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Erotic flower

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in relationships whilst escorting
« on: 27 June 2014, 12:11:02 pm »
I had lied to my ex whilst escorting because I knew he would dump me if he found out, but it felt very stressful and in an ideal situation would like to meet someone supportive and knows what I do.Im now single as had previously mentioned so in my guilt free zone
do ladies have supportive partners whom know about their escorting how do they deal with it?
did you say at the beginning, get found out or they knew before you got involved?


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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #1 on: 27 June 2014, 01:03:12 pm »
My husband is 100% behind me in this venture. He will also be my security. But we had the advantage of being in an open relationship, swinging etc previously. Xx
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #2 on: 27 June 2014, 01:11:12 pm »
My fella very happy doing what I do. He also is my security buddy when I do out calls, and like the above lady we do swinging too.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #3 on: 27 June 2014, 02:52:27 pm »
You really cannot generalise as what is acceptable to one man, may not be to another as it all boils down to the individual concerned. 

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #4 on: 27 June 2014, 03:36:33 pm »
I have a boyfriend. We were dating before I started. I asked him, he said as long as I were safe and having fun he would support me. If I hadn't had his support I wouldn't have had the guts to start and I don't know if I could have started single because I would have worried that I couldn't find romantic partners out there. Now I know that I can find people who accept me as I am I'm much more confident and very happy :) There are good 'uns out there, good luck :)

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #5 on: 27 June 2014, 04:12:21 pm »
My boyfriends has no issue about it he loves that i make good money independantly, but other exs hated it"!

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #6 on: 27 June 2014, 06:53:59 pm »
My husband is 100% behind me in this venture. He will also be my security. But we had the advantage of being in an open relationship, swinging etc previously. Xx

My partner too, we have been together 14 years and have been in the swinging scene as Carmel said .... it works so well when your partner knows and supports you, I would hate having to lie so I am very lucky to be in a loving relationship with no issues AND he is proud of me  :D
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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #7 on: 28 June 2014, 02:20:08 am »
My boyfriend and I were together before I started domming...I think that, overall, he'd prefer it if I weren't a sex worker but he's not too fussed. He likes hearing the stories. ;) The only thing he really doesn't want me doing is full sex, which I I don't want to do either. If I ever changed my mind and wanted to fuck my clients, that would be difficult.

My girlfriend and I were, again, together before I started, but now we both do similar work (although I do more in person sessions and she does more cam). It was a bit weird actually, she messaged me to say she'd set up a profile on AW a day after I'd set up my own.


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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #8 on: 28 June 2014, 09:07:49 am »
hi

my hubby is ok with it i am a sub. so  i  don't do full sex or owo . as i really don't want to or need to.

thought if my hubby didn't like it i suppose i wouldn't be able to do it as  he wouldn't mind child sometimes for me to go and do what i do

i think he get jealuse of all the attention and action i get sometimes, but there isn't much call for straight men to do bdsm subbing or be an escourt

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #9 on: 28 June 2014, 01:56:21 pm »
My partner is fine, he is a former client and accepts it as my job, he also decided to give up seeing other Escorts.He does get jealous but would never pressure me to give it up and retaining an independent income is important to me. Former boyfriends have also been fine about it, I wouldn't have been with them if they were not.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #10 on: 28 June 2014, 02:44:29 pm »
Im tempted to go to fetish clubs for many reasons, one being that I might meet new guys who will be less intimidated by my honesty and escorting work id hope.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #11 on: 28 June 2014, 06:02:44 pm »
Im tempted to go to fetish clubs for many reasons, one being that I might meet new guys who will be less intimidated by my honesty and escorting work id hope.
Yeah, you get a lot of people who prefer open relationships in fetish clubs and those people are less likely to be upset by their partners doing sex work - probably because they're not sold on the "sex = true love" thing.

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #12 on: 29 June 2014, 10:39:06 am »
Im tempted to go to fetish clubs for many reasons, one being that I might meet new guys who will be less intimidated by my honesty and escorting work id hope.

Most of my best friends are from the fetish scene (including my two flatmates). I actually know quite a few who are on this forum too! The fetish scene is amazingly accepting and open :)

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #13 on: 29 June 2014, 10:39:40 am »
Im tempted to go to fetish clubs for many reasons, one being that I might meet new guys who will be less intimidated by my honesty and escorting work id hope.

Though I'd add that if you're new to the kink community you should start meeting people at a local munch first :) x

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Re: in relationships whilst escorting
« Reply #14 on: 29 June 2014, 02:57:08 pm »
My boyfriend is having huge issues with it.

When we stated dating I was stripping and he was totally fine with that, he was really supportive and loved that I made money independently and would be really happy for me if I had a good night. He was almost impressed.... but now he is getting really insecure about escorting and telling me I am 'better than it' and blah blah and that he wants me to stop and if it's about money he will just give me money but the point is that I want to be independent  ::)

It took me so long to find someone who was supportive of me stripping I feel like I will never find a nice guy who's supportive of escorting...