of blokes that don't know how to wipe their ass!!) but 1 thing that will always stick with me..... 95% of my clientele are either married, got girlfriends/fiancées or have baby on the way. How could I ever trust a man to be faithful to me? It has certainly destroyed my trust!

These aren't all men, and they aren't all men who are in relationships.

I used to think all clients were in relationships, only when I started paying attention did I realise some (quite a few) are single. Also quite a lot of men don't pay for sex, and women are unfaithful too.

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #113 on: 30 December 2018, 09:21:28 am »
The no shows and timewasters are annoying.  The social stigma can mean we do not feel comfortable outing ourselves to friends and family.  The difficulty in achieving a relationship (as most men won't accept our job, although luckily I do not crave a relationship whatsoever so that is fine by me).  The isolation of the job as we spend a great deal of time on our own.  The secret nature of it can feel like joining the dark side so to speak.

The variable income and the fact that Brexit is making the job temporarily harder to earn enough income in are also two further disadvantages.

Econimic trends are always up and down however and these phases do pass but are still stressful.

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #114 on: 15 January 2019, 04:02:25 am »
I also sometimes miss having colleagues to talk to.  I know we can communicate on here but sometimes it is good to have people in the actual physical form even though we can arrange to meet fellow escorts from off this site it isn't always enough human interaction.  Face to face contact can be good.  I still wouldn't change the job though.  Too many advantages.

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #115 on: 22 January 2019, 11:48:07 pm »
These aren't all men, and they aren't all men who are in relationships.

I used to think all clients were in relationships, only when I started paying attention did I realise some (quite a few) are single. Also quite a lot of men don't pay for sex, and women are unfaithful too.

I notice now out of escorting how much it turned my stomach becoming a secret feminist. The men who don't book escorts are out of the picture. I used to think that 99% are no good with 1% good, now what were my chances with that?. Now I deal with many sain people on the other side.
Escorting can be a living nightmare.

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #116 on: 20 February 2019, 04:06:31 pm »
It really annoys me escorting has so much stigma people wouldn’t mind if you are a shelf stacker in Asda but if they find out you’re an escort then think you must be a bad person.
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #117 on: 18 March 2019, 04:30:30 pm »
Yes.



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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #118 on: 03 August 2019, 04:45:15 pm »
Another reason is if you happen to still live with your mum. Hiding escorting is more difficult than say hiding working in a massage parlour because at least in a parlour the times you're out are consistent. It's harder to cover up coming and going on an odd schedule.

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #119 on: 28 September 2019, 11:43:38 am »
It's hard work - physically and mentally
Putting up with men who are selfish, spoilt, critical, self-entitled and needy is emotionally draining
Putting up with men who always expect you to be perfect but don't care much about their own hygiene or physical appearance is annoying.
Having constant back ache and neck ache and always feeling exhausted isn't much fun either.