Hi, this is my first post here, I’m just wondering if anyone has continued working when they have bigger kids. I mean 10-15 age.
I ask as I have two girls, in that bracket. And last week one of them found a pair of my “work” shoes. Basically stripper heels. And asked what they were for and they’d never seen me wearing them out. So it started a bit of conversation & worry between me & my husband (who is fully aware of what I do and is perfectly ok with it)
Has anyone had their kids find out or how did it go. For context I live in rural Ireland. So the community finding out would likely be a huge problem. I don’t see many clients, generally 2-3 a week. Although coincidentally an opportunity has come up just recently that could see me be much busier if I wanted. But that’s a separate issue.
Sorry for the long post. And thanks. Lex x

To be honest we had planned on them never finding out. Well we hadn’t really talked about it but just assumed they’d never find out. It’s just the last week we’ve actually spoke about it. My stuff is generally all put away out of sight it was just that pair of heels had got dirty and I’d left them in my shower to clean them.
I kind of work in my home area but not in the traditional sense, I have a particular client base, lorry drivers. I go to their truck when they’re parked up local hence the shoes being dirty.  I don’t even advertise anymore, it’s just word of mouth amongst them which is why I don’t see very many. I kind of fell into this over Covid and have been doing it since.
But before this issue came up with the kids we’d been talking about possibly working more or seeing more than just the truckers. And one regular guy had asked me to provide extra services for extra money. So we had been giving it all a lot of thought. But now I wonder should I just stop altogether for fear of the kids finding out my head has been fried thinking about it with the last week

I told my children when they were 15 and 17. As a single mum, it would not have been possible to keep it a secret, although I told my eldest first. I’m no good at sneaking around and there would have been too many questions.

They were both fine about it but tbh, I didn’t give them a choice as I was moving from a toxic work environment that was affecting my health.

Fast forward and they are completely accepting of what I do but we don’t talk about it, apart from where I’m going on tour etc. They see my role more as a sex therapist, which is pretty much what I think prostitution is, albeit hands on!  They are still at home although one of them is moving out next year.

They have both acknowledged that they wouldn’t have had the lifestyle they’ve had if it wasn’t for my choice of job. Whilst I realise that keeping the secret might have been easier on them, I’m just not very good at leading a double life.

That said, other family members do not know but since I don’t have that much to do with them, I’m not bothered. My mother knows and has, from day one.

If I had a partner who was able to cover for me and share some of the burden emotionally, I likely would have managed to keep it a secret (a bit like MI5  )

What it has led to is completely honest communication with my children and they see me as very open and approachable (they will even discuss their sex lives or ask questions) so it’s worked out well.

They also realise that the sex industry is far reaching and not just Only Fans etc, that not everyone is a victim and that normal women choose to make their livelihoods this way.

This is only my experience but it’s been a positive one.

(This was about 12 years ago)

I've got a 10 year old daughter and I do not want her to find out yet...if at all.
She's seen me with high heeled shoes and one night I went out dressed very smart, she asked  where I was going and I said into town to have dinner with a friend.
I predominantly do outcalls, and try to work during the daytime.

she's also seen my lingerie and stockings drying on the airer but I just told her that I like pretty bras haha.

Most of my outfits are smart/casual and not too far removed from what I wear daily unless she sees a dress and then her ears prick up  lol

Hubby is all ok with it and can share some of the burden, but there is a lot of, as someone mentioned, sneaking about to rival MI5!