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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: nemature on 04 June 2018, 01:17:24 pm
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Booking through AW time, date, duration and what was expected in the booking agreed.
I knew he was a older gentleman but when he turned up and got undressed he had a incontinence pad in his underpants. He had the smell of a old man and during the booking constantly dribbled urine on the bed. I did have the bed covered with towels and a throw or I would have had to wash the duvet as well as the sheets and covers. He explained he had had surgery a couple of month earlier that had left him unable to get a erection and incontinent.
I am quite annoyed that he did not mention any of this before the booking if I had of been less prepared then he would have made a real mess of the bed. I advised him to mention his "little problem" as he called it at the time of booking in future. Lets hope he does to prevent any of you ladies having to change every item of bedding if he visits you.
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I really feel for you here, he 100% should have told you beforehand, it's not as if they don't know. It's so fucking rude, like they are paying and it shouldn't matter. Worth a post in the warning section perhaps? I'd want to know if he tried to book me.
I guess there will be differing views here but personally I would not see someone with that issue, given a choice. We all have our limits and we should be aware if there is an issue like this, some will be fine and some not. Me personally, not. Sorry you had to deal with this. :FF
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Sorry to say this but I would have been furious while trying to keep my decorum and calm. I get enough men who think they have prepared for anal on them by washing the external bits but during/after the event I am cleaning up awful stuff. Had one the other day who said "oh is it a little bit messy back there?" without a hint of embarrassment!
Good for you if you got through this booking as I imagine it would have spoiled the rest of your day to some degree.
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Cum is gross enough to fucking deal with, without the issue of piss & shit. I feel sick now. Glad I don't do any kind of anal!
You ladies are saints!
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Sorry to say this but I would have been furious while trying to keep my decorum and calm. I get enough men who think they have prepared for anal on them by washing the external bits but during/after the event I am cleaning up awful stuff. Had one the other day who said "oh is it a little bit messy back there?" without a hint of embarrassment!
Good for you if you got through this booking as I imagine it would have spoiled the rest of your day to some degree.
The saving grace was as he could not get even a little bit of an erection so all I could give him was a massage and try to give him a bit of hand relief but that was no good and just increased the dribbling so I stopped that. He was a nice bloke and if he hadn't had a 2 hour round trip to see me I think I would have terminated the booking.
He said he wants to visit again but I currently have the throws and towels from the bed in the wash, the bedroom window open and candles on for the old man smell so that will not be happening.
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The saving grace was as he could not get even a little bit of an erection so all I could give him was a massage and try to give him a bit of hand relief but that was no good and just increased the dribbling so I stopped that. He was a nice bloke and if he hadn't had a 2 hour round trip to see me I think I would have terminated the booking.
He said he wants to visit again but I currently have the throws and towels from the bed in the wash, the bedroom window open and candles on for the old man smell so that will not be happening.
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It gets me some flack, but this is why I have an upper age limit of 60. I know plenty of men in their 60s, and some even in their 70s, are fine, but 'old man smell', skin texture etc. just gives me the heebie-jeebies. Incontinence as well would tip me over the edge!
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Actually, I feel a little sorry for him, must be horrible to have those sort of things happen to your body and feeling old and probably too embarrassed to say on the phone and you had towels down so what was the problem? Maybe he would have said something if you hadn't.
Maybe, as someone has suggested, if you don't like the problems that come with old age you limit your clients to under 60.
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Actually, I feel a little sorry for him, must be horrible to have those sort of things happen to your body and feeling old and probably too embarrassed to say on the phone and you had towels down so what was the problem? Maybe he would have said something if you hadn't.
Maybe, as someone has suggested, if you don't like the problems that come with old age you limit your clients to under 60.
I have lots of older clients that are lovely but he had no way of knowing if I was going to protect the bed and did not check or know that I had as I had a large throw over the towels so as far as he was concerned there may have been no protection under this. I have sympathy for him and understand he may have felt embarrassed by his "little problem" but he made no attempt to mention anything until I mentioned to him that he seemed to have a issue.
I am a health professional so I know how to approach these situations and have no issues with older gents but I am not prepared to do oral without (as he requested) when there is incontinence and I am not going to allow him to rub his penis on my vulva without being able to use a condom (as he also requested). I feel the issues I have raised show his attitude that we should make allowances for things we are unaware of at the times of booking and how these may impact on the services we are willing to provide.
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He may well have been embarrassed but he wasn't too embarrassed to book an escort, to have an experience which was most likely going to involve her finding out very quickly. He should have mentioned it on the phone but if not, he should have at least come prepared with some towels or covers of his own. To just turn up and wet himself over her bed which he knew would happen, I'm sorry but that's not acceptable. It shows a selfish attitude, the one we try to avoid and the attitude that says 'I can do what I like as I'm paying.' For all he knew he would pee all over an expensive quilt or bed that was then ruined.
And he wanted OWO?
No thank you.
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I do feel sorry for him but have experienced things like this myself and it made for a very uncomfortable booking which I would have preferred to have a clue about before hand.
I feel they don't say anything sometimes because they worry about being turned away.I had disabled welcome on my adverts all through my career so they should have known I would have probably been fine with alot of things if they had been honest.
This included several people who admitted they had occasional faecal incontinence due to medical problems which they only were like 'Oh yeah' when there was shit on the bedding.One guy had had the cheek to ask for rimming because he had showered but still had anal leakage.Another expected me to do anal play on him again knowing he had constant anal leakage.
Another bloke turned up with severe Parkinsons and expected me to somehow get him in the bath and pee on him...just ridiculous!Oh yes and the guy that shot blood in my mouth during cim then admitted after that it happens now and then due to prostrate issues.
I have to say putting an upper age limit would have been pointless as several of these blokes were middle aged rather than elderly.
No matter their reasons for not wanting to tell you before hand,it is a form of boundary pushing especially when they expect services that their medical issue can affect.
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This has happened to me but my client was wearing a a nappy-type pad.
I was very unhappy to say the least. It wasn't an AW booking and if it happened again I would ask the client to leave as they had not disclosed it.
The client didn't shower (because he couldn't walk properly) and was most put out that I would not give him oral, even though he was reeking of urine.
I managed through but that was the first and last, trust me!
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but I am not prepared to do oral without (as he requested) when there is incontinence and I am not going to allow him to rub his penis on my vulva without being able to use a condom (as he also requested). I feel the issues I have raised show his attitude that we should make allowances for things we are unaware of at the times of booking and how these may impact on the services we are willing to provide.
How old was he?I don't understand why they come & see us if they have all these issues & especially after just been operated on how ridiculous to be leaking piss & expect a woman to offer sexual services. ???
The bit in bold; how vile, I'd be livid after he dropped his pants. Why proceed with the booking if he was pushing the boundaries like that? It's bad enough not telling you about the incontinence. He knew that he wouldn't get a look in that's why. What an arsehole. Guys like this are out to degrade from the outset, they've got zero respect for women.
I praise your capacity for patience & compassion but you shouldn't feel like you have to put with that especially from a boundary pushing prick.
The only time I've had a guy wearing a nappy is when it's been a Fetish & he told me first. I wouldn't see him again though I found it too weird & him a bit creepy.
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I get the feeling that some won't tell escorts about these unpleasant problems in case she refuses his booking.
Comes along and she has to deal with it , instead would prefer to have a choice and might see him if prepared in advance
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I have had this type of thing happen a number of times. The worst was when I had a wheelchair bound client visit me, which took weeks to prepare due to various accessibility issues of work premises. We discussed the booking in full. He wanted strap on, assured me that he could move certain aspects by himself etc. When he finally arrived, it was evident that he could not move at all. He told me I had to lift and drag him about. And here's the kicker.... He then told me it is likely that he will shit himself. Especially during strap on.
I am a very empathetic person but NO WAY was I dealing with that, especially when he had ample opportunity to tell me these things and purposefully waited until he arrived.
I think a lot of men withhold information because they know we'd refuse to see them otherwise. Very disrespectful.
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Lord ! It wasn't so awful it'd be funny :FF
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I don't understand why they come & see us if they have all these issues & especially after just been operated on how ridiculous to be leaking piss & expect a woman to offer sexual services. ???
Well, maybe because they want to have some sex and enough to be happy to pay for it? We're prostitutes not bus conductors, so expecting us to provide sexual services isn't wholly unreasonable :).
I have two regulars who've been known to leak/dribble a bit, both having had surgery for prostate cancer and both are probably lucky to be alive. Putting a towel down isn't the end of the world and it's not as if they're spraying piss around the room like a fire hose - the problem I see here is that the punter was smelly and rude which neither of the men I mentioned have ever been, and I wouldn't have dealt with him without a good wash either.
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Well, maybe because they want to have some sex and enough to be happy to pay for it? We're prostitutes not bus conductors, so expecting us to provide sexual services isn't wholly unreasonable :).
I have two regulars who've been known to leak/dribble a bit, both having had surgery for prostate cancer and both are probably lucky to be alive. Putting a towel down isn't the end of the world and it's not as if they're spraying piss around the room like a fire hose - the problem I see here is that the punter was smelly and rude which neither of the men I mentioned have ever been, and I wouldn't have dealt with him without a good wash either.
In one of her posts the OP describes this client as nice, only mentions the smell and that he'd not warned her.
So I'm a bit confused.
At the end of a booking with a regular I spied him slipping a pad into his underpants, the client does have all sorts of health issues but nothing has ever indicated incontinence to me. Never yet experienced urine dribbles, I do have clients who have been through prostate issues, operations etc but all seems to have retained control.
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In one of her posts the OP describes this client as nice, only mentions the smell and that he'd not warned her
In another she mentions him wanting to rub his his penis against her without a condom on. I'd call that rude, so that's what I was referring to.
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I can see exactly why they want to book us.It's for the same reason as why our other clients book us because they are horny or just want some female company but i do feel they should be honest then we can be honest about what we are willing to provide in terms of the services we offer.Few of us are going to be up for OWO with a guy who is incontinent or leaks blood in his come when he is after CIM for example but other services would be ok. I wouldn't personally turn away someone with those types of issues but I never appreciated being put in an awkward position of then having to explain why I'll be using a condom for oral or won't be providing anal play or something like that face to face in much the same way as you may have to do with a dirty client.
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I can see exactly why they want to book us.It's for the same reason as why our other clients book us because they are horny or just want some female company but i do feel they should be honest then we can be honest about what we are willing to provide in terms of the services we offer.Few of us are going to be up for OWO with a guy who is incontinent or leaks blood in his come when he is after CIM for example but other services would be ok. I wouldn't personally turn away someone with those types of issues but I never appreciated being put in an awkward position of then having to explain why I'll be using a condom for oral or won't be providing anal play or something like that face to face in much the same way as you may have to do with a dirty client.
This. The point is they should provide us with all the necessary information so we can decide whether to do the booking based on knowing all the facts. Some will refuse, some will accept, but it's surely better all round to be refused at the arranging stage than when you're actually in an escort's house dribbling urine and expecting OWO?
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In one of her posts the OP describes this client as nice, only mentions the smell and that he'd not warned her.
So I'm a bit confused.
At the beginning of the booking he was very nice which is why I did not end the booking there and then but as the booking progressed he started pushing for services that no sex worker would want to do (I do not want mouthful of during during owo). I think this is when he showed his true colours and I would not accept another booking from him
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I once had a guy in a catheter n bag turn up. He came through an agency I once worked for and it wasn't mentioned. He had horrid long fingernails and all he wanted to do n indeed was able to do was roughly finger me for an hour. I had to keep pushing his hands away. It wasn't nice and he ended up cutting me which meant I couldn't work afterwards for a bit. Anyway, these men need to mention it if they come to us. Or indeed the agency should've told me. I have worked within health care so have handled catheters and such before but I really didn't expect to be doing so as an escort. To be fair to him he didn't want to remove his trousers but the point is it affected what he wanted in the booking and was pretty awful for me having to contend with a whole hour of constantly having to push his foo man choo fingernails away from my sensitive pussy. Ouch!!!
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At the beginning of the booking he was very nice which is why I did not end the booking there and then but as the booking progressed he started pushing for services that no sex worker would want to do (I do not want mouthful of during during owo). I think this is when he showed his true colours and I would not accept another booking from him
Unless you had the water sports box ticked...Even so, it's the brazen lack of consideration for an other human being's dignity that makes me angry & incredulous as to why he would want to visit a sex worker in that state. That guy showed complete lack of humility & empathy toward you. What a self entitled fucktard.
Not trying to derail but someone mentioned ejaculating blood. I had a guy that this happened with recently. I'd have been livid if I'd have been offering owo. The client was quite embarrassed by it though & very apologetic. Said it happens rarely, so took him by surprise & thankfully it was in the condom & not on my body.
You ladies have more patience than me to cope with piss dribblers.
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I would prefer to have this mentioned.
I think somebody was toying with the idea of visiting with a catheter in but he never got round to a booking. I did appreciate his honesty though.
It is only polite for them to tell us.
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He was incontinent and didnt tell you? Now that isn’t a little problem that’s disrespectful. All of my recent issues have been men over 60. Attempting Bare Genital rubbing, rotting teeth, and not being clean. Or attempting to fist me. The 19/20 year olds have been setting an example lately all having been perfectly hygienic, perfectly polite, and absolutely lovely. I am considering putting an upper age limit in place for this reason.