Author Topic: Perceptions v reality of escorting (Read 2943 times)

Lois01827 · « **on:** 15 December 2015, 11:35:10 pm »

Hello lovelies,

After engaging in a lot of chat on here today, I'm just wondering what was your initial perception of becoming a working girl compared to the reality of actually doing it?

englishrebecca121 · « **Reply #1 on:** 15 December 2015, 11:50:50 pm »

before i started in the game i thought escorts were all crack heads and street walkers
oh how little i knew !!

the reality is so much nicer lovely clients and the escorts are all intelligent independant women

i love it and will miss it so much when i soon retire

Lois01827 · « **Reply #2 on:** 16 December 2015, 12:01:00 am »

It's funny how we all have perceptions about certain things based on myth and the reason we do this (there's another new thread about what bought us to escorting on here).

A couple of my big uns were:

That I'd meet ugly, hairy perverts and I probably wouldn't like it. In fact, every one of my guys has returned and we have both been happy with it. It's the time wasters that are exhausting and I never envisaged there would be so many. I've contributed to a few posts on here but not slagging off my regulars as the majority are lovely, lovely guys.

Never grasped how many guys would be in relationships/married (my naivety)

Man are soooo different in terms of fetish, pleasure, cock size etc

Men are relatively nice and normal (mostly); although plenty aren't but they fall under the realm of TW and can be spotted quite easily as time goes on

I thought I would be completely disconnected from my guys, but I'm not - and I genuinely enjoy them (the bookings not the silly calls or texts)

It has made me very intolerant and impatient of TW and those after wank fodder though

xx

KittenCandy · « **Reply #3 on:** 16 December 2015, 03:30:57 am »

I had started a similar thread not so long ago and i still stick to what I had said

http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=28937.msg212503#msg212503

Escorting is nothing like I thought it would be like. Well it kinda was at one point when i first started with only Vanilla Guys contacting me but now, not anymore. It's like the longer i'm in this business the more cringe worthy sexual fetishes I get asked for but politely decline but the thought still has be shaken up. Very soon someone would ask me to shit,piss, vomit , spit in a bowl, put other men's spunk in it mix it up and give it to them to drink or bake it with my dandruff. (already heard about someone wanting to eat dog shit) I think the hardcore guys go after the more experienced ones so that's probably why they never contacted me in the beginning and that's probably why i found it so easy. Now many guys that contact me wants stuff I do not do like strap-on or wants to eat my shit or are obsessed with OWO or show up for a booking and suck my face because they are horrible kissers. etc Don't get me wrong, i don't do what I am not comfortable with but just the thought of doing it and the fact that they are calling asking for it which just shows they haven't read my profile really pisses me off. I had always thought escorting would be like what some women on here said it was like years ago. When OWO and CIM was unheard of and pretending you gave a shit and kissing was GFE. I honestly never thought I would have to kiss these men. But I was very young and naive.
Too many TWs, backstabbing men, smelly old ugly men and stupid assholes.. I use to do it for the thrill and money and I found it exciting and it made me feel strong and confident. now I do it solely for the money and I reverted to my low self esteem self again. But, I do this part time from next year so hopefully it eases the stress as I found it so fun and easy when I was in college. The thought of going to see a punter after college was so much fun. Then again I was new and hadn't been overwhelmed with the negatives of the job yet. I miss being a newbie

How do you unknow what you know?

Because when it comes to these nasty shit, head banging TWs, needy lovey dovey clients etc ignorance is bliss.

TrashAzn · « **Reply #4 on:** 16 December 2015, 09:53:53 am »

Quote from: englishrebecca121 on 15 December 2015, 11:50:50 pm

before i started in the game i thought escorts were all crack heads and street walkers
oh how little i knew !!

the reality is so much nicer lovely clients and the escorts are all intelligent independant women

i love it and will miss it so much when i soon retire

I was the same I just never thought about the idea of prostitution because I assumed it's what desperate drug addicts do but I've learned that most women escorting are pretty intelligent decent people and a lot of students just like me are doing it to support costs of study and student life. These aren't stupid women or women living on the streets doing drugs most just come from pretty normal backgrounds.

As far as my perceptions of the job I guess I was already expecting the bad so that didn't get to me as much but much like my perceptions of escorts my perception of the clients is slightly different since I've seen some guys I'd never even expect to hire escorts before I started the job. I figured everyone would be desperate losers and creeps. Many can be good looking and living an exciting rich life.

Fabulassie · « **Reply #5 on:** 16 December 2015, 11:09:39 am »

It's not the actual sex that's unpleasant - even the ugly ones - it's the sheer volume of verbal abuse we have to put up with to get decent clients.That is what demoralises me more than anything else about this job.

Curvygal · « **Reply #6 on:** 16 December 2015, 02:53:44 pm »

Quote from: Fabulassie on 16 December 2015, 11:09:39 am

It's not the actual sex that's unpleasant - even the ugly ones - it's the sheer volume of verbal abuse we have to put up with to get decent clients.That is what demoralises me more than anything else about this job.

I agree with this to a large extent, it's the unpleasantness and disrespect. And, the haggling over prices....guys calling offering less than advertised 'But I'll be your regular!', 'just do it for that this once then next week I'll book you again'....when I was new and silly I fell for this, once. Saw the guy for half an hour for ?20 (at the time) off on the understanding he'd book every week...and yeah you're right, I never saw him again.

I think all the haggling over prices is just disrespectful and it's the disrespect that pisses me off. You don't go into Marks and get your shopping and ask if you can pay less because it's only that in lidl do you? Grrrr.

Another quick tale - last week I did a late outcall, and the guy was a bit of a twat but I thought he was just new and nervous...he came on his stomach as soon as I touched him and expected me to continue without him cleaning himself, then at the end told me 'desperate times call for desperate measures.' I got the impression that he was of the type that wanted to make himself feel better by booking someone he thought he was better than and to look down at them. This kind of man pisses me off.

Green Carnation · « **Reply #7 on:** 16 December 2015, 02:57:18 pm »

Silly, I knowc but I thought I would be bathing in champagne, rolling in cash, do my groceries in Harrods foodhall, taking taxis to go for beauty treatments, visit hair salons every 2 weeks and of course live in a penthouse near Hyde Park. Did I mention all the michelin starred restaurants and holidays in the Caribbean.
While this might be reality for some tiny percentage, my life is obviously just really boring and normal.

ParisB · « **Reply #8 on:** 17 December 2015, 09:09:59 pm »

Quote from: Green Carnation on 16 December 2015, 02:57:18 pm

Silly, I knowc but I thought I would be bathing in champagne, rolling in cash, do my groceries in Harrods foodhall, taking taxis to go for beauty treatments, visit hair salons every 2 weeks and of course live in a penthouse near Hyde Park. Did I mention all the michelin starred restaurants and holidays in the Caribbean.
While this might be reality for some tiny percentage, my life is obviously just really boring and normal.

More like bathing in red bull ( to keep you a awake ) shopping at tescos , Holidays in Bognor , and premier inns not the ritz lol

louiseescort · « **Reply #9 on:** 17 December 2015, 09:39:31 pm »

I had no idea what it would be like when I started.

Since then I have had a child and still with father so my hours to work are cut down greatly.

When I first started I was able to charge more per hour plus extras.
Kissing wasn't really needed. But a lot more competition on aw now so put it down. Only slightly, but it does make a difference overall.

Now it's getting frustrating as so many ups and downs, one day I may cover costs and the next to many calls.
Generally it is steady good money but it is catching the good days.
I just wish my clients were a bit more organised, but because I tour it is majority on the day bookings.

I have a decent enough life from this, nice flat and car etc. Never go without. Have enough to save etc.so I can't complain really, but I live a really normal boring life outside of this to.
No handbags that cost the same as a car though

Even today i went to Croydon had a guy who booked an hour. He checked an email, said he had to go half way through. Asked for ?20 back, I said no, it's not my fault you need to leave. He even persisted hk ask for a fiver.
Claiming he was a lawyer, well paid job why are you haggling for a fiver??
I didn't have any money on me but even if I did I wouldn't give it to him. Complete tosser.

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