Oh Sweetheart we're very glad you shared!
I think members are trying to be helpful by repeating safety rules they've learnt through horrible experiences too.
You'll soon figure out how to avoid these attacks as bad guys are predictable. Same stories, same methods.
When we're on duty it can be dangerous to 'think the best of people', because we are targets.
I don't think anyone means to criticise you personally or to make you feel bad at all