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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #30 on: 02 July 2014, 11:39:24 am »
it is no wonder ladies lie to their partners when I read the abuse some people receive for being honest its not surprising.
my ex would have started on the  abuse route he had no idea what I was doing and for good reason.
things were packed away in suitcases when he came over and the phone was hidden.
the emotional abuse and criticism he dished out was bad enough, in was too fat and my breasts were too big  I fell out of love because of his controlling unkind ways.
He said id improved on doing oral , I tried not to laugh if only he knew how much practise I really did have!.
I really do want to be honest with the next guy I meet until then im single and full time escorting .

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #31 on: 02 July 2014, 03:07:50 pm »
My previous boyfriend wanted me to stop escorting, and even though I said I was I was still doing it behind his back, it didn't work out anyway for so many reason's so i'm glad I didn't stop, it never felt wrong at all.
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #32 on: 03 July 2014, 12:21:46 am »
So do you guys think that generally it works out being with someone and working if you swing/are in an open relationship etc?
I think whether they can handle it also comes down to age/experience a lot
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« Reply #33 on: 03 July 2014, 10:28:28 am »
Yes for me I think that it can work fine particularly if both swing or in an open relationship. A previous partner was also a sex worker and although I finished with him, it was for other reasons. I can't imagine that he would ever 'throw it in my face' or use it for leverage.....although people often don't behave well when they split up so there is a need to be wary there. He was supportive etc BUT I resented him trying to organise and generate my work, particularly since I already had a full time day job and kids and he was very lazy so it was far from perfect for me.

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« Reply #34 on: 05 July 2014, 09:54:56 pm »
Broke up with my boyfriend today... it was pretty mutual and as we got into another fight about me being an escort and this time he called me a 'whore' and said he could never tell his friends what I did so he feels 'ashamed' of his girlfriend. I told him we should just break up then and he said 'fine if you decide to stop fucking people for money then maybe we can get back together.' What a prince! As soon as I quit my job I'll certainly be giving him a call.   ::)

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #35 on: 06 July 2014, 12:53:41 am »
Just come back from lunch with match.com man - he looked nothing like his profile pic but he seemed a bit familiar....half way through  almost choked.......erm yep I have seen him before about 2 years ago but last time a lot more of him! Genuinely didn't seem to recognise me (now different hair colour and length with really deep tan). Was even a bit put out he didn't recognise me, that's how dim I can be. Just thinking of a nice way to text him to say I'm not seeing him again - big shame because we really got on but........NO!

LOL!!!  :D :D :D

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #36 on: 06 July 2014, 12:56:05 am »
I'm with someone and I recently started escorting again.  He doesn't know and I would never tell him.   Every time I see a new client I'm scared it's a friend or family member of his.  Its nerve wrecking.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #37 on: 06 July 2014, 10:07:38 am »
I just couldn't do it without my partner knowing. I just couldn't do it without a partner. I need his support and practical head and encouragement and of course love.  It's bad enough doing it without my family knowing.
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #38 on: 06 July 2014, 10:29:24 am »
I thought they didn't exist , he cannot do enough for me although he knows what I do. While together he makes me forget about escorting for a short while.  It is a very magical time together. :)

Love does happen while in a relationship and escorting it doesn't always mean an open relationship. An open relation ship to me is might as well as a f buddy friend this is my opinion of course. I could never accept him getting intimate with any one as know some escorts bareback all clients. Which equals more risk compared to the office job woman. When together with my sexy lovely it is true. Sparks. That in his eyes, his smile, the energy. Interlockibg hands in the restaurant across the table.
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #39 on: 28 July 2014, 08:26:09 pm »
My wife is a hundred percent supportive of me, as is my (committed, long-term) boyfriend!  (Also meetingdiversity - there's a BIG difference between a polyamorous or open relationship and a fuckbuddy - I wouldn't have been married to a fuckbuddy for many years! XD)

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« Reply #40 on: 30 July 2014, 09:29:44 am »
Broke up with my boyfriend today... it was pretty mutual and as we got into another fight about me being an escort and this time he called me a 'whore' and said he could never tell his friends what I did so he feels 'ashamed' of his girlfriend. I told him we should just break up then and he said 'fine if you decide to stop fucking people for money then maybe we can get back together.' What a prince! As soon as I quit my job I'll certainly be giving him a call.   ::)
can never get the mentality of these men that go out with ladies appear to accept they work as escorts then demoralise them for working after relationship ends exposing them and breaching their confidential info to everyone   total hypocrites . maybe ladies should ask now you know what I do what will you be like when we spit up ?!

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #41 on: 30 July 2014, 10:46:53 am »
How wrong would it be you do escort and don't tell partner? Say you have a fixed period you want to work for, save up, start a business, and some how even help them out financially? I have a rule to always use condoms during sex even in a relationship (gay here) and obviously with clients + ow. I know that, I will never get the income i can make from this job from a normal day job. Just sometimes you only get one chance to be with the person you want and know they won't accept it.  Life can be so puzzling :-\

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #42 on: 30 July 2014, 03:03:33 pm »
I started dating a women a few weeks ago and while we both said we weren't looking for anything serious we've quickly grown to have feelings for one another.

I wanted to be honest with her about my part time sex work and give her a get out clause (should she want one) before things went any further.

It was a massive shock to her and she spent much of yesterday feeling upset and drained but she asked me many questions and I think her mind is put at rest a little.

My last relationship lasted 4 years and I kept my past a secret.  I could never live a lie again so if it means losing her then so be it.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #43 on: 30 July 2014, 03:36:07 pm »
I started dating a women a few weeks ago and while we both said we weren't looking for anything serious we've quickly grown to have feelings for one another.

I wanted to be honest with her about my part time sex work and give her a get out clause (should she want one) before things went any further.

It was a massive shock to her and she spent much of yesterday feeling upset and drained but she asked me many questions and I think her mind is put at rest a little.

My last relationship lasted 4 years and I kept my past a secret.  I could never live a lie again so if it means losing her then so be it.

I was with a woman before my current relationship, for about 4 years - I worked for about half of this and have had a sugar daddy type the whole way through. I think, somehow, it is easier to separate things when you're dating a different gender from work. Goodness knows why, but I found that aspect easier (shame she turned out to be an absolute b*tch  ;) )

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #44 on: 30 July 2014, 09:33:47 pm »
Has anyone ever dated a client?