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Re: Prostitution: What's the Harm? BBC 3 tonight at 10pm
« Reply #60 on: 12 April 2014, 02:07:00 am »
Hi Roseanna
By sex industry I meant the entire industry so Pornographic films. Pornographic magazines, internet sites Stripclubs, Lap dancing clubs, agents ect. The entire industry not just independent escorting.

I've never had anything to do with the sex industry outside escorting, and never will. I also would never work in the kind of places shown which seem to be run by men. So, point taken, even though I think that if prostitution was more accepted there would be a lot less demand for porn etc.

When I was younger I wanted to be a doctor, then a nurse actually many things but never a prostitute but hey each to their own I guess?

I sometimes think there are so many similarities. A lot of nurses do it to support their normal job.

And In a way I can see where Escortxxx is coming from

I do too. If they didn't stress the money it might encourage more men to become clients, which would be good. I had a noticeable increase in newbies calling for a few days after the programme, but it's almost back to normal now. What I really didn't like was the girl who had all the bundles of cash lying around. Sent out completely the wrong message that did.

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« Reply #61 on: 14 April 2014, 12:39:32 pm »
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I would have been a lot happier if they didn't bother with Becky and had something on online communities instead.

It bugs me a bit that this person has become some sort of industry spokesperson whenever a program about escorting is made.  Though I find her very sensible in some programs I have seen, I still feel she has made money out of others doing the actual sex work.  I really don't feel it qualifies her to speak about the experiences of sex workers.  Then she ?wrote? a book where again she plagiarised quite a few experiences of escorts from various sites and marketed that as her experience, yet again making money out of the sex work others do.     
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« Reply #62 on: 10 June 2014, 12:15:45 am »
Yes overall I thought it better than any other programs
Ah, and now we're onto webcamming. Not really prossying, is it  :-\ But SHIT this lady gets ?4k a month from sex/adultwork - and then shows ?89k in 2 years from just webcamming alone!!! :o But later CHarlotte did speak positively about prossying, which was good.

What they failed to mention was that the ?89,000 that she showed was not the amount that she actually banked as AW take at least 30% of that and there is an extra percentage for webcamming.

Sarah x x x

Hey sarah

The amount soon was in my transfer history ..... so that was already post 30% xx

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« Reply #63 on: 10 June 2014, 12:20:06 am »
Excellent, that's all sorted out then.

We'll take any further discussion on individual members earnings to PM, please.

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« Reply #64 on: 10 June 2014, 12:20:53 am »
Ladies

I've read most of this thread......

Just to clarify, I didn't do this for 5 mins of fame at all. I wanted to put a positive point of view on escorting and sex work, and show that most of us are educated people who choose to do this for a living and do enjoy it, and its much like any job good days and bad days, some days you wanna quit over days its amazing.

I wanted to changed peoples minds about us sex workers. People think we are all stupid slags who can't do anything else for a living, I'm sure thats true in some cases but not many.

To be honest I didn't even think about the AW publicity I just wanted to show a good light on the job we do.

Yes lots of girls did sign up to adultwork, but if you are worried about that you don't have faith in your own product which is you. Most clients come on adultwork to see a specific girl, in my experience its not all about just seeing some pussy.

I hope some of you enjoyed it, I have learnt there will always be some people who are never happy

MissLouiseKay

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« Reply #65 on: 10 June 2014, 07:00:36 am »
Yes lots of girls did sign up to adultwork, but if you are worried about that you don't have faith in your own product which is you

Welcome LouiseKayXXX

I think you are right, people need to focus on promoting themselves and not how many others are also working.

Sarah x x x

PS Not sure about being able to change peoples minds though...

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« Reply #66 on: 10 June 2014, 02:23:43 pm »
Yes lots of girls did sign up to adultwork, but if you are worried about that you don't have faith in your own product which is you

Welcome LouiseKayXXX

I think you are right, people need to focus on promoting themselves and not how many others are also working.

Sarah x x x

PS Not sure about being able to change peoples minds though...

Sarah

I was honestly shocked at the responses I got to the show, yes i got the odd oh i bet your mum is proud stc but i also got some emails where people actually said i had changed their minds.

You are never gonna change everyones mind and i wouldnt want it, but it really is nice to try and put a positive spin on what we do :)

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« Reply #67 on: 10 June 2014, 10:30:52 pm »
Sarah

I was honestly shocked at the responses I got to the show, yes i got the odd oh i bet your mum is proud stc but i also got some emails where people actually said i had changed their minds.

You are never gonna change everyones mind and i wouldnt want it, but it really is nice to try and put a positive spin on what we do :)

I thought you came across quite well, but it is not something that I would do myself, my mum would NOT be proud of me....

Sarah x x x

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« Reply #68 on: 21 November 2014, 12:31:53 pm »
Ooo I feel like a famous person joined the discussion lol.
I thought you were fab LouiseKay.
Overall I thought it was a good programme and certainly better than some other webcam/escort programmes. Also anything that helps people understand the law is a good thing.
I'm gonna get my arse online tonight for the influx of young milf hunters lol. X

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« Reply #69 on: 19 August 2015, 05:01:42 pm »
Late last night I caught the second half of yet another show about escorts!

Did anyone watch it?

I saw it from the part where they was talking to a girl called Charlotte I think with lots of tattoos.  (Her tatts were lovely!)
I liked her and during her scene she made a very valid point about the law not allowing us to work together in flats, when in fact it's safer.

What annoyed me about the show is as per usual they showed the downside by showing the prostitutes who work on the streets and their drug problems etc etc.  Why do they always do this?

The other thing that annoyed me was it really went into detail about what's legal and what isn't, i.e. How many people can work in a flat; they actually had a pub quiz!

AW is getting a LOT of air time lately.

Be good to hear what others thought of the show.

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« Reply #70 on: 20 August 2015, 01:17:38 pm »
I enjoyed this programme, thanks LouiseKay  you also motivated me as I do get sometimes bit bored might start webcam soon   ;)
although not as busy as yourself and other ladies, I only work part time.
I get fed up with the negative side of prostitution its not all bad and dirty evil as some would like to portray.
it can be great fun with the right clients   :)


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« Reply #71 on: 20 August 2015, 02:32:15 pm »
I enjoyed this programme, thanks LouiseKay  you also motivated me as I do get sometimes bit bored might start webcam soon   ;)
although not as busy as yourself and other ladies, I only work part time.
I get fed up with the negative side of prostitution its not all bad and dirty evil as some would like to portray.
it can be great fun with the right clients   :)

I didn't realise this show was so old until my post got merged!  ;D

Anyway, she's motivated me too, definitely going to look into doing actual camming. I've been doing DirectIM but it's not that great...

I choose clients wisely so I always have a good time and I don't get problems.  I mean we're all smart, we know how to detect trouble makers.  I just wish one day they'd just show that it's not like that for everyone! It baffles me why they insist on portraying it like its band of gold!

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« Reply #72 on: 20 August 2015, 08:10:26 pm »
I saw it for the first time last night and thought as these things go it was great. I think showing a range of experiences from Louise Kay (who was fab) to the sad story of the Liverpool woman and the Prague brothel worker made it a rounded show and I think that is really important. Not sure we needed Madame Becky showing us how to fold towels though...

It would be irresponsible to show it as all wonderful and light and an easy way of making money- sex workers all  have different and experiences so no show could ever really cover it all.

I also think whilst I think women like LouiseKay and others such as Laura Lee and Charlotte Rose do a great job in portraying sex workers as hard workers who enjoy their job they are in a tricky position to talk about the negatives such as stinky men, boundary pushers, being ripped off and times when they may have felt scared and vulnerable because that plays into the hands of the antis....

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« Reply #73 on: 20 August 2015, 09:19:04 pm »
I also think whilst I think women like LouiseKay and others such as Laura Lee and Charlotte Rose do a great job in portraying sex workers as hard workers who enjoy their job they are in a tricky position to talk about the negatives such as stinky men, boundary pushers, being ripped off and times when they may have felt scared and vulnerable because that plays into the hands of the antis....

That's because the best argument in favour of us is nothing to do with morals or enjoying the job. First and foremost the conversation should be about which legal models regard our safety the highest. Once we're as protected as we can be by the law, then I might sit around to listen to sex workers talk about how great our job is. Somehow I don't see minimum wage care workers or cleaners having to justify the existence of their jobs because they adore them so much. It's not about whether we like it or not. It's about if we're safe. I wish documentary makers would get their heads around that.

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« Reply #74 on: 21 August 2015, 11:25:53 am »
I also think whilst I think women like LouiseKay and others such as Laura Lee and Charlotte Rose do a great job in portraying sex workers as hard workers who enjoy their job they are in a tricky position to talk about the negatives such as stinky men, boundary pushers, being ripped off and times when they may have felt scared and vulnerable because that plays into the hands of the antis....

That's because the best argument in favour of us is nothing to do with morals or enjoying the job. First and foremost the conversation should be about which legal models regard our safety the highest. Once we're as protected as we can be by the law, then I might sit around to listen to sex workers talk about how great our job is. Somehow I don't see minimum wage care workers or cleaners having to justify the existence of their jobs because they adore them so much. It's not about whether we like it or not. It's about if we're safe. I wish documentary makers would get their heads around that.

You're not wrong, of course safety is the most important thing, but I think that enjoying it is an aspect that needs to be put out there to a degree. So many people believe that no woman could possibly choose to have sex with strange men so therefore it must be wrong and should be banned so I think sex workers who do enjoy it, are not screwed up by having sex with multiple men and who do not feel violated by it play a part in changing minds.

I do also agree that it is frustrating that we need to justify it in comparison to other jobs- personally I could never work with children but I wouldn't go around saying How could anyone choose to work with snotty nosed, noisy, smelly little brats or critisise those who chose to do it in the same way people refer to our work as working with stinky, desperate horrible men.

It's all part of the whole package in changing the sex working laws.

My original point, which I probably didn't articulate especially well is that I think it's hard for those 'out' escorts to talk roundly about the job because any negative is leaped on as a reason why it is so bad.

I'd be interested to know if LouiseKay felt she had to be totally positive when she was filmed so as not to let any 'bad' stuff override what appears to be a really positive experience in the trade for her.