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Gypsy

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Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« on: 22 November 2019, 07:51:00 am »
I have a reg who I've known for definitely two years probably three and he has always been one of my favourites. He is very respectful, well brought up and polite and I always have a great time with him. He's just a perfect client.

Recently though due to shared interests we seem to have got subconsciously closer. He is married so I have never viewed him in another light ... until now.

And it's all his fault lol!

The last time I saw him he booked for longer which was great but the booking went very off piste from what we usually always do. He always wants the same thing in the booking but we have NEVER had sex until the last booking.

Ladies, you could hear the chemistry crackle between us and it was, dare I say it, quite emotional sex on his part which never happens at work.

He is very affectionate and loving anyway ... just his personality but I am terrified I'll never see him again now because of what happened. There was a clear closeness between us afterwards as well.

He doesn't usually book on a very regular basis, so I have no idea when to expect him next time if he does see me again, but the last booking was a proper headfuck to say the least!

Help! I can't stop thinking about what we ended up doing!  :FF
« Last Edit: 26 November 2019, 08:05:24 am by Gypsy »
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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #1 on: 22 November 2019, 09:10:46 am »
You really think you could feel so close to a married cheat? ...

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #2 on: 22 November 2019, 09:41:53 am »
As Eve said. Obviously none of us know your situation 100% so can only give advice and opinions, be careful. I’m sure his wife also thinks that they have emotional, committed, loving, maybe even passionate, sex.

I know to us we can say ‘well he chose to come so it’s not our fault he’s married’, and that’s true, if it wasn’t you it’d be someone else, but imagine what his wife would think. The woman who probably washes his clothes and cooks his meals and sleeps beside him peacefully every night thinking that only she gets those parts of him. Now, if he can do this to her, although a blank face to us, still a human who has given herself 100% to this man and would be destroyed by his actions and who he apparently loves, then this is not a good man. This is not a man you would want to gain feelings for or get confused about. Obviously again we don’t know the details 100%, but this is the type of man who will end up messing with your head further if given the chance.

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #3 on: 22 November 2019, 09:55:50 am »
As Eve said. Obviously none of us know your situation 100% so can only give advice and opinions, be careful. I’m sure his wife also thinks that they have emotional, committed, loving, maybe even passionate, sex.

I know to us we can say ‘well he chose to come so it’s not our fault he’s married’, and that’s true, if it wasn’t you it’d be someone else, but imagine what his wife would think. The woman who probably washes his clothes and cooks his meals and sleeps beside him peacefully every night thinking that only she gets those parts of him. Now, if he can do this to her, although a blank face to us, still a human who has given herself 100% to this man and would be destroyed by his actions and who he apparently loves, then this is not a good man. This is not a man you would want to gain feelings for or get confused about. Obviously again we don’t know the details 100%, but this is the type of man who will end up messing with your head further if given the chance.

All marriages are not like that, sometimes it's the husband doing all the providing and much of the housework.

Gypsy two things can you just enjoy this for what it is, I'm also concerned about your fear it will never happen again. My advice would be step back frame it properly, put it into perspective and carry on with your work!

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #4 on: 22 November 2019, 10:29:20 am »
He doesn't usually book on a very regular basis, so I have no idea when to expect him next time if he does see me again, but the last booking was a proper headfuck to say the least!

You just said it. He's a married (thus unavailable) man cheating on his wife who has turned into a headfuck. Stop seeing him or put it "into perspective and carry on with your work and enjoy it while it lasts". Headf--s will suck your precious energy (here you are opening a thread on saafe) and are not usually financially worth it.
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« Reply #5 on: 22 November 2019, 11:33:05 am »
Same guy as in your other post? yeah you knew it was coming girl  ;)
If it follows the usual formula, next step is not to charge him and enjoy it...or harder route is stop seeing him.
Hard decision when you like someone.
« Last Edit: 22 November 2019, 11:59:46 am by saltysweet »

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #6 on: 22 November 2019, 11:40:21 am »
If it follows the usual formula, next step is not to charge him and enjoy it...

Whay would she stop charging him salty?  Since when did she turned into a charity for wealthy cheating husbands? :(
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« Reply #7 on: 22 November 2019, 11:44:05 am »
Some members here have said they stop charging because they decide on a a non SW relationship and these situations have turned into marriages.
It's an observation of how these situations often transform. It's not a recomend.
« Last Edit: 22 November 2019, 11:50:04 am by saltysweet »

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #8 on: 22 November 2019, 11:49:24 am »
Some members here have said they stop charging because they decide on a a non SW relationship and these situations have turned into marriages.
It's an observation of how these situations often transform. It's not a recomend.

Sure, but this guy is.... already married... :(
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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #9 on: 22 November 2019, 11:51:35 am »
Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen, or at the least some unhappy times ahead.  Once a cheat always a cheat is the best way to see things. He could move on to another sex worker and do the same to her and where would you be then OP?

I have lost count of the clients who said they do not class visiting escorts as cheating and it is those times I have to restrain myself and just do a little agreement smile.

I have felt a glimmer of "chemistry" with clients but that was it. I still forgot all about them once they were out of the door. One man shared an interest I had at that time and we chatted about it during or just after bookings. After a few months he thought this was a green light to start asking me for dates. I had to block him but it took a while for him to get the message despite me saying clearly I would not see him again. He (and others) think if they persist I will weaken. Not likely mate.

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #10 on: 22 November 2019, 12:59:12 pm »
Same guy as in your other post?

I was wondering, too.  5th or 6th "conquest"?
Maybe, this is her "coping" strategy?

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #11 on: 22 November 2019, 04:55:36 pm »
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« Last Edit: 08 March 2020, 11:56:02 am by Nora batty »

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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #12 on: 22 November 2019, 05:30:51 pm »
Well, if I do see him again I'll definitely still be charging  ;D Ironically he's the ONLY guy who I've ever seen who admits he enjoys the thrill of paying for it.

I don't know what I'm gonna do at the moment ... the only way to know that is if he ever phones me to book again. Then I'll be able to judge the situation better.

I think for the moment I'm just going to have to wait and see what happens, if anything and like Mirror said just enjoy it for what it is.

I don't think I said his age ... put it this way I did wonder whether he is having a mid life crisis as he's been married for a couple of decades.

I just wonder what the hell has happened to him for him to be like this in his last booking. I have no idea what happens at home ... he never says.

I'm flattered if he does like me ... however, I know this can't have a happy ending so I'm not expecting anything.
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Re: Long Term Client that I can't get out of my head!
« Reply #13 on: 22 November 2019, 05:34:21 pm »
As Eve said. Obviously none of us know your situation 100% so can only give advice and opinions, be careful. I’m sure his wife also thinks that they have emotional, committed, loving, maybe even passionate, sex.

I know to us we can say ‘well he chose to come so it’s not our fault he’s married’, and that’s true, if it wasn’t you it’d be someone else, but imagine what his wife would think. The woman who probably washes his clothes and cooks his meals and sleeps beside him peacefully every night thinking that only she gets those parts of him. Now, if he can do this to her, although a blank face to us, still a human who has given herself 100% to this man and would be destroyed by his actions and who he apparently loves, then this is not a good man. This is not a man you would want to gain feelings for or get confused about. Obviously again we don’t know the details 100%, but this is the type of man who will end up messing with your head further if given the chance.

Maybe his wife is having an affair. Who knows?! It does happen!!!

Men aren't the only gender to cheat.

And I'm not saying I want a relationship with him ... after all, like everyone else seems to agree, how the hell would I trust him?
« Last Edit: 22 November 2019, 05:38:36 pm by Gypsy »
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« Reply #14 on: 22 November 2019, 05:58:08 pm »
Maybe his wife is having an affair. Who knows?! It does happen!!!

Men aren't the only gender to cheat.

And I'm not saying I want a relationship with him ... after all, like everyone else seems to agree, how the hell would I trust him?

Exactly  :)

And like I said, we don’t know the details 100%, every situation is different.