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Rosie13

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #15 on: 11 September 2021, 01:01:04 pm »
I think being in sex work, I’m a lot more sceptical of men’s intentions in civvy life/dating so I probably don’t give out the same energy I might had I never been in this line of work and had my eyes opened. In private life I’m not looking for a quick shag or a fling and I make men work harder for my affections if I’m going to be with them for free. So it’s maybe not so much about seeming repulsive outside of sex work, maybe just a little less obtainable.

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« Reply #16 on: 13 September 2021, 09:19:31 am »
I think being in sex work, I’m a lot more sceptical of men’s intentions in civvy life/dating so I probably don’t give out the same energy I might had I never been in this line of work and had my eyes opened. In private life I’m not looking for a quick shag or a fling and I make men work harder for my affections if I’m going to be with them for free. So it’s maybe not so much about seeming repulsive outside of sex work, maybe just a little less obtainable.

Let’s factor in that majority of civvy men would never ever date a prostitute and outright reject the whole idea, so perhaps we’ve invisible for them due to that.

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #17 on: 13 September 2021, 02:11:03 pm »
Let’s factor in that majority of civvy men would never ever date a prostitute and outright reject the whole idea, so perhaps we’ve invisible for them due to that.

In my experience some will and others won't, but unless the OP is wearing a T-shirt with 'I Am A Prostitute' printed front and back, how are the men she's talking about going to know what she does for a living?

Rosie13

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« Reply #18 on: 13 September 2021, 03:17:23 pm »
Let’s factor in that majority of civvy men would never ever date a prostitute and outright reject the whole idea, so perhaps we’ve invisible for them due to that.

How are they going to know before the point of initial interest though? Making the admission I’m a sex worker isn’t really how I tend to lead a conversation.

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #19 on: 13 September 2021, 04:25:28 pm »
Of course nobody has this written on their forehead. But I’m going to risk a bet not many would stick around if this was made clear to them. Majority just can’t cope with it.

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« Reply #20 on: 13 September 2021, 05:16:06 pm »
I can't say that I've experienced it.
 I've never had trouble attracting civvy men although I don't tell them what I do for a living, but the problem now is that unless they meet my very high standards and preferences with regards to looks and performance then I'm just not willing to give it away for free.

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« Reply #21 on: 14 September 2021, 08:41:00 am »
I can't say that I've experienced it.
 I've never had trouble attracting civvy men although I don't tell them what I do for a living, but the problem now is that unless they meet my very high standards and preferences with regards to looks and performance then I'm just not willing to give it away for free.


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Here it’s not even about the looks as I’ve dated physically unattractive men before who made up with their masculinity/personality. It’s much more about attraction and compatibility as well as if they’re a good partner for me to give the job up. Since they’re not able to provide the same finances, it has got to be Someone who is able to provide things that money isn’t able to buy.


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« Reply #22 on: 15 September 2021, 12:03:20 pm »
I think being in sex work, I’m a lot more sceptical of men’s intentions in civvy life/dating so I probably don’t give out the same energy I might had I never been in this line of work and had my eyes opened. In private life I’m not looking for a quick shag or a fling and I make men work harder for my affections if I’m going to be with them for free. So it’s maybe not so much about seeming repulsive outside of sex work, maybe just a little less obtainable.

Haha to be honest it was getting back in the civvie dating scene that sent me back to escorting  ;D a lot of civvie guys around my age now that I meet either have toxic past relationships and they now have issues with women, coke/alcohol problems, or pretending to be single when they arnt so they can land me as a side chick! This was after splitting from a 10 year relationship with children I honestly thought sod it I'm going back to escorting i can't deal with this  :FF ;D

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« Reply #23 on: 15 September 2021, 12:06:24 pm »
I can't say that I've experienced it.
 I've never had trouble attracting civvy men although I don't tell them what I do for a living, but the problem now is that unless they meet my very high standards and preferences with regards to looks and performance then I'm just not willing to give it away for free.

This is true for me to, unless I find the guy hot and am lustfully attracted to him, I am not interested. I was seeing a civvie guy who ticked all the boxes except he'd had toxic past relationships he wasn't yet ready for another...were still friends though and tbh I prefer it that way for now. I honestly cannot be bothered with all the hassle of a proper relationship.

Rosie13

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #24 on: 15 September 2021, 12:40:41 pm »
Haha to be honest it was getting back in the civvie dating scene that sent me back to escorting  ;D a lot of civvie guys around my age now that I meet either have toxic past relationships and they now have issues with women, coke/alcohol problems, or pretending to be single when they arnt so they can land me as a side chick! This was after splitting from a 10 year relationship with children I honestly thought sod it I'm going back to escorting i can't deal with this  :FF ;D

Can relate! I would love to meet someone but I’ve honestly got clients I like better than half my exes and they require far less hassle  ;D

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #25 on: 15 September 2021, 09:27:52 pm »
. I honestly cannot be bothered with all the hassle of a proper relationship.

I feel the same after coming out of a long term relationship so I may seem shallow  (Ok I am! lol) so if I'm not feeling the lust then I'm not giving it away.


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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #26 on: 16 September 2021, 09:53:09 pm »
It was seeing how nice clients were to me that made me realise what an ungrateful shit my ex was, tbf.

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #27 on: 27 September 2021, 12:09:10 pm »
I find that outside of escorting if a guy is freely throwing compliments at me he is just doing what he thinks will get on my good side and in my knickers. Overly charming men are just saying what they think we want to hear and maybe even sense how I don't personally think I'm that attractive or i don't often get compliments like a stunning woman does so need the boost lol . My trying to get a civvy relationship is depressing and I'm on the dating apps as I don't go out that much. I don't even get that much attention from clients tbh and i know I'm not ugly but just not Stunning, Girl next door pretty and average. So I often feel like I could do with some cosmetic intervention.

But I have had many clients want to see me outside of bookings because they are lonely and like my company and chat.

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #28 on: 27 September 2021, 09:41:27 pm »
It was seeing how nice clients were to me that made me realise what an ungrateful shit my ex was, tbf.

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Re: No Interest From Civvy Men
« Reply #29 on: 27 September 2021, 09:52:49 pm »
The great paradox of escorting is that my clients treat me far better and are far more considerate of my needs than some of boyfriends ever were. I could even go so far that several casual boyfriends made me feel far more like a hooker than any client who has paid for my time.