So yesterday me and some none escort friends who do know my job had coffee.

We were talking about a bloke I've just started seeing and whether I had/ hadn't slept with him yet (incidentally I haven't)

One of them (Girl A) suggested that it was "my moral obligation" to let him know I'm an escort before sleeping with him, Girl B and I disagreed. Long as its safe and consensual its ok as far as I'm concerned. This discussion went on for a good thirty minutes and Girl A felt so strongly about it she decided to leave.

Am I being too liberal? 

Totally agree that its none of his business .................. just now at least.  You could split up next week and look at the ammunition he would have if he knew.

Defo a NO NO from me.

It depends on the context of the relationship. Is the man investing feelings or looking for a serious relationship? - then I agree that there indeed is a "moral obligation" to either tell him that she's an escort or drop the whole relationship altogether. If it's just casual sex or a short term fling, then there's no "moral obligation".

There is no moral obligation at all; it's your decision and no-one else's. Don't let anyone try and make you feel guilty about this. Alot of people don't and won't understand, and I've often waited a year before telling a significant other. It's a personal part of your life, and you don't know whether this relationship will work or not. Do what feels right.

I don't believe that 'moral obligations' exist - people decide on the course of action to take based on all sorts of thing including the potential consequences of each, but being 'obliged' doesn't come into it.

It sounds as if 'girl A' thinks that prostitutes are inherently different to other women in some way - the way to find out would be ask whether she'd think the same if you were just partial to having sex with multiple people but not being paid? Either way it's up to you - I don't agree with lying to somebody about whether you're monogamous or not but that's nothing to do with whether it's your job. And either way, nobody's 'obliged' to do anything.

Hi,

Personally for me if I am seeing someone outside of escorting it is because they are something damn special and more than a fuck buddy. Therefore, I would feel the need to be clear from day one. Yes, I would run the risk of it coming out, but I just could not keep such a secret as I'd leave the person instantly if it were me. Not because of their job, just lies.

But that is just my opinion and YOU are the one that sets YOUR moral compass, be damned with anyone else's opinion.

I agree though, that the cash element is irrelevant.

Thanks for all the advice guys, I'm going to leave it for now (I haven't known him that long)

Yeah, I did ask her about that after the conversation- she's usually not so bothered but I do agree she doesn't seem comfortable anymore...