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lailah terri

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #45 on: 31 July 2014, 12:39:40 am »
Yes I had, for 18 months. luckily we didn't make it down the aisle, I dodged a major bullet there.

I think it can work for some, but for me it was a disaster and really soul destroying.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #46 on: 31 July 2014, 03:05:37 pm »
My current boyfriend was my client. I felt he's falling for me, and because I had difficult situation with other client falling for me shortly before that, I tried firstly to scare him off. Asked him to be security buddy etc. He's passed with flying colours.

Now we are together, but we don't share the household. He stays a lot with me at my place, helps with anything I need help with, as much as he can. He's really supportive.
His income is bigger than mine, so there is no money issue. I have also no slightest suspicion, as if he was with my for sex only. I want it more than him many times LOL

We had once conversation about my job, he said clearly: I remember how I have met you and I cannot now ask you do give up only because I want. That would be selfish.
He says, he has the feeling, that he appeared in my life to make sure, I am safe. And he does. Makes me feel safe and supported.

I have no idea if it will last. I believe, as long as we are happy together, it is OK. Carpe diem.


BustyBBW Abbie

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #47 on: 20 August 2014, 03:11:13 pm »
I am married and have been for over ten years. We have in the past few years gotten into swinging and don't have the jealousy issue problems. I got into escorting because I wanted to and it was absolutely fine, it's never caused a problem me escorting and he supports me and even likes my job as long as I'm safe and take all the precautions possible that is the only stipulation. I absolutely love what I do apart from knob-head time-wasters obviously. I have some great clients that I genuinely look forward to seeing and my husband see's it as foreplay for us, as we always make time for each other and If I have a particularly good day he know's I will come home horny for him. Its totally different having sex with a client (no matter how good they are) than having sex with someone you really love and adore and if your partner/b/f/husband can understand this then it is totally possible to have both.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #48 on: 20 August 2014, 06:17:45 pm »
For me, a relationship while being a WG is a no-no.

my partner found out that I was escorting after we started dating... and he wasn't happy with it at all. It led to all sorts of arguments and upset and I eventually ended up hanging my boots and stopped so that we could stay together...I thought I could be happy with the way things were...he supported me 100% financially.That said, it is not the same--ie someone supporting you and losing your independence. Its not working out as well as I though it would.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #49 on: 21 August 2014, 07:27:33 pm »
Has anyone ever dated a client?

Yes, been nearly yr and half
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #50 on: 21 August 2014, 09:24:24 pm »
I started escorting after I'd been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. He was completely supportive (as I knew he would be). We both support the decriminalisation of sex work and campaigns for sex worker's rights. To me it is just a job, we live together now and when I leave to see a client I just say 'See you later, I'm going to work' and that's that. He never asks for intimate details but I do tell him funny stories, also show him funny emails I get and moan about work. I only work part time and it's just not a big part of my life.

He's told me many times that he is completely supportive, doesn't mind if I want to tell his friends that I escort (and I have told some of them including his sister) and that he will never be ashamed of me. The only thing he's said he wouldn't be ok with is if I had a sugar daddy as I would pretty much be someone else's paid girlfriend and he wouldn't feel comfortable with me having another 'boyfriend'. When we first started seeing each other we agreed that the occasional one night stand, or hook up was ok as long as we used protection. We don't date other people or have multiple relationships, and that's always worked for us. I think it's just about finding someone who has similar opinions about sex work and relationships as you do. I don't think I could lie about it to someone I was in a relationship with, and personally if a partner ever called me a 'whore' or any other derogatory term like that it would be over straight away.

I know that okcupid are working on a 'sex worker friendly' tick box option so you can choose to only view the profiles of people who have a positive attitude to sex work which should hopefully make dating a bit easier for sex workers.
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #51 on: 21 August 2014, 10:27:39 pm »
I recently started dating one of my clients... I never thought it would happen! But he's awesome. We talked about my job and he said he doesn't care because it's just meaningless sex, if I actually cared about one of my clients that would be a problem, but I'm pretty open with him about my job and I think it's helped because he has a clear understanding of how I feel about my clients and how it's entirely different to how I feel about him.

He's incredibly supportive and has even been my safe-call a couple times when I was desperate and couldn't find anyone. I put off having sex with him for a long time and that was my test to see if he was looking for something real or just sex he didn't have to pay for. He's financially secure so I've never worried about that. But I feel like he's kind of one in a million cause none of the other guys I've dated have ever been this supportive. Although it's still early, he could turn out to be a complete ass who knows!
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #52 on: 21 August 2014, 11:20:20 pm »
In 13 years I have never whored and dated at the same time. That's just me, my ways..its like women that are turned off smoking when they become pregnant.. I'm just not attracted to other men when I'm in a relationship! That makes things super easy for me, there's no choice, my body does it for me  ;)

I have dated a client twice and never again lol. But everyone is different, thank God. They weren't bad experiences as such but I do like a civilian man... dating a client is easy, finding a decent one in other ways is harder but I do like a challenge  ;)

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #53 on: 22 August 2014, 03:40:27 am »
By the looks of it, I might soon be entering a relationship with a FwB of almost a year. He is aware of what I do (and aware that I'm bad at monogamy - we "started out" due to me cheating on my now-ex with him). He is seemingly comfortable with it, regularly asking how the work's going and not being very phased by the job anecdotes. Really hope that he won't turn jealous or ultra-possessive despite the ground rules if we get together, or I'll be -very- disappointed-.
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #54 on: 22 August 2014, 07:17:41 am »
In 13 years I have never whored and dated at the same time. That's just me, my ways..its like women that are turned off smoking when they become pregnant.. I'm just not attracted to other men when I'm in a relationship! That makes things super easy for me, there's no choice, my body does it for me  ;)

I have dated a client twice and never again lol. But everyone is different, thank God. They weren't bad experiences as such but I do like a civilian man... dating a client is easy, finding a decent one in other ways is harder but I do like a challenge  ;)

I'm not attracted to other men either when in love. It does make this job hard for me to do
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