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TrannyForHire

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My First Week On Adult Work: Advice Welcome
« on: 08 February 2012, 12:59:56 pm »
I'm probably doing it all wrong.  ::)

I joined Adult Work on a Saturday evening with a view to doing in-calls as a tranny (I'm a male and I live alone). I wasn't looking for a main source of income. Just a supplement to my existing (very limited) income.

I saw my first client the same night. Everything went well. I considered that a great start.

However, I did get I had an awful lot of of speculative enquiries from Adult Work that went absolutely nowhere.

I wouldn't call them "time-wasters" as when I answered their questions, thanked them for any compliments and asked politely if they would like to make a booking the conversation would typically end there.

Of course, I got a tremendous number of time-wasters as well. They would make definite bookings and then cancel them. 9/10 times they would say something like:

"Sorry, my boss has asked me to work. I can't make it this afternoon/this evening [delete as applicable]."

Why they feel the need to use work as an excuse is beyond me. How about some alternatives...

"Sorry, I've never shagged a tranny before. I'd like to, but I'm still too scared."

"Sorry, I like sex, but I hate paying for it. Changed my mind."

"Sorry, I was really excited about our appointment so I had a wank and blew my load in a sock."

"Sorry, just knowing that I *could* hire you is enough to get me off."

No explanation would be better.

"Sorry. I have to cancel our booking."

Luckily, I've only had one arsehole so far who didn't have the courtesy to cancel and was a no-show.

No clients on Sunday, Monday or Tuesday.  ???

What really ticked me off was Adult Work's official insistence that time-wasters don't exist!

According to them, in cases of time-wasting the escort has simply misjudged the client's "buying signals".  ::)

I saw my next client on Wednesday. That went well, but as he was pulling his clothes on afterwards he enquired why I was "so cheap".

 :o:FF

I resisted the temptation to say that he was welcome to pay more and just told him that I would definitely charge more when I'd had all the surgery that needed doing  ;D

Maybe I am too cheap?

I'm only an 'effin cross-dresser at the moment though. What if I asked for more money and never got any bookings at all?

Thursday was good. Saw two clients in one day.  :D

No clients on Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday. Despite numerous email exchanges. :-[

I have a two-hour booking for Tonight. He made the appointment last week. If he cancels or does a no-show, I'm definitely going to think twice about using Adult Work in future.

Any feedback would be appreciated.


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« Reply #1 on: 08 February 2012, 01:08:27 pm »
Hi hun and welcome!

We all get timewasters babe - I have been on adultwork now for just coming up to a year and certainly get my fair share - however don't let this put you off! You have done fairy welll getting 2 bookings that turned up - after all you are in a very niche market, so please don't desair, just keep going and start to build your reuation and feedback! And by the way - this time of year is real quiet, I think we are all suffering at present for business - xmas, new year, self employed tax to pay for both punters and us, credit card bills, the january sales and all that on top of a recession!!! :'( :'(

keep going and all will be ok  :) :)

Sapphire xx

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« Reply #2 on: 08 February 2012, 01:45:26 pm »
Yep.

We can't answer the question about price, because it really is down to what you are happy with, however did you have a browse to see what similar people are asking for similar things?
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« Reply #3 on: 08 February 2012, 02:50:54 pm »
TFH don't despair.  It has been spoken about here a lot and February, if i remember correctly, is the worst month of the year so it may get worse before it gets better so to speak.

Hang on in there.  You may get two bookings in one week or you may get none.  There is just no way of knowing who is going to call.  We just got to try and sort out a working system that suits us.

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« Reply #4 on: 08 February 2012, 02:53:49 pm »
Hi hun and welcome!

We all get timewasters babe - I have been on adultwork now for just coming up to a year and certainly get my fair share - however don't let this put you off! You have done fairy welll getting 2 bookings that turned up - after all you are in a very niche market, so please don't desair, just keep going and start to build your reuation and feedback! And by the way - this time of year is real quiet, I think we are all suffering at present for business - xmas, new year, self employed tax to pay for both punters and us, credit card bills, the january sales and all that on top of a recession!!! :'( :'(

keep going and all will be ok  :) :)

Sapphire xx

Thanks Sapphire.

Yes, I was wondering about the impact of the recession on escorts and their clients. The bad economy was a big motivator for trying my hand at escorting to begin with.

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« Reply #5 on: 08 February 2012, 02:56:57 pm »
We can't answer the question about price, because it really is down to what you are happy with, however did you have a browse to see what similar people are asking for similar things?

Yes, super-low rates don't always look appealing in this biz (so many scam profiles, bait'n'switchers and wotsits who lure clients in with rock-bottom rates and then have their boyfriends rob 'em), although there's no harm charging a little less than average if that feels right to you.

I would say that hearing clients say, "You don't charge enough!" is par for the course; I think it's just meant to be a compliment and obviously doesn't mean, "My statistical analysis of your business has indicated that it would become 17% more profitable if you increased your rates by 42%". ;D So don't base your rates on anything a client says. Just research your market and competitors. Check out all your fellow TVs and read all of their feedback and reviews, and not just on Adultwork but on any site that has TV/TS advertising.

Adultwork takes time to figure out, too, because what works for one sex worker ads-wise doesn't necessary work for the next, even if they are almost identical outwardly. It's all a bit mysterious and a bit of a pain! But trial-and-error is the best way. Experiment with different featuring stuff on AW (costs money or credits, so either get your private gallery earning a few credits or be prepared to spend a bit of your own money) - do so cautiously and note your results, if any, each time. Note the particular day or category or time or month and all that, too. I.e. a featured profile on a Tuesday in your area might not be worth as much as a featured private gallery on a Friday. Etc etc.

At the end of the day, AW sends an alert to signed-up members about every new sex worker who registers, so all newbies on that site get an absolute BARRAGE of bollocks from weirdos, timewasters, creeps and worse. That is just the way it is, unfortunately. As SapphireBlue said, you're actually doing very well to have sifted three proper bookings out of the rest of the crap. :D Many new escorts find it takes anything from two weeks to two months to start to get regular bookings. It is, indeed, February and a recession and all that. The industry is saturated and it's probably only going to get worse. BUT that doesn't mean a diligent, hard-working person can't elbow their way to the top of the pile by A) always keeping an eye on your 'competition' so that you can make sure that your profile is better-written, your pictures are more attractive and your rates are right for the number of clients you want to be getting, and B) being very patient. This isn't a job with a regular income - it's always up one week, down the next, up the next, and so on - so save yourself some stress and accept that particular fact. :)
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« Reply #6 on: 08 February 2012, 03:53:57 pm »
We can't answer the question about price, because it really is down to what you are happy with, however did you have a browse to see what similar people are asking for similar things?

Yes, super-low rates don't always look appealing in this biz (so many scam profiles, bait'n'switchers and wotsits who lure clients in with rock-bottom rates and then have their boyfriends rob 'em), although there's no harm charging a little less than average if that feels right to you.

I would say that hearing clients say, "You don't charge enough!" is par for the course; I think it's just meant to be a compliment and obviously doesn't mean, "My statistical analysis of your business has indicated that it would become 17% more profitable if you increased your rates by 42%". ;D So don't base your rates on anything a client says. Just research your market and competitors. Check out all your fellow TVs and read all of their feedback and reviews, and not just on Adultwork but on any site that has TV/TS advertising.

Adultwork takes time to figure out, too, because what works for one sex worker ads-wise doesn't necessary work for the next, even if they are almost identical outwardly. It's all a bit mysterious and a bit of a pain! But trial-and-error is the best way. Experiment with different featuring stuff on AW (costs money or credits, so either get your private gallery earning a few credits or be prepared to spend a bit of your own money) - do so cautiously and note your results, if any, each time. Note the particular day or category or time or month and all that, too. I.e. a featured profile on a Tuesday in your area might not be worth as much as a featured private gallery on a Friday. Etc etc.

At the end of the day, AW sends an alert to signed-up members about every new sex worker who registers, so all newbies on that site get an absolute BARRAGE of bollocks from weirdos, timewasters, creeps and worse. That is just the way it is, unfortunately. As SapphireBlue said, you're actually doing very well to have sifted three proper bookings out of the rest of the crap. :D Many new escorts find it takes anything from two weeks to two months to start to get regular bookings. It is, indeed, February and a recession and all that. The industry is saturated and it's probably only going to get worse. BUT that doesn't mean a diligent, hard-working person can't elbow their way to the top of the pile by A) always keeping an eye on your 'competition' so that you can make sure that your profile is better-written, your pictures are more attractive and your rates are right for the number of clients you want to be getting, and B) being very patient. This isn't a job with a regular income - it's always up one week, down the next, up the next, and so on - so save yourself some stress and accept that particular fact. :)

Emily,

Thanks. You've given me a lot to think about there.

Especially what you said about a client's security concerns.

I am on home turf. They are travelling to see me. They don't know what they will find when they get here. They could be robbed. They could be blackmailed, etc.

I've seen a total of four clients (one on the Saturday I joined AW, one on the Wednesday and two on the Thursday). They all had one thing in common.

They all seemed like tough, street-wise bruisers in their late 40s and 50s.  ;D

I don't think its a case of very macho men being particularly drawn to trannies. But maybe macho guys are less risk averse?

« Last Edit: 08 February 2012, 04:59:50 pm by TrannyForHire »

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« Reply #7 on: 08 February 2012, 05:40:33 pm »
I don't think its a case of very macho men being particularly drawn to trannies. But maybe macho guys are less risk averse?

Well, meeting strangers off the internet is stressful for most people. I think that the adrenaline rush from it must be what appeals to many punters, though, else why would they keep browsing those prossie ads, calling those random numbers and rushing to those unknown incall places? Even despite the dangers and variable likelihood of being ripped off or getting a crap service? It's a mystery to me - but luckily that doesn't matter to our incomes!

I hope you're still being careful even though you may feel that you have little to worry about. Prossies are statistically a vulnerable group, with TV/TS escorts being even more so. Does somebody who cares about you know what you're doing? Forgive me if you already have your security buddy and booking+confirmation procedures in place (these help protect against timewasters, too!) but if not, you can search the forum for any of those terms to find tons more info. :)
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« Reply #8 on: 08 February 2012, 06:33:14 pm »
I don't think its a case of very macho men being particularly drawn to trannies. But maybe macho guys are less risk averse?

Well, meeting strangers off the internet is stressful for most people. I think that the adrenaline rush from it must be what appeals to many punters, though, else why would they keep browsing those prossie ads, calling those random numbers and rushing to those unknown incall places? Even despite the dangers and variable likelihood of being ripped off or getting a crap service? It's a mystery to me - but luckily that doesn't matter to our incomes!

I hope you're still being careful even though you may feel that you have little to worry about. Prossies are statistically a vulnerable group, with TV/TS escorts being even more so. Does somebody who cares about you know what you're doing? Forgive me if you already have your security buddy and booking+confirmation procedures in place (these help protect against timewasters, too!) but if not, you can search the forum for any of those terms to find tons more info. :)

Emily, thanks for your concern.

As I write this, I've just had my second "no show". Cancellations aren't so bad, but no-shows really piss me off. Right now, when I just want clients to turn up, the idea that they might turn nasty seems like the furthest thing from my mind. But I know that you have a point.

I'll definitely look into that.

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« Reply #9 on: 12 February 2012, 12:51:19 pm »
I don't think its a case of very macho men being particularly drawn to trannies. But maybe macho guys are less risk averse?

Well, meeting strangers off the internet is stressful for most people. I think that the adrenaline rush from it must be what appeals to many punters, though, else why would they keep browsing those prossie ads, calling those random numbers and rushing to those unknown incall places? Even despite the dangers and variable likelihood of being ripped off or getting a crap service? It's a mystery to me - but luckily that doesn't matter to our incomes!

I hope you're still being careful even though you may feel that you have little to worry about. Prossies are statistically a vulnerable group, with TV/TS escorts being even more so. Does somebody who cares about you know what you're doing? Forgive me if you already have your security buddy and booking+confirmation procedures in place (these help protect against timewasters, too!) but if not, you can search the forum for any of those terms to find tons more info. :)

Emily, thanks for your concern.

As I write this, I've just had my second "no show". Cancellations aren't so bad, but no-shows really piss me off. Right now, when I just want clients to turn up, the idea that they might turn nasty seems like the furthest thing from my mind. But I know that you have a point.

I'll definitely look into that.

I think the problem is working as a tv escort you're offering something which guys want to 'try' or experiment with rather than perhaps knowing that you're exactly what they want! TV's are often catering for the first-time bi-curious males out there who perhaps find a guy in female attire more acceptable to their masculinity than simply seeing a 'gay male.' But I'm only guessing.

The majority of punters I get tend to be married, middle-aged and otherwise 'straight' yet tell me they want to explore their bisexual side though some are single and say they've never done anything with a guy before.

I often get told that they discovered their attraction to tv's through internet porn and so decided to act upon it.

So you get a lot of timewasters because a) they're very nervous about the whole thing and their conscience is nagging at them, b) they don't know if they're going to enjoy it enough to be worth the outlay. Different I suppose for female escorts who are providing something which to most of their clients is a known quantity and their ability to relax and enjoy it is already known to them.

I can usually tell if the guy's genuine about meeting up as he'll simply ask if you're available today/this afternoon and then want to set a time with you and get some idea of where you are. I usually just ask them to call ahead with an hour's notice for a same day booking as to me this seems to weed out the dreamers. If your adultwork profile page is frank/explicit enough then they really shouldn't need to be asking more questions on the phone. If they can't be bothered to read your profile then can you be bothered to meet them!? They'll likely be trouble.


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« Reply #10 on: 12 February 2012, 12:58:49 pm »
I have had a profile for a few days and the other day I had 4 cancellations in a row with the pathetic been called in to work bollocks. Biggest load of crap I ever hear.

My advice to you and maybe it's bd advice is don't turn away a booking for someone whos booked. If you have someone bookied in at 315. If your 3pm cancels or doesn't show then you have back up. If he shows you can tell the other one you are running late because landlord has turned up.x
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« Reply #11 on: 12 February 2012, 01:22:28 pm »
I have had a profile for a few days and the other day I had 4 cancellations in a row with the pathetic been called in to work bollocks. Biggest load of crap I ever hear.

My advice to you and maybe it's bd advice is don't turn away a booking for someone whos booked. If you have someone bookied in at 315. If your 3pm cancels or doesn't show then you have back up. If he shows you can tell the other one you are running late because landlord has turned up.x

It amuses me when they tell you they don't know when they're finishing work!