Author Topic: Insecure client - more emotionally exhausting than physically (Read 22066 times)

ana30 · « **Reply #90 on:** 24 December 2015, 02:44:15 pm »

jessica201 said:

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An eye for an eye sometimes! Sometimes turn the other cheek! Anyways this is boring now! Yawn! NEXT!!!

Why engage in a "boring" debate jessica?

There's a lot of people here who we don't find it boring at all, hence the reason the thread has reaches 6 pages in 2 days.

No, I don't find it boring at all, but pretty interesting.

Sorry for boring you

KittenCandy · « **Reply #91 on:** 24 December 2015, 04:01:04 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 24 December 2015, 02:44:15 pm

jessica201 said:
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An eye for an eye sometimes! Sometimes turn the other cheek! Anyways this is boring now! Yawn! NEXT!!!

Why engage in a "boring" debate jessica?

There's a lot of people here who we don't find it boring at all, hence the reason the thread has reaches 6 pages in 2 days.

No, I don't find it boring at all, but pretty interesting.

Sorry for boring you

You mentioned my post so I responded

Exact same thing I am doing now. I couldn't care less what other people think of the thread and I din't ask you if you found it boring either

Kendra Glasgow · « **Reply #92 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:04:12 pm »

I'm a wee bit shocked this thread is still going too.

I am the first person to say how hurtful personal attacks are, they literally kill me inside when I'm on the receiving end of it because I find it so humiliating and degrading and I know I don't do anything to deserve it. We're human and we all make mistakes but that doesn't give someone the right to tear us to shreds in order to make themselves feel better.

HOWEVER........

When we are on the receiving end of personal attacks, everyone knows who we are. There is nothing anonymous about it. The OP made a venting post (with lots of comedy which I found to be funny) but none of the post was identifying information so none of us nor any outsiders know who's being spoken about so therefor I think the OP has been given a bit much of a hard time on here.

As someone else has pointed out.....this entire forum is made up of posts all very much of the same nature but again unidentifiable information so therefor it seems ok. I don't see how this is any different.

I can't speak for other ladies on here, I can only speak for myself but whenever I speak badly of a client on here.....it's when they are a bad client that I never want to see again. You'll never hear me speaking badly about decent human beings that all contribute towards my lifestyle, my responsibilities and my future for which I'm very grateful for.

In this case, the OP clearly found this client to be a nightmare to the point she felt she had to vent. I don't think for a second she intended to offend anyone.

We all have different ideas of what we think is acceptable and what isn't with a client and a booking (the main reason why I think client feedback on AW is a lot of pish). The OP obviously felt this booking was dire, draining and that the client himself was hard to take. I personally wouldn't have came on here and said what the OP said but I would also think that sort of booking was mentally draining and would not see him again either.

I think this thread has gone way, way past its sell by date because we are going in circles.

It's Christmas everyone so chill out and be happy x

Mirror · « **Reply #93 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:25:27 pm »

It was a venting post, it was one which seemed to contain a view of clients which I was uncomfortable with - in the past have kept quiet about other posts which contain, what seem to be digs at clients, or displaying particular attitudes.

I now feel that I was wrong to keep those responses to myself, and in future I'm going to post when I see something I feel uncomfortable about.

sera_fin · « **Reply #94 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:33:35 pm »

Quote from: amy on 24 December 2015, 10:33:26 am

(although one thing it is most certainly not is 'satire')

um, I pretty sure that satire is exactly what it is:

satire

noun
the use of humour, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people's stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.
"the crude satire seems to be directed at the fashionable protest singers of the time"
synonyms: mockery, ridicule, derision, scorn, caricature; More

*ducks head an awaits further bombardments*

sammy s · « **Reply #95 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm »

So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients are? Or is it ok to rant about them on here if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for and accuse us of being judgemental and malicious?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

Mirror · « **Reply #96 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:41:26 pm »

Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm

So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients are? Or is it ok to rant about them on here if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for and accuse us of being judgemental and malicious?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

For me it wasn't that the OP found him a horrible client, it was the way it was done - which may be the way in which she did view him, and I'm not taking that away from her.

ana30 · « **Reply #97 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:53:29 pm »

Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm

So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients? Or is it ok to rant about them if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

The fact that a lot of women don't agree with a post and come here to explain "why" in a civilized manner doesn't mean that "they need to get a grip". Or just because you don't agree with them their opinions are not "blown out of proportion massively".

In my case I can understand someone posting because of a guy behaving badly. Unfortunately we get that all the time, and there's hundreds of posts in the forum about them. But making fun of a perfectly normal guy who payed you well because he needed to get his ego stroked and then come here and slagging him for... doing just that...oh well.... it reminds me of the glorious misogyny in "thy forum that can't be named".

mature helen · « **Reply #98 on:** 24 December 2015, 07:59:10 pm »

Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm

So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients are? Or is it ok to rant about them on here if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for and accuse us of being judgemental and malicious?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

Smelly, grabby, dangerous, boundry pushers, TW's, outers, pests etc are every escorts worst nightmare so have rightly been posted about without a problem.
A needy client whos paid his money sounded respectful and didnt cause any problems doesnt need his own thread purely to be ridiculed.

Kendra Glasgow · « **Reply #99 on:** 24 December 2015, 08:00:35 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 24 December 2015, 07:53:29 pm

Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm
So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients? Or is it ok to rant about them if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

The fact that a lot of women don't agree with a post and come here to explain "why" in a civilized manner doesn't mean that "they need to get a grip". Or just because you don't agree with them their opinions are not "blown out of proportion massively".

In my case I can understand someone posting because of a guy behaving badly. Unfortunately we get that all the time, and there's hundreds of posts in the forum about them. But making fun of a perfectly normal guy who payed you well because he needed to get his ego stroked and then come here and slagging him for... doing just that...oh well.... it reminds me of the glorious misogyny in "thy forum that can't be named".

From what the OP posted, I didn't get the impression this was a normal client. I've never had a client like that in 4 and a half years.

But this thread is getting tedious now.

I think it's fair to say that some seen this post in bad taste and others seen the funny side to it in a way where it's like......if you don't laugh at the situation, you'd cry (if you were the one dealing with him).

Kendra Glasgow · « **Reply #100 on:** 24 December 2015, 08:04:48 pm »

Quote from: mature helen on 24 December 2015, 07:59:10 pm

Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm
So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients are? Or is it ok to rant about them on here if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for and accuse us of being judgemental and malicious?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively
Smelly, grabby, dangerous, boundry pushers, TW's, outers, pests etc are every escorts worst nightmare so have rightly been posted about without a problem.
A needy client whos paid his money sounded respectful and didnt cause any problems doesnt need his own thread purely to be ridiculed.

I agree with this also. That's what I meant when I said that I rant and rave and moan about the nightmare clients but never about the good ones.

The OP didn't find this to be a good client HOWEVER we call all agree on the fact that he didn't deserve to be ripped to shreds because although he was delusional.....he appeared to be friendly and respectful which is the most important thing of all.

I've plenty of clients I wouldn't see again who are respectful and polite but there's maybe something about them or the booking that I didn't like so therefor won't see them again same as I'm certain there are plenty of clients have booked me who thought I was friendly and a nice person but maybe I wasn't their type looks wise or maybe my service was too vanilla for them.

Anyway, it's the OP's posting style and comedy that I personally find so funny. I do think this has been blown out of proportion. I think she was trying to make what she found a bad situation funny and to maybe give us all a laugh but it's backfired which is a shame.

ana30 · « **Reply #101 on:** 24 December 2015, 08:08:43 pm »

Quote from: Kendra Glasgow on 24 December 2015, 08:00:35 pm

Quote from: Ana30 on 24 December 2015, 07:53:29 pm
Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm
So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients? Or is it ok to rant about them if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

The fact that a lot of women don't agree with a post and come here to explain "why" in a civilized manner doesn't mean that "they need to get a grip". Or just because you don't agree with them their opinions are not "blown out of proportion massively".

In my case I can understand someone posting because of a guy behaving badly. Unfortunately we get that all the time, and there's hundreds of posts in the forum about them. But making fun of a perfectly normal guy who payed you well because he needed to get his ego stroked and then come here and slagging him for... doing just that...oh well.... it reminds me of the glorious misogyny in "thy forum that can't be named".

From what the OP posted, I didn't get the impression this was a normal client. I've never had a client like that in 4 and a half years.

But this thread is getting tedious now.

I think it's fair to say that some seen this post in bad taste and others seen the funny side to it in a way where it's like......if you don't laugh at the situation, you'd cry (if you were the one dealing with him).

Yes, there as a funny side to it (I agree), but there was a very unfair and cruel side to it too.

Interesting you never had a client like that, because 85% of my clients pay me to have their ego stroked (some are more tedious, some are less), but the sex industry was born to stroke men's egos pretty much. And no, there's noting wrong with it. It is what it is.

Kendra Glasgow · « **Reply #102 on:** 24 December 2015, 08:11:56 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 24 December 2015, 08:08:43 pm

Quote from: Kendra Glasgow on 24 December 2015, 08:00:35 pm
Quote from: Ana30 on 24 December 2015, 07:53:29 pm
Quote from: sammy s on 24 December 2015, 07:33:47 pm
So we can only ever post saying how fantastic and lovely our clients? Or is it ok to rant about them if they are truly horrible? But whose to say what one person finds as a horrible client, another will think is uncalled for?
Everyone just needs to get a grip as this is blown out of proportion massively

The fact that a lot of women don't agree with a post and come here to explain "why" in a civilized manner doesn't mean that "they need to get a grip". Or just because you don't agree with them their opinions are not "blown out of proportion massively".

In my case I can understand someone posting because of a guy behaving badly. Unfortunately we get that all the time, and there's hundreds of posts in the forum about them. But making fun of a perfectly normal guy who payed you well because he needed to get his ego stroked and then come here and slagging him for... doing just that...oh well.... it reminds me of the glorious misogyny in "thy forum that can't be named".

From what the OP posted, I didn't get the impression this was a normal client. I've never had a client like that in 4 and a half years.

But this thread is getting tedious now.

I think it's fair to say that some seen this post in bad taste and others seen the funny side to it in a way where it's like......if you don't laugh at the situation, you'd cry (if you were the one dealing with him).

Yes, there as a funny side to it (I agree), but there was a very unfair and cruel side to it too.

Interesting you never had a client like that, because 85% of my clients pay me to have their ego stroked (some are more tedious, some are less), but the sex industry was born to stroke men's egos pretty much. And no, there's noting wrong with it. It is what it is.

I'm not saying I've never had a client who needed a little ego boost stroking but I've never ever had a client like what the OP described. He was to the extreme, like I've never had a client tell me how good his arse is.

IN FACT.....the majority of my clients get all embarrassed if I give them a compliment which is the opposite of a man with a huge ego.

xx

amy · « **Reply #103 on:** 24 December 2015, 08:16:42 pm »

Quote from: sera_fin on 24 December 2015, 07:33:35 pm

um, I pretty sure that satire is exactly what it is:
satire
noun
the use of humour, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people's stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.
"the crude satire seems to be directed at the fashionable protest singers of the time"
synonyms: mockery, ridicule, derision, scorn, caricature; More

*ducks head an awaits further bombardments*

Well Sera, I have no idea what 'further bombardments' is supposed to refer to since as far as I can see this is your first post in the thread, but I couldn't see anything even remotely topical or political in the OP, nor did I find it either humorous or ironic.

But if the OP fits an accepted definition (in the US at least, judging by the spelling) then Chris Morris can sleep well at night. The whirring noise I thought was my extractor fan must actually be Peter Cook and Bill Hicks turning in their graves.

Quote from: Ana30 on 24 December 2015, 07:53:29 pm

it reminds me of the glorious misogyny in "thy forum that can't be named".

Right, can we have no more of this, please? Other forums are off topic here full stop - there is no one 'forum which can't be named'; it's not like Macbeth, ffs.

I'm as surprised to see this still rumbling on as anybody else after an afternoon in the kitchen but at risk of pointing out the bleeding obvious, every time somebody posts to complain about it you're just keeping it rumbling on? When people have had their say it'll drop down the board naturally on it's own as it was first thing morning when I looked

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Hadley · « **Reply #104 on:** 24 December 2015, 09:52:12 pm »

Quote from: sammy s on 23 December 2015, 06:02:24 pm

There are multiple posts on this forum about clients being crap in bed, boring in bed, ugly, annoying, deluded, smelly, ridiculous etc. Not sure why this particular post by the op has been analysed to pieces...

Hello, and I'm very sorry that I am keeping this thread rumbling on! However I do think it represents an interesting cross section of views, and I personally am enjoying the intelligent debate and exchange of opinions.

With regards to the above quote, I agree that there have been far worse, and far more revealing posts on here. I think the main difference is that other posts have been about clients that have done something wrong; have been dirty, aggressive, rude, turned up late etc. However this client seems to have done nothing wrong other than wanting a bit of an ego boost

I think that's why it sits so badly with some of us that he has been subject to such a personal, vitriolic attack..... that does smack of cruelty slightly (sorry.)

I also agree with those who have mentioned that some of us have been subject to personal attacks on other sites. I think we all agree that if one of us has done something wrong, or not lived up to their side of the bargain yet still accepted money - well that is not right. But to be cut to shreds simply because someone has taken a personal dislike to us - not fair. And I believe that extends to clients too. xx

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