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glad to be single and escorting
« on: 26 May 2014, 08:51:49 pm »
Have any ladies quit relationship and opted for escorting .
just come away from controlling critical boyfriend
had been so turned on by new clients and enjoying  sex with them and the positive attention and attitude its really uplifted my spirits .
my ex did not know my plans just knew id be better off without him and starting paying off debts.
Caroline x

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #1 on: 26 May 2014, 09:14:12 pm »
I broke off a relationship to start escorting as I had been thinking about escorting since before I even met my bf, it totally broke my heart but I think I did the right thing as now I am completely independent, stand on my own too feet, debt free and have a healthy bank balance and lifestyle.......my funds are building up nicely for what I want for my future but it's not the be all and end all, 2 and a half years on and I really miss being in a relationship. My ex wasn't controlling or anything though x

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #2 on: 26 May 2014, 09:28:38 pm »
Me and my most recent ex split for the very same reason. However, the rel's been dead in the water for almost a year prior to that. Apparently, entering a committed relationship kills any interest I might have in a person. Doh!
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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #3 on: 26 May 2014, 11:38:46 pm »
I just left a relationship which made it possible for me to go fulltime with escorting. Even though it was an open relationship I knew he wouldn't approve and I would feel bad if I accidentally gave a disease to him or something like that even though I'm very careful. He wasn't controlling or anything but he definitely wasn't treating me well so I'm going to take care of myself now.

I'm glad its working out for you so well, good luck.

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #4 on: 27 May 2014, 01:46:17 am »
I don't know if I could hack it whilst single. My boyfriend keeps me sane. He's also my safecall and the person I can talk to about it. If we broke up I reckon I would temporarily quit until I'd found someone else to be my "person", even if it wasn't a romantic partner. I have so much respect for WGs doing it on their own...

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #5 on: 27 May 2014, 07:58:15 am »
I gave up escorting when I met my last partner 5 years ago.  Although he was a genuine and kind hearted man I began to resent him and not having my independence. 

I ended our relationship at the beginning of the year and have never been happier.  We are still friends,  I have my life back and I now know that I'm strong enough and unconventional enough to live a single life.

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #6 on: 27 May 2014, 11:15:36 am »
I'm a bit the other way around.

I started escorting when I was single, years ago, and took it up again a couple of years ago, whilst in a committed relationship. He helped me set up website, organised events for me and joined me on bookings when needed (not profiting himself in any monetary terms). He would always want to be around to make sure I was okay, and we often went swinging together. He died recently. I haven't worked since, and have now moved and no longer have incall location. I will, however, shortly resume seeing a couple of trusted regulars and possibly the odd outcall. I have all my work / play clothes and equipment bagged up at the moment, and though it will be a comfort to me to return to work, and I probably need the money, it will be so sad without my partner in crime, and I don't think I could cope with the idiots that inevitably pop up.
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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #7 on: 27 May 2014, 12:55:46 pm »
I'm sorry for your loss Amber Chelt. x

Miaa

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #8 on: 27 May 2014, 04:25:29 pm »
I intend to start escorting in the next month or so, and have no idea whether or not to tell my boyfriend...

He knows that I worked as a cam girl up until recently, and has said he has no problem if I wanted to continue while we were still together, but actual sex is obviously a bit different. He has some pretty liberal ideas regards sex work, and defines as a male feminist (or feminist ally, whatever you prefer) but that doesn't mean that in practice he'll be able to handle it and won't feel jealous.

No idea how to approach this!

I love him to bits, the first relationship I've been in where I actually genuinely love my partner, but I really resent your situation, OP!

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #9 on: 28 May 2014, 01:05:51 pm »
Miaa, by the sounds of things  your partner is very liberal and accepting. Talk to him. Raise the idea *before* you start work. Talk about your safety precautions. Have a serious discussion. *If* he says no, you can then decide whether or not you think it is worth starting behind his back, but since you haven't started yet there's no harm in having a hypothetical conversation :)

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #10 on: 28 May 2014, 01:33:56 pm »
I am in "love" with someone I have liked for 8 years and recently found out he is crazy about me, but he is very conservative and I know it wouldn't work out. But I need to build a stable future for me, so wouldn't stop escorting and love last so long now a days  :'( As they say you can't have everything lol

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #11 on: 30 May 2014, 12:47:06 am »
Miaa, by the sounds of things  your partner is very liberal and accepting. Talk to him. Raise the idea *before* you start work. Talk about your safety precautions. Have a serious discussion. *If* he says no, you can then decide whether or not you think it is worth starting behind his back, but since you haven't started yet there's no harm in having a hypothetical conversation :)

I spoke to him again about camming and why he was okay with it. He said that he thinks it's completely my choice, he doesn't like the idea of me feeling like I'm tied to him or need his permission to do things I want to and enjoy doing. He also thinks that the idea of exclusivity is a socially constructed fallacy. (It's conversations like this that make me love him)

He said that he's not at the stage where he could hear details about, because he feels like he couldn't help but feel jealous even though he has no actual problems with it... The more I dance around the subject, the more I feel like not telling him might be a good idea- I think it might mess with his head.

Gaah, i dont know!

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #12 on: 30 May 2014, 01:10:00 am »
Really? Sounds to me like he'd be open to it, would just have to get used to the idea and wouldn't want all the juicy details... But I don't know as you're the one in your relationship. Honesty is always my best policy. My boyfriend knows what I do and it makes me feel a lot happier knowing that he knows and all he cares about is my safety etc...

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #13 on: 31 May 2014, 02:37:58 pm »
I think in this job you have to do it being single unless your very very very extremely lucky to have a boyfriend who understands.
My ex knew I was doing it before we got together and expected me to give up just like that, become jealous, tried to buy me into the relationship. Hell no! It ended bitterly on his part..I think it put a downer on his ego! Well it would put a downer on my ego depending on my bf financially. Lol.

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Re: glad to be single and escorting
« Reply #14 on: 31 May 2014, 02:59:04 pm »
Being single and escorting is easier.  The guilt gets to much constantly thinking about the other when with clients.