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Infinity

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #150 on: 23 January 2021, 08:26:41 am »
I don't see the link - I've been a sex worker for a fairly long time and I don't take drugs or drink alcohol, nor am I exposed to either while I'm working (or at least only very rarely)? I suspect it's more to do with the company you keep.


I won't deny anyone else's experience and neither should mine.

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #151 on: 23 January 2021, 09:01:22 am »
I think it's important to make informed decisions. With these we can navigate our lives better and make choices that will benefit us whether we choose to do this work or not.

According to this information source that I've only discovered recently, that comes from a reliable trusty source, Global Network of Sex Work projects on the topic of sex workers and travel restrictions. The pdf doesn't translate to a link that I can send, but you can find their info here https://www.nswp.org/ and you might be able to find the article if you search Sex Workers and Travel Restrictions.

There is a paragraph describing an experience from a Canadian who had crossed the U.S border many times, on one occasion when she was with friends driving to a baby shower, says that as soon as she got to the border, the guard asked for the phone and the others she was with  .. she was sent to a second inspection, the guard kept asking her about her straight job, and other sources of income, then took her to another room and asked her about her sex work website, she isn't even sure how they found out about her work identity she got flagged before she got to the border and was interviewed for 4 hours! She signed a transcript of the interview and was banned from the USA for 5 years and and got escorted back to Canada .... :-X

And there are more reasons to put anyone off. If anyone says this is an easy job .... think again .. you need to be mega informed and smart in your decision making ! All that agro ....

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #152 on: 23 January 2021, 11:06:05 am »
I won't deny anyone else's experience and neither should mine.

Er, did you mean to quote my post? Your reply doesn't make sense and has nothing to do with what I said.
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #153 on: 27 January 2021, 12:09:23 am »


There is a paragraph describing an experience from a Canadian who had crossed the U.S border many times, on one occasion when she was with friends driving to a baby shower, says that as soon as she got to the border, the guard asked for the phone and the others she was with  .. she was sent to a second inspection, the guard kept asking her about her straight job, and other sources of income, then took her to another room and asked her about her sex work website, she isn't even sure how they found out about her work identity she got flagged before she got to the border and was interviewed for 4 hours! She signed a transcript of the interview and was banned from the USA for 5 years and and got escorted back to Canada .... :-X


That's the standard punishment for living/working illegally in the US.  She probably crossed the border for work reasons and it is quite possible someone named her, they wouldn't ban her just for having done illegal activities in the past.  I have entered the States with someone who has a criminal past and was interviewed at the border but was still let in. 

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #154 on: 09 February 2021, 09:47:40 am »
Er, did you mean to quote my post? Your reply doesn't make sense and has nothing to do with what I said.

Okay never mind, let's start again :)

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #155 on: 05 July 2021, 08:40:47 pm »
If anyone says this is an easy job .....

If someone says that... it's because they don't know what they are talking about.

The escort profession is a combination of:
 
  • sexual performer,
  • small business manager,
  • actor,
  • communicator,
  • and psychologist.

It is certainly not an easy job.

Reasons not to be an escort? If you are only interested in the money but not the other aspects of the job, this job is not for you.

And if you want to do it in spite of that, you won't be happy... and probably won't be very successful either.
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #156 on: 28 July 2021, 09:12:31 pm »
The idea that escorting is fast money is one that comes to mind. There’s often the misconception that escorting is fast money and not easy money. Neither is actually true in some cases. There will be days where you wait around the whole entire day and no one comes or calls. It can have a big impact on your mental health and self image as you start to think there must be something wrong with you that you aren’t getting any bookings.

I’m quite young and attractive and I am quite self confident. But this job does test me at times and it can affect your self esteem when you don’t get any bookings for a few days.

It’s just the way it is sometimes. Sometimes the weather is crap. Sometimes there’s a holiday or a match on. So business is slow. So I definitely wouldn’t call it fast money all the time. There will be days when you wait around and absolutely nothing. Then other days you are up to your eyeballs in bookings.

It fluctuates a lot and it’s important to remember to budget so you can account for the days that aren’t “fast money.”

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #157 on: 02 September 2021, 11:47:26 pm »
I went through a phase of very openly telling friends about what I do because I was struggling so much with the double life and feelings of isolation and lack of connection that I was experiencing. I guess I was craving acceptance.

Nobody acted horrified, though I'm aware that things were said behind my back but the result that did come as more of a surprise was how many people expected me to set them up in business and although I did happily help a couple of friends, I rapidly realised that they expected me to do everything for them, as though they were entitled to a slice of all of the "money" they were convinced that I was making.

I had a string of people who seemed to latch on to me and time after time it became apparent that their motivation was to see what they could get from me.

Both from males and females, I made myself a bit of a target by sharing what I do openly. I found that people could get very jealous as they perceive that WG's are earning tonnes of money without having to "work" for it.

I've since relocated and have decided to keep it to myself in this new area. I'm past the stage of feeling that anyone has a right to know my business. A lesson learnt.

Oh yes, the hanger ons (usually guys wanting sex and/or s free ride financially cos they think you earn loads or occasionally some mad emotional need) being gossiped about, I am another who everyone knows what I do, I show my face loud and clear (selling point), not in a big city, I've been followed by group of guys in a car, recognised at traffic lights by another group of youngish guys, and even at garage had a group of guys tryna take a photo of me, smirking making jokes with eachother which really pissed me off to be honest. Since the profile had thousands of views in a short space of time at can only assume a lot are looking, there is not many escorts in this town. I could not care less to be honest but what you say is right..also a good friend is one who will not see or treat you different after finding out your an escort, very hard to come by i must say.
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #158 on: 20 March 2022, 01:53:47 pm »
Please delete.
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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #159 on: 20 March 2022, 02:36:35 pm »
I was groomed from the age of 12 by a friends dad and some of his older mates (all dead now). Initially, I enjoyed the money and attention. When I was 15 the friends dad took me to France in the school holidays and I worked in a brothel (obviously I lied about my age and they didn't care). it continued until I went to university at 18. I stepped away from 'sex for money'. But I didn't know how to live 'normally' so I started escorting again, to pay for university.
I've been to therapy and got all the help I could from various sex worker groups and even the police. But ultimately, it's all I know. I'm 32 now. Still working but I have never had a proper relationship other than users, abusers and pimps.
I don't think sex work has ruined my life at all, that's not what I'm getting at. I'm just saying that I was groomed, then it became a means to an end and now it's all I know. I have tried regular 9-5 jobs but I am used to having decent money and my own timescale.
If anyone is thinking about becoming a sex worker. I can only suggest that you think it through, talk to trusted friends and speak to groups like this and Red Umbrella (I personally found them very helpful with my mental health).
It can be fun, profitable and liberating. But, like everything. It can be a nightmare.

Good luck to anyone starting up. x

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Re: Reasons not to be an escort
« Reply #160 on: 20 March 2022, 08:00:14 pm »
Jessica Hannah - you sound a very strong woman  I take my hat of yo you queen x