Well that shows just how differently posts can be read. I fully understood the point Kurlie was making and dont think she was at all expecting anyone to agree with her or was looking for bimbo airheads replies. If anything her points showed a real understanding of the more subtle dymanics of PN and some of its regular posters. I would guess she has been around the industry a good while and so it is a shame she has left.
Reading through Kurly's old post again, I totally agree with Trafford and others. Speaking as someone not directly involved with any Pboard (although I have been lurking long enough) I have to say that from a distance... and this may ruffle a few feathers... they don't exactly smack of female empowerment. I am sure there are more subtle dynamics going on between people knowing each other, as well as the existence of opinionated women, considerate men, friendships forming etc.
But my problem with these boards is, that there is a certain type of Wanky Bloke allowed in to freely spew verbal abuse, in a way he wouldn't be on say: BDSM, swinger or dating sites. Which basically sends the message to users and lurkers alike that it's acceptable behaviour. Especially when some of these individuals are, what's it called? Verified/Honoured Members or even Moderators.
Because there is a clear line between being opinionated and verbally abusive.
Example 1) it is
not OK to say "why are so many Dommes/Escorts on AW old and unattractive?". What you as a punter could say is that
you prefer to see young Dommes/Escorts with model looks. It may brand you as shallow, (and God knows some men are shallow) but at least then you are not being derogatory to every sex seller (or woman for that matter) over 40.
Example 2) it is
not OK to hijack (what seems like half of all the threads going), in order to bemoan escorts for being too expensive, greedy, think we're somewhat worth the money we're charging and variations thereof. What you as a punter could do is to get some professional help IMO. As that would be a lot cheaper.
Remarks as such do nothing to address the underlying issues some punters may have for "having to" pay for sex. But those remarks, this nagging, those passive aggressive jokes I believe
do chip away at our confidence and undermine our professional identities time and time and time again. Which may explain why some ladies decide to charge less, increase the number of extras they provide etc.
That's what I meant when saying some posters were woman hating. Especially when some Wankers pass a "got yourself to blame cause you were so greedy" remark right after a poor woman got raped by a serious scam "agency".
As for me, I don't mind strong opinions. But I do mind verbal abuse from people not bothered to address their own mental health issues. Because I am not there to nurse them by patiently explaining facts everybody else knows and propably already tried to explain. Nor am I there to nag the Moderators to do their job properly, if they are not even bothered by said abuse. Which is why I have so far stayed clear from boards where these ManToddlers get to rumage without proper supervision.
~SnakeLady