Being from Asia as well, I think that this isn't uncommon - if theyettie's situation is genuine. It's not uncommon for men to try and capitalise on their wives' professions after they find out she's not stopped work in the industry. Sometimes the girls get coerced into things like wifesharing and gangbangs, essentially the guys pimping their wives out to their friends for cash. Quite disgusting, but it does happen, so the OP may not be kidding.
In any case, theyettie, if you're still reading this you well knew from the beginning that she was in this industry and you absolutely cannot pretend otherwise. You do not own her simply because you gave her a better life, nor does she owe you her body to be pimped out simply because you gave her a "boob job" and paid for her child's education. It's sad that you need to be told this but you can't buy someone like property. You're a scumbag and a fool.