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Gypsy

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Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« on: 22 January 2019, 01:16:34 pm »
Does anyone else get phonecalls from people who assume you're forced to work set hours? It's just the impression I get from some people. They seemed shocked when I say my hours are flexible and it really does depend on the day you want to book. It irritates me when they seem to think you work for someone else  ::)

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #1 on: 22 January 2019, 02:29:42 pm »
I think sometimes it’s men who are trying to work their schedule around your set hours, if you have set hours. A lot in the biz do have set working hours I think. I don’t. It does bug me when clients want to book far in advance as I’m just not that way inclined.

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #2 on: 22 January 2019, 02:32:55 pm »
Conversely it annoys me when they assume we're available 24/7...
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Gypsy

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #3 on: 22 January 2019, 03:18:35 pm »
Conversely it annoys me when they assume we're available 24/7...

Yes, definitely! They assume we start at the crack of dawn and work until midnight   ::) They're shocked when they realise I have a life outside this job.
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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #4 on: 22 January 2019, 03:31:26 pm »
Conversely it annoys me when they assume we're available 24/7...

This as well, I've almost always had extremely strict set hours and I get guys asking for times I'm clearly not working then pushing for odd times and complaining.  It's as if some think we have nothing else to do and no outside commitments. My best mate was a non-sensual massuse and had the same though. 

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #5 on: 22 January 2019, 10:56:11 pm »
Does anyone else get phonecalls from people who assume you're forced to work set hours?

This is really two different things though; working set hours (as I do) doesn't have anything to do with being 'forced' to do anything or under somebody else's control? I treat my job like any other job and I like to have proper start times, finish times and days off.

Provided everybody makes the way they work clear, I think this is just another variation on the eternal 'why don't they read the bloody ads'. Mine couldn't be more obvious, and I still get missed calls in the middle of the night, on Sundays and so on ::)

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #6 on: 24 January 2019, 01:55:26 am »
I work set hours. Flexibility is good though if it can be managed.
I hate the 1s who email on the days I'm never available asking for bookings when my availability is clearly written in 2 different places on my profile.

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #7 on: 26 January 2019, 04:06:09 am »
I fall on the side of being annoyed that you’re expected to be working 24/7. I get as many calls after midnight as I do some day times.  I imagine some clients assume I’m laid on a bed sighing in my lingerie, willing my phone to ring at 4am.

Im flexible but always set my availability on my profile. Clients seem shocked when I say I’m not available and when they ask why not, I tell them.  ‘I’m in B & Q’ ... ‘I’m up a ladder’ ... ‘I’m at a 4 yr olds birthday party’.  I know I don’t need to but I do like giving the pushy ones a dose of reality at times :-)

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #8 on: 26 January 2019, 04:23:43 am »
Many  think we have no need for sleep for food shopping nor for recreation.  Ridiculous isn't it!

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #9 on: 26 January 2019, 06:13:47 am »
I get really annoyed especially when you tell them you don't work nights and you get the 'well I thought you needed the money' text, yes but I need sleep more  :FF
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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #10 on: 26 January 2019, 08:41:49 am »
If someone presses me I'll be honest telling them I'm tired, driving back after a booking, need to eat, and rest before early start....... Usually does the trick.

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #11 on: 26 January 2019, 09:04:19 am »
I fall on the side of being annoyed that you’re expected to be working 24/7. I get as many calls after midnight as I do some day times.  I imagine some clients assume I’m laid on a bed sighing in my lingerie, willing my phone to ring at 4am.

Im flexible but always set my availability on my profile. Clients seem shocked when I say I’m not available and when they ask why not, I tell them.  ‘I’m in B & Q’ ... ‘I’m up a ladder’ ... ‘I’m at a 4 yr olds birthday party’.  I know I don’t need to but I do like giving the pushy ones a dose of reality at times :-)

Ha ha ha! Yes, very true!  ;D
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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #12 on: 26 January 2019, 10:22:41 am »
I fall on the side of being annoyed that you’re expected to be working 24/7. I get as many calls after midnight as I do some day times.  I imagine some clients assume I’m laid on a bed sighing in my lingerie, willing my phone to ring at 4am.

Im flexible but always set my availability on my profile. Clients seem shocked when I say I’m not available and when they ask why not, I tell them.  ‘I’m in B & Q’ ... ‘I’m up a ladder’ ... ‘I’m at a 4 yr olds birthday party’.  I know I don’t need to but I do like giving the pushy ones a dose of reality at times :-)

I'm 300 miles away.

One punter I'd seen a few times got heavy right before an important private life event, at the time I was completely unable to travel and about to do something I'd spent a lot of time and money preparing for. I wasn't going to tell him that at the time, it was too personal, too specific and too important.

He received a full explanation at a later date, real pity because in session he's great - out of session/pushing for bookings he's extremely pushy and off putting.

Many years ago when I was ill I did have punters/clients try persuade me to see them EVEN after I said I was ill/not fit for a booking.

Assuming they would have turned up which we know is always a bit iffy, along with other evidence it convinced me that some punters will book women who are forced/coerced/addicted/unable to consent which is a heavy dose of reality.  :( :-\

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #13 on: 26 January 2019, 12:22:31 pm »
Yes I've also had clients say, when I've answered the phone but been really ill (so unwell that can't get out of bed!) say "Please see me I don't mind catching the flu off you"   :o :FF

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Re: Men Who Think You Work Set Hours
« Reply #14 on: 26 January 2019, 12:39:47 pm »
And the "What time do you start in the morning?" Well I usually 'start' when I get my first booking because I can't really start on my own now can I?! A lot can't seem to grasp the idea of 'appointments' I think *some* think all escorts just sit around all day waiting for the phone to ring, desperate to take any booking that comes their way.

I once had a client kept calling me every night wanting a booking 'now' I turned him down loads of times then when he finally listened and made an appointment I asked him why he had kept on calling me with short notice, he said he just assumed that because I had a ad up that I was always available and just constantly sat with my phone keen to make as much money as possible, when I asked him didn't he think I could possibly have other things in my life such as family, other commitments etc, like most people who work in any other job do, and he said no that hadn't even crossed his mind, he assumed I was single with nothing else going on but answering the phone and doing bookings. I remember thinking at the time that *some*  don't even see us as actual human beings.