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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Gypsy on 22 January 2019, 01:16:34 pm
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Does anyone else get phonecalls from people who assume you're forced to work set hours? It's just the impression I get from some people. They seemed shocked when I say my hours are flexible and it really does depend on the day you want to book. It irritates me when they seem to think you work for someone else ::)
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I think sometimes it’s men who are trying to work their schedule around your set hours, if you have set hours. A lot in the biz do have set working hours I think. I don’t. It does bug me when clients want to book far in advance as I’m just not that way inclined.
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Conversely it annoys me when they assume we're available 24/7...
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Conversely it annoys me when they assume we're available 24/7...
Yes, definitely! They assume we start at the crack of dawn and work until midnight ::) They're shocked when they realise I have a life outside this job.
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Conversely it annoys me when they assume we're available 24/7...
This as well, I've almost always had extremely strict set hours and I get guys asking for times I'm clearly not working then pushing for odd times and complaining. It's as if some think we have nothing else to do and no outside commitments. My best mate was a non-sensual massuse and had the same though.
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Does anyone else get phonecalls from people who assume you're forced to work set hours?
This is really two different things though; working set hours (as I do) doesn't have anything to do with being 'forced' to do anything or under somebody else's control? I treat my job like any other job and I like to have proper start times, finish times and days off.
Provided everybody makes the way they work clear, I think this is just another variation on the eternal 'why don't they read the bloody ads'. Mine couldn't be more obvious, and I still get missed calls in the middle of the night, on Sundays and so on ::)
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I work set hours. Flexibility is good though if it can be managed.
I hate the 1s who email on the days I'm never available asking for bookings when my availability is clearly written in 2 different places on my profile.
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I fall on the side of being annoyed that you’re expected to be working 24/7. I get as many calls after midnight as I do some day times. I imagine some clients assume I’m laid on a bed sighing in my lingerie, willing my phone to ring at 4am.
Im flexible but always set my availability on my profile. Clients seem shocked when I say I’m not available and when they ask why not, I tell them. ‘I’m in B & Q’ ... ‘I’m up a ladder’ ... ‘I’m at a 4 yr olds birthday party’. I know I don’t need to but I do like giving the pushy ones a dose of reality at times :-)
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Many think we have no need for sleep for food shopping nor for recreation. Ridiculous isn't it!
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I get really annoyed especially when you tell them you don't work nights and you get the 'well I thought you needed the money' text, yes but I need sleep more :FF
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If someone presses me I'll be honest telling them I'm tired, driving back after a booking, need to eat, and rest before early start....... Usually does the trick.
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I fall on the side of being annoyed that you’re expected to be working 24/7. I get as many calls after midnight as I do some day times. I imagine some clients assume I’m laid on a bed sighing in my lingerie, willing my phone to ring at 4am.
Im flexible but always set my availability on my profile. Clients seem shocked when I say I’m not available and when they ask why not, I tell them. ‘I’m in B & Q’ ... ‘I’m up a ladder’ ... ‘I’m at a 4 yr olds birthday party’. I know I don’t need to but I do like giving the pushy ones a dose of reality at times :-)
Ha ha ha! Yes, very true! ;D
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I fall on the side of being annoyed that you’re expected to be working 24/7. I get as many calls after midnight as I do some day times. I imagine some clients assume I’m laid on a bed sighing in my lingerie, willing my phone to ring at 4am.
Im flexible but always set my availability on my profile. Clients seem shocked when I say I’m not available and when they ask why not, I tell them. ‘I’m in B & Q’ ... ‘I’m up a ladder’ ... ‘I’m at a 4 yr olds birthday party’. I know I don’t need to but I do like giving the pushy ones a dose of reality at times :-)
I'm 300 miles away.
One punter I'd seen a few times got heavy right before an important private life event, at the time I was completely unable to travel and about to do something I'd spent a lot of time and money preparing for. I wasn't going to tell him that at the time, it was too personal, too specific and too important.
He received a full explanation at a later date, real pity because in session he's great - out of session/pushing for bookings he's extremely pushy and off putting.
Many years ago when I was ill I did have punters/clients try persuade me to see them EVEN after I said I was ill/not fit for a booking.
Assuming they would have turned up which we know is always a bit iffy, along with other evidence it convinced me that some punters will book women who are forced/coerced/addicted/unable to consent which is a heavy dose of reality. :( :-\
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Yes I've also had clients say, when I've answered the phone but been really ill (so unwell that can't get out of bed!) say "Please see me I don't mind catching the flu off you" :o :FF
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And the "What time do you start in the morning?" Well I usually 'start' when I get my first booking because I can't really start on my own now can I?! A lot can't seem to grasp the idea of 'appointments' I think *some* think all escorts just sit around all day waiting for the phone to ring, desperate to take any booking that comes their way.
I once had a client kept calling me every night wanting a booking 'now' I turned him down loads of times then when he finally listened and made an appointment I asked him why he had kept on calling me with short notice, he said he just assumed that because I had a ad up that I was always available and just constantly sat with my phone keen to make as much money as possible, when I asked him didn't he think I could possibly have other things in my life such as family, other commitments etc, like most people who work in any other job do, and he said no that hadn't even crossed his mind, he assumed I was single with nothing else going on but answering the phone and doing bookings. I remember thinking at the time that *some* don't even see us as actual human beings.
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And the "What time do you start in the morning?" Well I usually 'start' when I get my first booking because I can't really start on my own now can I?! A lot can't seem to grasp the idea of 'appointments' I think *some* think all escorts just sit around all day waiting for the phone to ring, desperate to take any booking that comes their way.
I once had a client kept calling me every night wanting a booking 'now' I turned him down loads of times then when he finally listened and made an appointment I asked him why he had kept on calling me with short notice, he said he just assumed that because I had a ad up that I was always available and just constantly sat with my phone keen to make as much money as possible, when I asked him didn't he think I could possibly have other things in my life such as family, other commitments etc, like most people who work in any other job do, and he said no that hadn't even crossed his mind, he assumed I was single with nothing else going on but answering the phone and doing bookings. I remember thinking at the time that *some* don't even see us as actual human beings.
There are pros and cons to this, I have another 'by appointment' job - however if folk cancel there's no replacement (because they do book in advance), whereas sex work can be pretty fluid.
Another thing which has been assumed is that I live in my incall place, one repeat booker has apologised and we've both changed our approach to each other as a result. He genuinely thought I was sat there, everything ready and waiting. I must hide my very varied wardrobe very well.
Also we are often part of a fantasy - the fantasy to the punter is that we are just 'sexy' and available..................of course if they've never seen our side there's also no way of knowing how we do work. Some are sat waiting, some of us are not. When I've revealed my occupation to people not involved in sex work, a few have never thought there'd be an appointment or screening system. Assuming men just wander in and out, do what they want leaving some cash as payment.
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There are pros and cons to this, I have another 'by appointment' job - however if folk cancel there's no replacement (because they do book in advance), whereas sex work can be pretty fluid.
Another thing which has been assumed is that I live in my incall place, one repeat booker has apologised and we've both changed our approach to each other as a result. He genuinely thought I was sat there, everything ready and waiting. I must hide my very varied wardrobe very well.
Also we are often part of a fantasy - the fantasy to the punter is that we are just 'sexy' and available..................of course if they've never seen our side there's also no way of knowing how we do work. Some are sat waiting, some of us are not. When I've revealed my occupation to people not involved in sex work, a few have never thought there'd be an appointment or screening system. Assuming men just wander in and out, do what they want leaving some cash as payment.
Yes you make some good points here, if we get a no show there's usually someone else calling for short notice so it can work in our favour :)
Even if you did work from home its still quite unreasonable to expect you to just drop everything and see someone at short notice.
And yes a lot of people tend to assume all sorts about the way escorts work, a few inexperienced clients have casually said things to me, in all seriousness, like "Do any of your clients ever hit you" ???
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I hate being asked what time is your latest booking? What time do you start? How about tomorrow? The weekend? Do you work Sunday's?
I start when I want to start and finish when I want to finish and sometimes decide on the day if I'm working or not depending on how I feel, how tired I am, if I have other stuff that needs doing, or if I just need a break and am not in the mood. The last thing I want to do is say I finish at 8pm when it's 11am in the afternoon that I am being asked. If I get only 1 booking all day and that's for 5pm which is long enough to have to wait as it is, the last thing I then want to do is have to wait until 8pm for the callers booking to come along when I can just do the 5pm, see if anything else pops up by 6.30pm and then chill and have my dinner and relax in front of the TV for the evening. As for Sunday's, well I do need a day I can get stuff done in the house like the cleaning and tidying and washing and family may well drop in unannounced too so hard to say yes I work Sunday's until the actual day.
Can't stand the what time you working til questions!!! Usually they are wanting a really late booking I wouldn't do in the first place like 11pm. Sod off! Why not get straight to the point and just simply ask if I can do an 11pm booking?
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If I am asked these questions I just turn it around and ask what time suits them
They get no more info from me than that and if they are serious they will tell you when they want the booking, to which you can reply yes or no.
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I have a start and finish time, I also work certain days of the week, so I don't understand why it's an odd question. What time do I work to questions in the morning are usually when they are trying to organise their own day.
Some do accept advance bookings so will ask. I do accept advance bookings if they complete the booking form.
If I'm ill and not working as a result, I put something on my profile at the top (not the header) to say I'm ill and not taking bookings. My phone will be on for a few hours whilst I contact any bookings I have made to cancel if it rings I explain sorry I'm not working as I'm ill and hang up.
The ones that assume that we are always available is because of the convey belt sp's.
Some sp's do see ss at short notice.
It's like the how many times can I pop question. It's because some will only allow one pop even on 1 or more hour bookings. Some charge extra per pop.
I get asked all the above and I answer them or refer back to the profile if they start asking too many questions. They will call back either that day for the appointment or a few days later.
They will have had different experiences with sp's and so rather than thinking we all work the same they ask questions.
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If I am asked these questions I just turn it around and ask what time suits them
They get no more info from me than that and if they are serious they will tell you when they want the booking, to which you can reply yes or no.
I always use this now. I have someone I have seen before who now always texts: "How soon can you get to me?" I ignore him, 10 minutes later he calls and I ask how long does HE have? It is always a 30-45 minute slot for me to drop everything and drive to his city for his pleasure..
The booking lasts under 5 minutes and is super easy, but his attitude annoys the hell out of me and I flat refuse.. >:(
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I work set hours and days, and occasionally throw in an extra day or stay on later if desired. I like to work that way! Although, my personal life doesn't really allow for "fluid" work days - I have set days where I CAN work, so I do.
I generally always work at my advertised times too, after always slacking off early and not being consistent when I first started. Although, if I am due to start at 10am, but don't have anything scheduled til say midday, and there is little chance of me filling that time at late notice, then I'll take my sweet time in getting to my work place. 9/10 times I wont have missed any bookings by doing so. This morning, however, I didn't have anything scheduled til 11am, reg texted at 9am trying to book 30 mins at 10am. I had fully intended on swinging by the coffee place for my fix then slowly sauntering in. Instead, I threw myself into my car and drove the 40 mins to my flat, buzzed that I had got the time filled :-P
Again, with booking requests for nearer my finishing time, I will accept and honour them. I never used to, but I have become wise in my experience and now know that even one extra booking is better than cutting my day short then kicking myself for losing work out of sheer impatience or laziness. I now use any inbetween time to work on other stuff. Sometimes I go for a nap.
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Or my phone won't ring all day, I'll go to sleep about 11 pm, wake up at 7 am to 13 missed calls, smh. I mean, I wouldn't have SEEN you anyway, but in no ad of mine does it say anywhere "OPEN 24/7 BECAUSE I NEVER SLEEP."
ALL my ads, come to think of it, say 8 am to 10 PM bc I'm old & tired & frankly, you really don't want to see me after 10 pm; I can assure you that you won't be getting the best Celeste.