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Kendra Glasgow

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #105 on: 24 December 2015, 10:44:53 pm »
There are multiple posts on this forum about clients being crap in bed, boring in bed, ugly, annoying, deluded, smelly, ridiculous etc. Not sure why this particular post by the op has been analysed to pieces...

Hello, and I'm very sorry that I am keeping this thread rumbling on! However I do think it represents an interesting cross section of views, and I personally am enjoying the intelligent debate and exchange of opinions.

With regards to the above quote, I agree that there have been far worse, and far more revealing posts on here. I think the main difference is that other posts have been about clients that have done something wrong; have been dirty, aggressive, rude, turned up late etc. However this client seems to have done nothing wrong other than wanting a bit of an ego boost :) I think that's why it sits so badly with some of us that he has been subject to such a personal, vitriolic attack..... that does smack of cruelty slightly (sorry.)

I also agree with those who have mentioned that some of us have been subject to personal attacks on other sites. I think we all agree that if one of us has done something wrong, or not lived up to their side of the bargain yet still accepted money - well that is not right. But to be cut to shreds simply because someone has taken a personal dislike to us - not fair. And I believe that extends to clients too. xx

I agree with everything your saying. I just found her posting style to be really funny far more than what she was actually saying if that makes any sense? X

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #106 on: 25 December 2015, 12:47:39 am »
I agree with everything your saying. I just found her posting style to be really funny far more than what she was actually saying if that makes any sense? X

Well that's fine, but it's not the purpose of a group discussion forum to provide a convenient stage for individuals who want to play to the gallery - as has been said, that's what personal blogs are for. Whilst reading a lengthy piece of prose is all very well if you're one of those who likes it, inflicting a thousand word essay on everybody else when the subject could have been easily covered in a tenth of that is borderline rude. Obviously I have to read it all though, so it's fair to say I'm biased.

The only other thing I'd like to point out is that it's really not all been daggers at the OP, and several posters expressed concern that an otherwise fairly unremarkable booking with an eccentric punter had engendered such a strong negative reaction from her and that she's maybe doing a bit too much. Possibly if she'd been a little more concise and left out some of the background noise, people would have been more sympathetic and supportive; see Green Carnation's post further up the thread for example (because I'm on my tablet and can't link).

Anyway, I'm out - night, and Merry Christmas :)

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #107 on: 25 December 2015, 12:20:31 pm »
There are multiple posts on this forum about clients being crap in bed, boring in bed, ugly, annoying, deluded, smelly, ridiculous etc. Not sure why this particular post by the op has been analysed to pieces...
"...But to be cut to shreds simply because someone has taken a personal dislike to us - not fair. And I believe that extends to clients too. xx..."


The OP was not cut to shreds, her post was, the tone" of it ruffled quite a few feathers.

The Problem with posting on public is that not everyone will agree and your post will be challenged.

(Big deal, this would be such a boring world if we all thought alike)

The post got so long because (unlike other similar posts of crappy clients) this one seemed  cruel, didn't put the WG in a good light  and  it initiated a debate on whether this  forum should be free territory for client bashing because "men who pay for sex deserve getting slagged" (insert irony tone here).

Not all women agreed and that's why the thread reached 8 pages. Some defended the guy in the story  others thought that "since when WG's defend punters!" .

I personally think that men getting slagged for paying for sex is as bad as women getting slagged for having sex in exchange for money. And we already have a lot of that.

And yes, it turned into an interesting debate (IMO). Andit was not the post in itself the most interesting part, but the debate it sparked  (hence the 8 pages). Not all "crappy session" posts spark a debate. But this one did (hi-ho!)


Happy holidays  8) (Just woke up with a hangover. I've been dancing samba all night. My legs  are f----g killing me).
« Last Edit: 26 December 2015, 10:56:46 am by Ana30 »
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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #108 on: 25 December 2015, 02:55:50 pm »
I tried to read through and understand as best I can.  There are times when I feel more like a therapist than a WG.  There are many times when I feel my clients are looking for something other than sex (even though sex does take place).

Sometimes they need to feel better about themselves and if I can do that through compliments or other ego boosting ways (lots of noise,etc.) without causing harm to myself (completely understand those who feel like it's lying and choose not to do it) then I will and I do.  We are all different and that's what makes the world go round.

It's like we always say--there is a client for every WG out there (body type, style, what we offer) and I think the reverse is true--there is a WG out there for every client (body type, style, what they are looking for).

I hope that makes sense.  Thank you for making a place for me to share openly.  I don't have that other places and this forum truly helps me when I need to share/rant/vent/joke.

xxoo!

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #109 on: 25 December 2015, 07:54:12 pm »
We are sexual therapists. :)

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #110 on: 27 December 2015, 01:15:03 am »
We are sexual therapists. :)

+1

Very much so.

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #111 on: 27 December 2015, 01:16:10 am »

The OP was not cut to shreds, her post was, the tone" of it ruffled quite a few feathers.

The Problem with posting on public is that not everyone will agree and your post will be challenged.

(Big deal, this would be such a boring world if we all thought alike)

The post got so long because (unlike other similar posts of crappy clients) this one seemed  cruel, didn't put the WG in a good light  and  it initiated a debate on whether this  forum should be free territory for client bashing because "men who pay for sex deserve getting slagged" (insert irony tone here).

Not all women agreed and that's why the thread reached 8 pages. Some defended the guy in the story  others thought that "since when WG's defend punters!" .

I personally think that men getting slagged for paying for sex is as bad as women getting slagged for having sex in exchange for money. And we already have a lot of that.

And yes, it turned into an interesting debate (IMO). Andit was not the post in itself the most interesting part, but the debate it sparked  (hence the 8 pages). Not all "crappy session" posts spark a debate. But this one did (hi-ho!)

Spot on!

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Re: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically
« Reply #112 on: 27 December 2015, 12:22:26 pm »
I don't mind boosting their ego and would have found the client very entertaining in a good way. Able to laugh with him putting him at ease. Letting him know that I was enjoying his time. Maybe because I take escorting like a breeze. Some clients like to escape reality. They pay good money. :)