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secretcallgirl91

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clients who dont trust you?
« on: 10 April 2012, 12:09:23 pm »
Wondering if anyone has any tips or advice or been in a similar situation to me and how i can deal with this?

A few days ago I had a young gorgeous client who had a gorgeous body and lovely face. I felt for once I was cheating on my boyfriend.

I complimented him etc, all he kept saying was 'you dont mean it you get paid to say it' and when we were at it he asked if i was enjoying it and i said yes, then he kept looking at me for reassurance and said i was faking it and just going along with it all. IT WAS NO WHERE NEAR FAKING! he did seem a little bit nervous as well.
he asked for my personal number which I said no to, I donot meet clients outside of work etc. he asked personal questions which I kept to a minimum but I did not lie to him.

Saturday night I had a client who was polish and seemed quite young, he kept looking around the room asking me if their were cameras filming, i didnt know wether to laugh or be quite mortified he had paid me alot of money but didnt trust me. the whole way through the hour he kept telling me i was faking it and i said i wasnt, he said 'your a liar dont lie to me' and then he wondered why i couldnt get wet....what can you really expect after telling me im a liar, showing he doesnt trust me and at times i felt he was being rude to me that made me a little scared etc..
their was a small hole at the top of the door and he said he could see people looking through it watching us...i mean what the....
i couldnt wait for the hour to be up and hope i never come face to face with him again!

i respect clients opinions and they may feel uncomftable, nervous etc i try to put them at ease but if they really dont trust us and think we are not going to enjoy having sex with them then i think they should avoid escorts all together :/ if we didnt enjoy our jobs then we wouldnt put ourselves through that as our time and the intimacy clients get is very personal.

it has genuinly upset me because i dont want my clients to feel that way and i really do try hard to keep them happy and do my best (to a certain point in this job) i am always really polite, friendly and caring like i am when im alway from work.

what am i doing wrong or do you think it could just be the client? xxx
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EvaBeeva

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Re: clients who dont trust you?
« Reply #1 on: 10 April 2012, 12:38:23 pm »
He's young.  Why do you think some of us don't like the young?

They're paranoid, they're insecure, they can't wrap their head around the fact that we're being paid to have sex and they're needy.  Just ignore all his worries and get down at the job at hand.  He'll get over it.
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« Reply #2 on: 10 April 2012, 03:18:34 pm »
The second one, the one paranoid about cameras etc, I'd say to you if you are new - DON'T SEE THIS MAN AGAIN. My spider senses were literally creeping all over the place reading your post about him. He actually sounds potentially dangerous.
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« Reply #3 on: 10 April 2012, 03:28:58 pm »
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The second one, the one paranoid about cameras etc, I'd say to you if you are new - DON'T SEE THIS MAN AGAIN. My spider senses were literally creeping all over the place reading your post about him. He actually sounds potentially dangerous.

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« Reply #4 on: 10 April 2012, 05:35:02 pm »
in all the years ive done this..NEVER had a man been paranoid about been watched and cameras.
that made me shudder..
he sounds un-hinged..
block him,id even warn your friends..not normal behavior.
as for the first guy,this is why i hate seeing young good looking guys..
There expecting you to fall at there feet and then when you genuinly were,he made out you were lying..you cant bloody win..
see there just head ache..give me an old  man any day of week..
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« Reply #5 on: 10 April 2012, 06:00:45 pm »
hmm about the second guy with the cameras...

I'm Polish and although it had to be an absolutely horrible experience for you, I think I know where he's coming from.
Basically, in Poland prostitution is totally, completely dodgy. It doesn't matter if you get paid 5000 pounds a night or if you accept 50 pound blow jobs, you're dodgy. Most Polish men would never, ever use a prostitute in Poland because not many girls over there who escort are Polish. Mostly Belarusian, Romanian or Lithuanian and the whole escort experience is considered an almost gory ordeal over there with the whole disease ridden, fifty men a day and filthy attitude aura.

If Polish girls want to escort, they do it abroad. They're annonymous, much more accepted and of course much more successful in countries like Germany or the UK. To the Polish men who come here (most of them with a very malnourished intelligence anyway) it's still dodgy as hell, it's amazingly hard for them to let go of their preconceptions. I really wouldn't say he's dangerous but you don't need that shit, I wouldn't see him again either.
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secretcallgirl91

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Re: clients who dont trust you?
« Reply #6 on: 10 April 2012, 06:09:23 pm »
Thank you for your replies, they are appreciated.

I thought this was a case of them being young which is why I prefer older clients..

I did think because he was polish, was this to do with his culture etc because i am pretty unknown to polish culture (although different cultures interest me). so didnt want to mark him off as a weirdo. I explained everything is strictly between me, the client and the agency who made the booking. but he just kept looking around.
But I defiantly dont want to see him again, because it did seem very strange and I was worried he would turn aggressive.

Thank you for your replies, they have helped :) xx
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Amberrr

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« Reply #7 on: 10 April 2012, 06:14:46 pm »
the funny thing is that when you go to Poland you really don't see that much of a difference between English and Polish cultures. For some really unfortunate reason the trend is that the totally backward and uneducated idiots come to the UK and enstrange themselves by choice. I don't now why, it's absurd. I see the Polish in the UK act in ways I've never witnessed in Poland. Not worth getting upset about it, it's really just the guys insecurities and what have you.
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« Reply #8 on: 10 April 2012, 06:20:18 pm »
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« Last Edit: 09 October 2012, 01:58:15 pm by La-lique »
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