How you feel is entirely up to you, and only you can change this. You are projecting your own feelings of self-worth, or rather your lack of it, onto this situation and also your partner. Unless he coerced you into giving him head, you did so of your own free will. Outside of sex work, sexual acts should not be performed in order to receive something back, so maybe you need to remind yourself of this. However, if this scenario is happening a lot, you need to talk to your partner because at the very least, he is being supremely selfish.

If your partner is depressed, he needs to seek help. His depression is not your responsibility. If he is sulking depressed in bed all day and you are having to top-toe around him, this is no way to live, for either of you.

My personal opinion. You are being used. It's not the sex work that's skewed your reasoning.

He wasn't too depressed to enjoy a nice BJ was he?

Doesn't bode well.

You are projecting your own feelings of self-worth, or rather your lack of it, onto this situation and also your partner. Unless he coerced you into giving him head, you did so of your own free will. Outside of sex work, sexual acts should not be performed in order to receive something back, so maybe you need to remind yourself of this.

I'm sorry but this is absolute bollocks. If you are upset or offended because someone is treating you like shit, this is not because you are "projecting your own lack of self worth"; you are offended because their behaviour is fucking offensive! We all (sex workers or no) deserve to be treated with respect and appreciation by our partners, and our priorities and needs in a relationship should be equal to theirs.

I also disagree about sex not being a transaction outside of sex work, although that is highly subjective, many will disagree. I think every sexual exchange is a transaction, but money is not always part of the exchange.
You may have negotiable and non-negotiable desires from your partner, including love, affection, sex, romance, excitement, money, guidance, emotional support, co-parenting, shared housework, and so on. Your partner will also have their desires from you. Both partners may not have the same needs, but it is important that both feel theirs are usually/consistently met by the other.

In the short term, we all have distractions that could stop us giving our partner the attention they want - such as busy periods at work, and mental or physical health challenges. But if we continue to feel neglected long term, and our partner refuses to acknowledge, discuss, and address the situation, that creates a very unhealthy relationship that can sometimes become emotional abuse.

selfish in bed. However, the OP has not stated if this is an isolated incident or if their sex life is always so one-sided. This information would give a far rounder picture.

It maybe would, but discussing people's relationships without any direct sex work context is not a matter for this board. Keep it relevant folks, please .

It may just be that a man is a dickhead – nothing to do with whether you are or have been a sex worker. It's impossible to say unless you know someone very well.

But unless he has a diagnosis of clinical depression I would kick his arse to the kerb.