I really hate it when clients pester you about your personal life...

it's nice to have a chit chat, but today it got far too personal! he started asking about my personal sex life, my family, my relationships, my other clients... and he just wouldn't stop pestering.

it really puts me off seeing them again when it gets too personal, they are boundaries between girl and client and it really does suck when they cross it.

maybe I'm just being over the top private... does anyone else get this too?

No that is your private life therefore by definition PRIVATE! I just make it up as I go along and come out with something so fantastical their jaw hits the ground. In my case if I want to kill the conversation dead I just start to tell them about SRS (crudely, having my cock chopped off) that seems to do it!

I've got it, tell 'em you used to be a man pmsl.

Two ways to deal with that:

- Make up a fake history to go with your fake prossie persona, but memorise it well, as clients often remember what you tell them and will ask you about the things you tell them next time they see you.

or

- Tell them politely that your private life is private and out of bounds of the conversation and every time he asks a poersonal question you say:" That is private and I'd rather not talk about it" and change the subject.

This is why it is important to memorise your persona well and stick to the same one for all clients.

When I invented my persona I wrote it all down and memorised it, this was actually a tip I stole from a phone sex agency, who when I signed up for more than one type of caller recommended to do this for each character I wanted to play and to keep the scripts handy.

None of the clients I have said that their question was a little too personal took offence - this is where you have to gauge the clients character a bit and it depends on the way you say it.

Another option is to be vague with your answers and change the subject or reflect it back onto them, but that can become a bit of a verbal sparring match.

I do the script thing, it works well for me. A fake "real" name so I dont keep forgetting it! Hobbies are real so I know what im talking about on the off chance that the client is interested and not just prying to be polite! Family situation is a complete fabrication though. Thats just private full stop. People just tend to take things the wrong way so I fib to save thier feelings.

I often use the distraction technique. Whenever they start asking personal questions, I will start answering them, and start to undress as I do it, or roll down my stockings, of sit real close to them and touch them, it is amazing how they never seem to get to the next question, and I then have them wrapped up, sorted, patted on the ass, and out the door before they remember to ask another one.

Another case of men not having enough blood to run their willy and their brain at the same time 

A client I've  met a couple of times back in 2008 had sent me an email today, after seeing my ad in my former working city asking, "I thought you moved to..."

I am tempted to respond, "What the fuck do you care!?" Its not like he has booked me in the past 12 months 

Joey, temper temper!  Hon, we are in the business of managing expectations, providing a service, lite psychoanalysis, and dealing with stupid people, you know this, why are you still at this point getting bent out of shape? His question isn't as bad as some you've had lately.

Joey, temper temper!  Hon, we are in the business of managing expectations, providing a service, lite psychoanalysis, and dealing with stupid people, you know this, why are you still at this point getting bent out of shape? His question isn't as bad as some you've had lately.

Mind you...he's the same guy who booked me a few months later, and then cancelled. He also told me my rate was "too much"...even though it was the same rate he paid me the past 2 times.

I didnt even respond to the email...he has pissed me off for the last time. But not in a way to get me bent out of shape LOL, more in a way like, "ugh, why are you hitting me up after all these months!"