not that im a big mumsnet reader  ( although i do like aibu) but i saw this on the relationships forums and found it quite interesting   
 
you will need to put the http:// at the beginging of the link to get it to work  as i didnt want mumsnet admin all of a sudden getting lots of hits from all of us


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     im still reading this thread and its unreal that out of  630 posts   i would say 98 percent of the women replying all are adament that there husbands, fathers, sons, brothers, would not use a escort,  they all seem to think that the men that use escort treat them like a piece of meat  ( is that why were all so quiet that men dont use us )

IMO a lot of women r in denial about their husbands etc using escorts; if this were true most of us would c no guys!

im still hooked on this -  anyone know when  bell de jour started as the OP  mentions that she was working for 4 years and has been out for 18 months  but that she was inspired by it   -  i didnt think bell de jour was around then 
maybe she is a journo  or am i just being sceptical 
 

Secret Diary started in 2007, so yes it would work, and the blog was already popular in 2004.

I haven't read the thread, but I'd assume that the vast majority of people in committed monogamous relationships assume their partner isn't shagging anyone else because if they couldn't believe that they wouldn't be getting into monogamous relationships. Even if you know that quite a lot of men do pay for sex on the side that's no reason to assume that your darling is breaking his vows, and if you're that suspicious all the time you're not likely to have any satisfying relationships.

I read the Belle du Jour books or blog in 2005 when they first came out. I remember that cause I was working in bookshop that year and it was getting mentioned a lot. So the dates would work I guess. Don't think it's a journo, but can't fathom how all those women are saying their husbands would NEVER do it 

im still hooked on this -  anyone know when  bell de jour started as the OP  mentions that she was working for 4 years and has been out for 18 months  but that she was inspired by it   -  i didnt think bell de jour was around then 
maybe she is a journo  or am i just being sceptical 
 

Paris, I've been following that thread since it started    and I thought exactly the same thing re journo.  There is also another thread re 'one night stands' .......... funny how there was a poll on tv of late asking for these figs.  Really makes you suspicious.  Time will tell if its journo.

Yes, even allowing for the fact that she's had enough of the work, that's what struck me too.

I wonder if it's selective memory - there's a great chapter in one of the whore-lit books about how the average clients merge into one and what's left are the memorably good and bad ones - or Yet Another Reason Not To Trust An Agency With Looking After You.

that what i thought maybe selective memory in that she only remembers the bad ones now she is out of it,   overall my experience hasnt been bad,  i mean i can probably count those clients that i would NOT see again on both hands and still have one or two fingers left.    i get where she is coming from  about when your out and about you will look at guys and think potential client but i do the same with women if they are in a bar /nice car and dressed nicely  ( very sad i know)  and i sure as hell dont want to punch them
     
     Of course  there  have had clients that will try to push boundaries  weve all had them and we all have our own ways of dealing with them   Because i have long hair its a bloody magnet for those guys that want to  pull or hold on to  when im giving them a bj   
  but i just move myself so that they cant do this or i remove there hand and if they try to do it again then i tell them that i dont like it and to stop  but it dosnet traumastise me or make me hate me or myself,   and yes there are those with bad hygiene and those that are just assholes   but those guys are everywhere not just paying for sex and  ive never been spat at or assulted  ( not to say that it dosnt happen of course) 

  I think that maybe because  she only ever worked for an agency  and she was not able to vet her clients  herself  thats possibly  one of the reasons she feel like she dose because she has had no or very little control over the clients that she met with  which is why she feels the way she dose also feeling that bad but having to stick with it is even worse 

 i dont think that  by asking on mumsnet  she is going to get a very balancened view of it either, considering that virtually all of them are saying no their husbands have not slept with a escort and those that do are sick individuals or they have raped a girl by having sex with her because  he is paying her     

 
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I could imagine maybe she feels so bad about herself for having done the work at all that yes the selective memory thing would make sense. I wish someone could point her in the direction of here but don't know if the mumnet people would allow that !