Author Topic: in relationships whilst escorting (Read 10364 times)

chanell_xo · « **Reply #15 on:** 29 June 2014, 04:32:33 pm »

Met my hubby through work at first he was ok with it but recently it's become a problem. He claims he cant take it much more and keeps giving me ultimatums - i do plan to stop at some point but not right now... So confused

Hotblondie · « **Reply #16 on:** 29 June 2014, 10:21:11 pm »

Ask him if he can provide for you, for your rent, bills, clothes, food, everything you need.
And think if you can manage with a normal wage if you take a civie job and if you love him enough to do it.

And have a search here on forum, there are similar cases.

chanell_xo · « **Reply #17 on:** 30 June 2014, 12:06:12 am »

Quote from: hotblondie28 on 29 June 2014, 10:21:11 pm

Ask him if he can provide for you, for your rent, bills, clothes, food, everything you need.
And think if you can manage with a normal wage if you take a civie job and if you love him enough to do it.

And have a search here on forum, there are similar cases.

I did ask him exactly that because that's my defence, he's answer is predictable (of course he will)
But then id lose my independence and that's the only thing i really value about escorting is the fact im able to do things on my own the way i want to.. Its a catch 22 really

- xxx

kinkyboots · « **Reply #18 on:** 30 June 2014, 04:26:04 am »

I've only been in one relationship whilst escorting, and it's probably put me off for life lol.
Horrible, abusive, violent piece of shit he was but thats neither here nor there, what hurt the most was having "prostitute" and "whore" thrown in my face everytime we'd argue. Funny how i wasn't a "dirty prostitute" when he was bumming money off me eh

I don't know if i'll be able to 'let anybody in' with what i do after that, but what i do know is that i won't be having another one for a long long time. My bf was the first and primary person who knew about my work and even helped me out with security etc, so to have it used as a reason to berate me stung like fuck

Cat. · « **Reply #19 on:** 30 June 2014, 04:43:23 pm »

Personally I would never tell my partner what I do, but then, I don't think I will see anyone when I'm escorting..i'm quite enjoying it now haha

poppy14 · « **Reply #20 on:** 30 June 2014, 06:00:14 pm »

I'm with abusive man at the minute hes makes my life a misery really i feel so depressed that i cant even work. he calls me names like dirty prostitute, slut etc. i cant get away from him i've told him to leave so many times but hes threatens to out me and has even shouted abuse ( dirty prostitute) at me across the street when the neighbors were out. I feel trapped and don't no what to do i have children and they don't need this crap hes says "i am a bad mother spiting the family up to go shagging freaks" the funny thing is he says he don't have a problem with me escorting and of course spending my money yet every time we argue he uses it against me, hes vile he doesn't realize the reason i don't want to be with him is because hes a violent abusive control freak.
When i do get rid of him i will never get into another relationship in my experience with him and before him, most men seem to have a problem with all sex work so i think ill be better off on my own as its too painful even trying to find out there opinions

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #21 on:** 30 June 2014, 07:08:21 pm »

It is the independence more than any thing that makes me enjoy escorting even more. Being able to provide for myself etc. The total freedom feeling free like a bird.

Carolina · « **Reply #22 on:** 30 June 2014, 09:15:40 pm »

my ex will never accept that
few guys accept
to be honest dont believe in the love of a guy who accepts escorting

kinkyboots · « **Reply #23 on:** 30 June 2014, 09:41:55 pm »

Quote from: poppy14 on 30 June 2014, 06:00:14 pm

I'm with abusive man at the minute hes makes my life a misery really i feel so depressed that i cant even work. he calls me names like dirty prostitute, slut etc. i cant get away from him i've told him to leave so many times but hes threatens to out me and has even shouted abuse ( dirty prostitute) at me across the street when the neighbors were out. I feel trapped and don't no what to do i have children and they don't need this crap hes says "i am a bad mother spiting the family up to go shagging freaks" the funny thing is he says he don't have a problem with me escorting and of course spending my money yet every time we argue he uses it against me, hes vile he doesn't realize the reason i don't want to be with him is because hes a violent abusive control freak.
When i do get rid of him i will never get into another relationship in my experience with him and before him, most men seem to have a problem with all sex work so i think ill be better off on my own as its too painful even trying to find out there opinions

He sounds EXACTLY like my tosser was. My guy, let's call him 'D' for the benefit of the post, used to slag off my clients all of the time calling them perverts, freaks, outcasts and 101 other derogatory comments. I wont go on and on, on here but I can relate to how you feel %100 when you're trapped with somebody like that - it's soul destroying

If you ever want to chat then don't hesitate to drop me a personal message, i know only too well what a state domestic abuse can leave you in and i'm still suffering now. When you choose the right time to leave him please be very careful in fact overly so as you'll already know that victims of domestic abuse are at highest risk when ending the relationship. * Hugs * Stay safe x x

_Rebecca_xxx · « **Reply #24 on:** 30 June 2014, 10:21:32 pm »

Quote from: kinkyboots on 30 June 2014, 04:26:04 am

I've only been in one relationship whilst escorting, and it's probably put me off for life lol.
Horrible, abusive, violent piece of shit he was but thats neither here nor there, what hurt the most was having "prostitute" and "whore" thrown in my face everytime we'd argue. Funny how i wasn't a "dirty prostitute" when he was bumming money off me eh

I don't know if i'll be able to 'let anybody in' with what i do after that, but what i do know is that i won't be having another one for a long long time. My bf was the first and primary person who knew about my work and even helped me out with security etc, so to have it used as a reason to berate me stung like fuck

Same story here - would just start an argument so he could call me that, threaten to out me, said I deserved the things he was doing. The fact that he used to deal drugs, had literally hundreds and hundreds of one night stands AND had visited escorts himself(!) apparently didn't appall his morals as much as me providing consensual sexual and massage services to select clients.
I would LOVE to have a partner that understood...

chanell_xo · « **Reply #25 on:** 30 June 2014, 11:35:57 pm »

Quote from: Carolina on 30 June 2014, 09:15:40 pm

my ex will never accept that
few guys accept
to be honest dont believe in the love of a guy who accepts escorting

Ive said this for many years - the problem is not all men genuinely fall in love with escorts they just try to benefit from them and the ones that do eventually fall for them cant stomach the job..

englishrebecca121 · « **Reply #26 on:** 01 July 2014, 12:21:39 am »

not all men tho my partner backs me 100 per cent

Dani · « **Reply #27 on:** 01 July 2014, 12:40:58 am »

I was married when I started escorting and my husband supports me fully and never takes a penny of my money as he knows its for my son so he can have the care he needs and the rest is mine to play with as he has a very well paid job
It was hard at the beginning but we found as long as I don't go into all the nitty gritty then we are ok. He knows for me its just another job and understands I don't pick clients I fancy just for my pleasure. He us very liberal anyway so I knew it wouldn't cause a big problem as he lives and trusts me as I was honest from day one and we discussed every aspect if it before I started
So it can work if you find the right guy
It's finding a guy who can see the difference between being paid to have sex with just about any polite guy and having sex solely for your own pleasure

chanell_xo · « **Reply #28 on:** 01 July 2014, 12:47:13 am »

Time will tell what happens with my situation then, to know there are couples out there that have made it work..

Thought i might be the next Julia Roberts minus the good looking rich bloke

Freya · « **Reply #29 on:** 01 July 2014, 02:33:33 pm »

Just come back from lunch with match.com man - he looked nothing like his profile pic but he seemed a bit familiar....half way through almost choked.......erm yep I have seen him before about 2 years ago but last time a lot more of him! Genuinely didn't seem to recognise me (now different hair colour and length with really deep tan). Was even a bit put out he didn't recognise me, that's how dim I can be. Just thinking of a nice way to text him to say I'm not seeing him again - big shame because we really got on but........NO!

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