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UrbaneAspects

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Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« on: 01 August 2010, 05:44:25 am »
I really feel like a stupid, cheap hooker right now and am trying to fight back the tears (tears of ANGER).

Well, here's what happened. I was browsing around the local classified site in the 'personals/hookup' section because as we all know, things have been slow like molasses and I was willing to advertise ANYWHERE just to get some moving money as moving day is on the 3rd or ASAP. Non of my real escort ads have been garnishing any attention.

Well, I met with a couple...2 guys. I had told them the rate over the email which was $140 (I am going to expose my fees so you guys could determine whether it was too cheap or not). The service was simply me fisting him anally, giving oral sex to both guys and reciving oral as well. There was no kissing or fucking involved.

I got the money upfront, and they were SURPRISED that I asked for it upfront and said, "you're the 1st person to ask us that". They tipped me an extra $10.

Well here's the thing...they were in a camp area and I met them in a huge recreation vehicle. I wont go into details, but just think a 5-star hotel on wheels! I was absolutely stunned. They must have had $100,000 stashed in there. And my ass only left with $150  >:( I just could not bring myself to ask for more money...not to mention they seemed slightly reluctant to even give it to me upfront  >:(

I left feeling like I SHOULD have gotten atleast $100 more. The plan was for his boyfriend to simply watch. Thats why I asked for only $140. In addition, thats not even my normal outcall rate. My 'real' escort site is charging $300 for 2 hours the minimum for an outcall with 1 person. These guys got an extreme bargain at the cost of my  self-worth and although I do have enough to get to the next city, I still wish I had a bit more. I just felt so degraded.

What do y'all think about this? I mean...I guess I should n't feel TOO cheap because I was not even advertising on a proper escort site. I was simply 'scouring' around for guys who'd be generous enought o pay me. But nontheless, I still feel I should have gotten more. I was beating myself up the entire drive home (a short one) because I should have asked them BOTH for more money after they paid me, but I just couldn't for some reason

UrbaneAspects

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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #1 on: 01 August 2010, 05:50:05 am »
Also...towards the end, I was losing my 'libido' because I kept feeling that I should have gotten more. Its hard to keep the little head focused when the big head is saying, "CHEAP CHEAP CHEAP!"

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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #2 on: 01 August 2010, 11:17:16 am »
Joey once a price has agreed it is really bad form to even think about asking for more money.  I always add ?100 on to my hourly fees if there is going to be an extra person present as quite often the viewer wants to join in.

Take it as a lesson learnt and next time add the fee on during the initial booking conversation.

It doesnt matter how much money they had, all that matters is the fee you originally gave them. You set the fees so at the end of the day you made the choice to charge the amount you did and seeing they had alot fo money should not affect your decision.
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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #3 on: 01 August 2010, 11:30:21 am »
You are doing more work, so you should have charged more. Never mind, lesson learnt and all that. I haven't got a clue what the rate should be, but do be careful going to meet guys in RVs. Remember Ted Bundy?

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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #4 on: 01 August 2010, 12:13:43 pm »
You did what you had to do. The booking was cheap, but you wouldn't have got the money otherwise. It doesn't matter if they were loaded; cheap people often are.

You should have charged more for the boyfriend to join in, but you can't do that retroactively, you have to be firm about what he can do for the money and give him the chance to pay you more. It's happened to me too though, so I know how a watcher can sneak in. In future I'll have a rule that anyone who's only watching isn't allowed within an arm's length of the bed. You can do something similar now that you've learned it's necessary, but don't waste your time getting upset about what's already done.

UrbaneAspects

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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #5 on: 01 August 2010, 05:45:34 pm »
You did what you had to do. The booking was cheap, but you wouldn't have got the money otherwise. It doesn't matter if they were loaded; cheap people often are.

It's happened to me too though, so I know how a watcher can sneak in. In future I'll have a rule that anyone who's only watching isn't allowed within an arm's length of the bed.

Can you tell me about what happened LOL?  why do the people with the fancy items tend to be the cheapest when it comes to it? But I kept thinking to myself, why couldn't they just book me from my proper escort site? I didn't even have my price listed on the ad I was on because my ad would have been 'flagged' and deleted if I mentioned anything resembling getting paid.

The boyfriend did spend most of the time on the sideline, and the times where I offered him to join in...he just said he was having fun watching (which I have to remember to not feel bad for ignoring the voyeur, because they like the idea of watching live sex, DUH!). So, its not like it was a full-on boyfriend experience either...but still. I guess I cant complain too much though, when Im working the 'casual encounters' section, its already hell dealing with getting flagged and people saying how they 'dont want or need to pay for sex'. So for me to even get what I did yesterday atleast compensated me for my troubles.
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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #6 on: 01 August 2010, 09:56:49 pm »
Well in my case I was working with a friend. It was only last year and I've been working long enough that I don't take much crap, but she's a lot less experienced. He was sitting on the bed because there wasn't a chair in the room and started interacting with my friend first. That made it harder for me to put a stop to it.

Joey, you offered the guy some fun and eventually he accepted. These guys weren't looking at escort sites and it's not your business how much they have in the bank. The booking was cheap but it sounds like it went ok, and you got some much-needed cash out of it.

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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #7 on: 01 August 2010, 10:10:06 pm »
Joey

You set your price and you stuck with it. That's all that matters and you learnt from it. Yep I've had guys tell me how much they are worth,etc etc then quibble about a ?20 rate increase on a 3 hour booking(?280/?300). Can make you feel sick, however if you turn it around you can laugh about how it makes whatever they say/have/do look very fake indeed!

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Re: Am I stupid and cheap for not charging 2 guys?
« Reply #8 on: 01 August 2010, 10:30:13 pm »
Its an ironic thing...when you're willing to do full service for $50, you end up meeting someone loaded. When you're charging $500/hour, you get all the $50 guys.

This is not typical, but when it happens...it throws you right off balance and you just wanna kick yourself