See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

Author Topic: Reasons not to be an escort  (Read 89131 times)

evabraun

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 50
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #45 on: 07 October 2013, 04:28:01 pm »
having sex with ugly people can be tough, even you get used to it with the time
poor social life,
no career prospects.

curvy_girl

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #46 on: 10 November 2013, 02:31:41 pm »
You have to be so careful and you have some very clever and deceitful people out there who want to take you for a mug. You need to try and follow your gut as well as you can and read up about people and the kinds of scams they are running.

as well as people wanting to haggle with you and get freebies and free phone sex off you obsessive guys ect. (everyone like that is marked as 'idiot' on my phone so I treat them all the same with a big fat IGNORE lol)

If you are not a particular strong person this job can tear you up in a lot of ways. You can turn a bit cold and stop trusting people.

I know this is a page is to down trod escorting a bit but I have to disagree with a few things said on here! But its all personal opinion and some from personal experience so I can't judge.

Lois01827

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #47 on: 21 November 2015, 01:59:00 am »
For me personally, the positives are massive, but if I had to put the annoyances, they'd include:

Text tennis wankers who just take up my time; although I now just cut off
Shagging ugly blokes that you wouldn't look twice at
Being frantically licked and being asked 'you like it baby' - no not really, but lets hurry this along, while I mentally plan when I'm putting up my Christmas tree  ::)
Fetish/service requests that make your eyes water
Phone going at all hours; although it's off/on silent when I'm not working

As things currently stand, I personally wouldn't consider NOT being an escort, although it's not for everyone x



Kimberly-x

  • Full Member
  • ***
  • Posts: 103
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #48 on: 26 November 2015, 07:14:42 pm »
For me personally, the positives are massive, but if I had to put the annoyances, they'd include:

Text tennis wankers who just take up my time; although I now just cut off
Shagging ugly blokes that you wouldn't look twice at
Being frantically licked and being asked 'you like it baby' - no not really, but lets hurry this along, while I mentally plan when I'm putting up my Christmas tree  ::)
Fetish/service requests that make your eyes water
Phone going at all hours; although it's off/on silent when I'm not working

As things currently stand, I personally wouldn't consider NOT being an escort, although it's not for everyone x


people ring me all times of day/night
i work for an agency when times are slow so i have my phone on when i get in at 5/6 am and some one calls me a 6:55 i want to killll them ha

as for ugly mother F***ERS it comes with the job

i hate the drugged up people ive only come across one working independently but for the agency urghhh so many
« Last Edit: 26 November 2015, 07:18:03 pm by Kimberly-x »
Never regret anything because at one point it was what you always wanted

Willow Summers

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #49 on: 24 December 2015, 06:09:55 pm »
Men that ask what I would like and what can they do to please me! I want them to just get on with it and clear off! I cant bare it when men play with or lick my clit to try and make me cum. Ain't gonna happen boys.

Men that want you to rim them and they have remnants of poop on their bum cheeks

Men with micro-dicks. What on earth am I supposed to do with that?!

Men that just want to text, and ask a thousand questions, even though the answers are on my profile

Men that don't show up and i'm left sat their in my stockings and no money!

Abrupt and abusive texts or messages, as though I'm the lowest form of scum!

French kissing ugly men or having their yukky licky tongues all over me

Willow Summers

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #50 on: 24 December 2015, 06:22:06 pm »
...also

Keep in mind how much you need to spend on stockings!! I must spend a fortune on these! And you can never have enough outfits, I get asked to look like a maid, schoolgirl, mother, secretary...  I have spent a lot on outfits and some i've only worn a couple of times

Think about were you will be working from. I use my own bed and bedding, sometimes the bedroom can be a bit smelly.

Some men can disclose some disturbing fantasies. Are you ok listening to these?

Do they know if you live alone or not? Security is so important, you never know if a drunken punter might decide to call by and try his luck.

Lushblossom

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 2,407
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #51 on: 18 January 2016, 10:22:50 am »
Hoping the neighbours don't find out is another (mild) concern.  That is one of the main reasons I don't see too many clients.  I have to turn away quite a few ....

Trying to remain hardworking despite not feeling motivated as it is easy to get complacent once we have had some time off e.g. over Xmas and getting back in the work mindset can be hard going.

ScarlettP

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #52 on: 21 January 2016, 10:38:06 am »
When they ask if you have a boyfriend.
« Last Edit: 15 March 2017, 09:38:49 pm by ScarlettP »

MandyVine

  • Full Member
  • ***
  • Posts: 169
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #53 on: 21 January 2016, 10:28:13 pm »
These posts remind me of a something a dear friend in law enforcement told me--they see the best in people AND the worst in people.  I often think we do too.

ScarlettP

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #54 on: 22 January 2016, 03:42:32 am »
Very true
« Last Edit: 15 March 2017, 09:39:26 pm by ScarlettP »

katrina

  • Guest
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #55 on: 22 January 2016, 09:26:45 pm »
Quote from: MandyVine link=topic=2645.msg232912#msg232912 date=145341c5293
These posts remind me of a something a dear friend in law enforcement told me--they see the best in people AND the worst in people.  I often think we do too.


Yes,  in this job we get to see the good, the bad and the ugly (I mean personality, not looks) Its certainly an eye opener to the reality of what people are like.


I think a lot of the time we do often get just the good bits of them, they are on their best behaviour (as we are in a booking), they go home to their wives/partners happy, we are then happy (because of the money)  So its a win win situation all round really :-)


Curvygal

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 1,208
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #56 on: 24 February 2016, 05:39:39 pm »
The hardest moment I have ever had escorting was when my ex boyfriend (at the time we both were openly still in love with each other and even though we broke up it felt like I was cheating on him every time I worked) told me he found out. Apparently someone forwarded him my AW profile, he will never tell me who. We were having an argument on the phone (we lived in separate cities) over something trivial and he said something along the lines of 'oh and you are always right aren't you Angel (then working name)'. I dropped the phone and broke down crying, then numb with shock just said 'how do you know'.

Later on he told me the main reason he was so angry was that he was scared I would end up badly hurt or killed.

Even now years later, and happily with someone who knows and accepts what I do, its making me tear up writing this. Gosh I'm a sappy idiot some times.

I know I'm quoting an old post, but I just noticed this thread and wanted to highlight this.

No matter how well you hide it, no matter what you do, people can find out.  I had a similar experience to this, and I had thought I was oh so clever.

Then boyfriend calls me one day, and out of the blue comes out with 'I know all about xxxxx' (Place I worked the first time around doing this type of work before I went indie).  And I started shaking, I swear I literally went into shock.  And he just said 'Your silence says it all'.  He said various stories, someone he knows saw me going in there (doubtful), he suspected so he followed me one day to see where I went (most likely in my mind).  I don't know to this day how I fucked up, but somehow I did and he found out.  We carried on for a while, but things were never the same, he cheated a lot in revenge and eventually of course we split, and it came as close to completely breaking me as I think anything ever will.

I love this job and the freedom and flexibility that comes with it, but it did cost me someone that I still, all these years later, really love.

It does take someone really special to understand the business well enough to accept their partner doing it - and, whatever anyone says, it does. 

I want to meet someone now but have the issue of do I tell them?  When do I tell them?  How do I tell them?  It's a total minefield. 

geordie

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 455
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #57 on: 29 February 2016, 04:06:22 pm »
Whilst there's loads of positives, I would never recommend this job due to most of the posts already written on here.

1. I can never switch off. Even when I worked for my agency exclusively and all I had to do was turn up, do my job and leave, it's all I could ever think about. I check my profile on days off, holidays etc. I've tried to ban myself whilst on holidays but I find it so fucking hard.

2. Not having a security reserve. I used to be great with money but due to quitting my well paid job to study, racking up a shit load of debt and wanting to give myself treats, I feel like I'm always living hand to mouth. Some months I don't even make enough to cover my bills depending on how much I've worked and times can get tough. Alongside breaks, illnesses etc, it can be hard to keep a reserve fund topped up. I've also had the stupid mind set that 'it's okay to buy that bag/holiday/etc, I can always put the money back tomorrow' and if tomorrow's dead, it can be a real struggle.

3. The detrimental effects it can have on personal relationships. I've not been close to having a real relationship while doing this job. My experience has either been men who don't approve, men I haven't told and I don't want to live a lie, men who think that because I'm an escort, that's all I am, I'm in work mode 24/7. I just want to be me, it's difficult to be open with someone who respects that and isn't jealous, possessive etc.

4. The fear of being outed. My friends know but my family doesn't. I live at home and I'm constantly petrified incase my parents find out. I've been outed over Facebook on numerous occasions but I've always managed to deny it, I think one day I'll not be able to deny it anymore.


LillyRose

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 99
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #58 on: 13 April 2016, 04:38:02 am »
I would recommend to some but it's def not for everyone and hard to go back and stop. I've been doing I suppose sex work for years but only escorting for a short time now and it's something you secretly almost become obsessed with. I enjoy in a lot of ways but I must admit I haven't dated at all since I started & I'm almost avoiding it because deep down I don't want to end up in a situation where I'd maybe have to think of stopping. I don't even want to stop & feel my clients actually treat me better sometimes then guys my own age lol. But I do know this is a little unhealthy, depending on how you look at it. How I think of men and relationships has already changed and I don't know if I could really be in a relationship in the traditional sense and fully believe in it.

The level of money is addicting, extremely addicting & I like a certain level of lifestyle. The problem is with me is I could easily survive on a much smaller amount of money but I have issues that make it very difficult for me to manage and fully stick to a rigid routine with ease but I am a social person in ways that suit this type of thing.

I agree about how if you don't keep something on your CV it can be difficult to get out of. What I suggest is to get a job where you're on casual hours that are just offered to you and whether you take them is up to you...That way if in the end it's not for you, you've technically been "employed" by a company that you can confidently talk of in an interview.

If you're a very sensitive person it's probably best not to become an escort. Constantly being judged and rated or not being rated at all might effect you too much. Also some clients can get a bit emotionally attached so it's knowing when to tell them what they want to hear in some ways but also knowing where to draw a line and not giving something too much attention haha.

If you have substance problems then you would be putting yourself in vulnerable situations where clients may see opportunity to take advantage of you. Even getting a little carried away on drinks could be dangerous but also lose you money if clients do try and take the piss with going over time.

Also if you are not quite a sensual or sexual person who enjoys meeting new people or develops attachments easily then that probably is a big reason not to escort...

All that being I said I do personally enjoy it & understood some things that may happen. There's something for everyone, but for sure there are a lot of risks. Inside worrying for your safety when you're meeting someone for the first time is an actual true concern but it can be exciting at the same time. The feedback systems do help a lot with that though & sometimes what your work previous to escorting has been can effect how desensitized or sensitive you are to that bit.

Leggymilf

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 8
Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #59 on: 04 July 2016, 12:30:58 pm »
I haven't been on for ages so apologies for jumping into this thread late but felt the need to post that the biggest and by far the most damaging aspect of this job is that I now KNOW about men. My chances of having a real relationship with a man are zero. I have seen and heard so much from men that I could never, ever trust one again. I know another very successful (now more or less retired) escort who tells me the same. She's just hit 50, travelled the world (paid) and has resigned herself to never being in another relationship because of how she feels about men. I feel the same. I don't hate them - I just know I could never trust one to be faithful so would rather not bother.  This to me, is the price I've had to pay for earning all the money. Ignorance really is bliss I'm afraid.