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Mirror

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #30 on: 01 July 2024, 02:15:46 pm »
This worked for me but I didn't do it with every client who wanted to spend time with me, it just clicked into place naturally with one and was only 'temporary' (I had a variety of things to resolve in my life). Now a fair few years into marriage! A year or two before this I did also became friends with another client, but this was on a clear "there'll be no other bookings basis" and no romantic involvement I knew it he knew it.

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #31 on: 01 July 2024, 10:43:31 pm »
Majority of the time relationships with clients don't work because they have fallen for your "escort personna" not who you are in real life. And they may well just be after free service. Or just the thrill of the challenge of convincing you to have sex for free. Insist on dating without sexual contact for a period of a few months to ensure they are not using you for freebies. But good luck...you will need it!
« Last Edit: 02 July 2024, 02:50:39 pm by lora »

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #32 on: 02 July 2024, 12:36:56 pm »
I have let only a couple through the net but purely for sex and it's not something I do lightly.

They were also married anyway so couldn't and wouldn't want it to go any further

I think it's only human/natural that friendships can end up forming.

I know people in other sectors that have become friends with customers/patients etc.

Doesn't make it ok but sometimes it can't be helped.
« Last Edit: 23 September 2024, 02:31:47 pm by Fifi »

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #33 on: 21 July 2024, 11:06:25 am »
Personally I prefer not to be friends with clients outside of work. I value my me time and am far too busy with other areas of my life.

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #34 on: 21 July 2024, 05:14:24 pm »
I don't consider any of them to be friends.
Once they've left they're not thought about until they next contact me.

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #35 on: 21 July 2024, 09:18:37 pm »
Majority of the time relationships with clients don't work because they have fallen for your "escort personna" not who you are in real life. And they may well just be after free service. Or just the thrill of the challenge of convincing you to have sex for free. Insist on dating without sexual contact for a period of a few months to ensure they are not using you for freebies. But good luck...you will need it!

He noticed the difference immediately, it has to be different I don't want to be in work mode in my personal life.

Dani The Masseuse

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #36 on: 22 July 2024, 06:56:12 am »
I have been doing this for a while now but I have found myself making friends with a client.

I have heard the "Pretty Woman" tale of girls marrying clients, I don't think that it is like that.

Usually, I don't let them cross the barrier but I think that we get on like a house on fire.

Am I being foolish?
I know girls who have married clients.  Big mistake. I know girls who've had babies with their married clients.  Guess who's holding the baby alone and guess which one is living his best life?

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #37 on: 04 September 2024, 11:16:22 pm »
Each to their own. No right or wrong answer.
It's always ended with some issue or other for me. It's a big no now for me. No exceptions!

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #38 on: 16 November 2024, 07:11:24 pm »
I do still get this. But infrequently. I edited my AW profile to specifically warn people that I will ignore pointless messages like this.

I made quite a difference. Obviously you still get the odd idiot who can’t read. But I’d recommend doing this to everyone if you haven’t already.

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #39 on: 17 November 2024, 09:29:23 pm »
When a client gets obsessed with me I tell them that it is my job to only let them see the best side of me. If they do genuinely have feelings like they sometimes do,then they are trying to impress me so I am only seeing the best of them. If they feel relaxed around me I will be seeing a more confident them than what people in their daily life see.  And that ain't reality. You can't fall in love with a dream. If I got with a client I would see all the sides of their personality, and them of me . It would be a completely different relationship. So that's a no from me

MissElvira

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Re: making friends with clients
« Reply #40 on: 25 November 2024, 05:30:17 pm »
I don't,  have in the past and it's ended ugly. I find that more and more of my time gets taken with messages and wanting my time socially. You can't become friends without letting slip personal stuff, and you really don't know of the guy is going to use it. Especially if you want to pull away, I keep escorting and clients separate. Of they want to go out for a coffee or dinner then it's still going to be transactional.

From those I have gotten friendly with, it ended badly. I have regulars that I've seen for years and they do ask to meet for coffee and I just tell them that I'm busy.