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CurlsnCurves

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Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« on: 19 April 2017, 10:01:19 am »
I feel like lately I am getting one punter after another who either cannot come in the booking or takes so long that I get lockjaw, very tired wrists, and lose the will to live! They always seem to want oral too, I could handle it better if it was actual sex but endless oral is something I do state I do not offer in long bookings as I really can't abide bookings concentrating just on me giving a blowjob. I think this is what makes things worse, the fact that even though I make it clear that I don't offer it I get climax challenged men who once they have finished playing with my holes with their hands only want oral from me and know full well they will take over half the booking with me sucking and may or may not get close to coming. Is it just me or is this not fair? I feel it's not playing by my rules and sneaking in. Just be lovely to have a few clients who aren't challenged climax wise. How do you deal with these types? They are the ones who book for a long time so as much as I really don't look forward to the bookings I am loathe to turn the money away. I've been told my oral skills are fantastic by a lot of punters over the years and have had my fair share of men who come straight away or really struggle to not come within the first 5-10mins, it's just the last few months I am struggling with these guys who are so difficult that no matter what I try nothing works or it's taking an extremely long time to get them there. It's my number one dislike at the moment along with them putting the pressure on me to come. Sometimes I do but mostly I don't and I'd much prefer it if they came and stopped hassling me to. Any tips to get a guy who is extremely hard to climax, come? I'm starting to get a complex over it all. I think a lot of these guys expect us to be miracle workers at times!
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #1 on: 19 April 2017, 12:57:55 pm »
Quote from: CurlsnCurves on 19 April 2017, 10:01:19 am
I feel like lately I am getting one punter after another who either cannot come in the booking or takes so long that I get lockjaw, very tired wrists, and lose the will to live! They always seem to want oral too, I could handle it better if it was actual sex but endless oral is something I do state I do not offer in long bookings as I really can't abide bookings concentrating just on me giving a blowjob. I think this is what makes things worse, the fact that even though I make it clear that I don't offer it I get climax challenged men who once they have finished playing with my holes with their hands only want oral from me and know full well they will take over half the booking with me sucking and may or may not get close to coming. Is it just me or is this not fair? I feel it's not playing by my rules and sneaking in. Just be lovely to have a few clients who aren't challenged climax wise. How do you deal with these types? They are the ones who book for a long time so as much as I really don't look forward to the bookings I am loathe to turn the money away. I've been told my oral skills are fantastic by a lot of punters over the years and have had my fair share of men who come straight away or really struggle to not come within the first 5-10mins, it's just the last few months I am struggling with these guys who are so difficult that no matter what I try nothing works or it's taking an extremely long time to get them there. It's my number one dislike at the moment along with them putting the pressure on me to come. Sometimes I do but mostly I don't and I'd much prefer it if they came and stopped hassling me to. Any tips to get a guy who is extremely hard to climax, come? I'm starting to get a complex over it all. I think a lot of these guys expect us to be miracle workers at times!

I make my advertising clear that I'm not interested in constant-going-at-it-shagging/sexual activity, and will make this clear on the phone to new clients. Result has been a mix wider mix, and fewer who want to focus on rubbing away like mad. Don't get me wrong I'll provide oral for a good length of time, and have some very passionate meets. I have found that being upfront, and not being afraid to say "I don't think we are suited/if you are looking for a porn star style performance please do not book me" means I get more of the type I prefer.

That's not to say the non-PSErs don't have issues climaxing, they simply aren't as focused on it and don't push it to the very end. They tend to sort of accept it, and opt for kissing and cuddling instead.
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #2 on: 19 April 2017, 01:52:06 pm »
If you think it's due to death grip wanking, I'd get the lube out and suggest they finish themselves off, while you play with their balls/perineum or kiss them etc.
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #3 on: 19 April 2017, 02:06:36 pm »
I used to get frustrated with this, had years of going OTT and getting neck strain, aching arms etc. I'm confident enough now not to let the punters take the mickey. Have you considered that some inconsiderates may have wanked before getting to you?
Don't give yourself repetitive strain injury, just be firm- I say things like, show me how its done, or help me, I need you to come on my face  ::)
usually works lol. They may not come, but you've tried enough
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #4 on: 19 April 2017, 02:12:16 pm »
Id stop the long bookings with new punters.
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« Reply #5 on: 19 April 2017, 03:48:48 pm »
The odd time I get this I'll stop and ask them what exactly would do it for them and if needs be and they are the type who always struggles to come I'll explain that my mouth/hand is starting to hurt and we need to try something else or they could take over for abit and watch me play with myself while they wank.If none of that works or they just don't want to and just want me to continue sucking/wabking despite it starting to hurt me  then I have cut the booking short and given some money back.
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« Reply #6 on: 19 April 2017, 04:00:38 pm »
I do wonder how they get themselves off when alone. I think for some it's porn with all the typical over the top rubbish made for men and they come to me thinking I'll talk the filth the actresses do and all that stuff but again it's clear on my profile I prefer to be the one being talked dirty too. I don't offer pse. Some will want themselves off for ages to no avail even with me sucking n licking their balls, tweaking their nipples, licking the head of their dick, on my knees mouth open telling them I want their cum in my mouth/ face, etc. Still they can't cum. And that's not even including my oral on them! Usually I would make a note to myself not to book again but the trouble is I've a few very reliable and very good payers who will even pay well in advance which is fantastic so I don't want to turn them away. I just wish I knew how the hell to make them climax without it taking a decade n wearing me right out. Needless to say I don't book anyone else on the days I see them. It's too exhausting!
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« Reply #7 on: 19 April 2017, 04:14:55 pm »
Oh yes n I do usually get the lube out to walk them. Sometimes I'll even do the death grip you mentioned. I know one guy said he'd not wanked for a couple of days. I think the issue with that one was being overly fanatical about girls and bukake and wanting what was on the porn he bought over. Well I'm not a pornstar, I don't act like one n I don't do bukake but he knew what I was like as it was a second booking. I've never thought to cut short a booking n refund some money. If I feel I've worked away hard in the booking and catered to all their needs and they haven't come then TBH I just think, well I did my bit as good as I usually do so why should I refund?Although I don't really want any punter to leave without blowing as then I don't feel I've done my job. Maybe if I feel halfway through its never going to happen I might really consider the part refund idea though. As if I keep getting these difficult punters I'd rather send them on their way than have all my time suffering with dealing with them. It sucks the fun right out of this work. It's like doing homework!
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #8 on: 19 April 2017, 04:22:10 pm »
I've never offered a refund because they haven't come.I've occiasionally offered to cut the booking short at minute 50 and given them 20 back because I have had enough,nothing to do with feeling guilty or whatever.I would rather give 20 back and not have an aching gob/hand/fanny and get another  more fun client in.Each to their own and was only a suggestion.
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #9 on: 19 April 2017, 04:26:29 pm »
Another trick to try is to use your vibrator on their bell end.Use it gently around the balls and anus first to tease and then hold their knob against the vibrator end and sometimes it will be goodnight vienna in seconds with some of them.Works the best on guys who may be delibetately holding out to the very bitter end.
Or a gentle finger up their jacksie and massage their prostrate if you offer anal play while wanking/blowing and they are up for trying it can work.
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« Reply #10 on: 19 April 2017, 04:45:00 pm »
Luckily i don't get too many guys like this. I always do my best to give an excellent service and put a lot in and do my best to make them cum. So I would never refund them if they are unable to.
One of my regulars sometimes takes ages. For me that is anything over half an hour. One time he took longer than normal and I had tried everything. He was good about it and told me to take a breather.
We started kissing whilst I played with his cock slowly which he seemed to enjoy.
After about five minutes of this he came.
This is something we never did before so could be because it was something new. Also he said after a while his cock gets sensitive so he doesn't feel the sensation as much so it's best to go slower sometimes to feel the sensation otherwise difficult to cum.
I don't like anyone putting pressure on me to cum. I have to be fully relaxed and at ease with someone to climax. Pile on the pressure at it won't happen.
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #11 on: 19 April 2017, 05:56:53 pm »
Quote from: CurlsnCurves on 19 April 2017, 10:01:19 am
I could handle it better if it was actual sex but endless oral is something I do state I do not offer in long bookings

Men don't read profiles.

Maybe, write a warning in a brief sentence in Bold letters:

NO PROLONGED ORAL GIVEN IN LONGER BOOKINGS.
No continuous oral longer than 10 minutes at a time. etc.
Or, charge extra.  At least, you're getting more money.
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« Reply #12 on: 20 April 2017, 03:57:08 pm »
Quote from: BibiofLeeds on 19 April 2017, 04:26:29 pm
Another trick to try is to use your vibrator on their bell end.Use it gently around the balls and anus first to tease and then hold their knob against the vibrator end and sometimes it will be goodnight vienna in seconds with some of them.Works the best on guys who may be delibetately holding out to the very bitter end.
Or a gentle finger up their jacksie and massage their prostrate if you offer anal play while wanking/blowing and they are up for trying it can work.

Vibrator on gooch works too!
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Re: Men who dont come or take ages to come, any tips on a speedy resolution?
« Reply #13 on: 20 April 2017, 11:14:12 pm »
Finger up the arse!
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« Reply #14 on: 25 April 2017, 01:23:35 pm »
Yes I know about the finger up the arse but it's not for everyone. I think they lose sensitivity after a while too, I'm glad someone pointed that out.
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