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TantricTease

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Hey just a light hearted thread to keep us semi occupied.

So if you could have your life over then would you still be a hooker? If so then why? and if not then why not?

I wouldn’t, I would have went to Uni to get myself a psychology degree and then I would have went into criminology and be working for the police to profile all the psychos out there, and I would also give my expert advice on programs like ‘Britain’s Darkest Taboos’ and ‘Killer In The Family’, basically I would be Emma Kenny ;D

I wouldn’t be a sex worker again because it’s always been about the money for me and I have been unhappy on the inside for years and I am only realising it now, plus I am 40 next year and so I have wasted so many years on getting paid to keep others happy and forfeiting my own happiness in the process.
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Kay

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I would, yes. If I knew what was coming I probably wouldn't need to as I'd have made a couple of fundamental changes to my life, but it's mostly been a positive experience for me.
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TantricTease

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It’s mainly been positive for me in the way that I’ve had nothing bad happen to me as in violence or anything but it’s just because I don’t want to do it f/t anymore and I’m annoyed I’ve left it too late to study what I truly want to study and that’s psychology, it’s 6 years of studying for that degree and I would be skint so it would mean either part time work at the MW or 6 more years of sex work, and atm I’m having burn out.

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I definitely wouldn’t! It’s not a horrible job and I’ve had lots of positive time’s but I hate the uncertainty (one month earning lots and the next two months earning peanuts etc).
Also hate the terrible hygiene at least 25% of the men I’ve seen have.
Oh and the lying to my family and friends all the time.

Lushblossom

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Yes I certainly would.  It has many advantages.  The uncertainty can be a killer plus the social stigma but other than that it is a good option for me.

ladyofthemansion

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Yes but I would have done it earlier when hookers really did make money.

Would that have been the 80s(ship window signs saying huge chest for sale) or the 90s(newspapers) or  the beginning of the century.

I'm glad I got all the Cynthia Payne books before the prices rocked to sky high.

Bettyboo29

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I would of done it years sooner instead of giving it away for free lol i get treated better by my regulars than I have the guys I met from online dating. But Unfortunately the stigma that comes with selling sex rather than just sleeping around for nothing, Is huge. Somehow my ex found my AW profile and gave me months of abuse in texts and suddenly I was a c**k sucking W***e and a bad mum. And because I earn X amount an hour he stopped paying for kids. And i ended up with a regular turning into a dangerous stalker for 6 months lol

But I choose my hours and who I see and I felt free to make the decision to sell my body, Skills and time. And two fingers to anyone who judges me. Women use to be judged for going to work if they had kids and grown upon as bad mothers for wanting independence from husbands. Years ago I got turned away from a interview because I wanted my husband to stay home with my 4 month old child and I the one out working.

So if I had my life again I would of got rid of my husband 7 years sooner and started escorting 6 years earlier.




Jackiela

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Me too my only regret is not starting earlier when the industry was not flooded. On the plus side its changed my life drastically.

TantricTease

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I just don’t like a job that you have to take breaks from for long periods of time and when I was younger then I didn’t give a shit who knew what I did and I care now, I suppose it’s all to do with how the individual doing the job feels, it’s been a great way to make money and most guys are okay but the truth is is that I’ve never been a fan of casual sex and sex work is casual transactional sex!

MWM

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I first started escorting ten years ago - very part time, more out of curiosity.
If I could go back, I’d have put more effort in and worked more & not just spent everything I made.
Ten years ago when I first started, I lived in the city Center, was childless & could have done very well working more. I just didn’t want to. I was happy in my full time job, going out with friends & escorting part time for clothes money! Priorities very different back then.

Now, circumstances very different & I don’t have the same amount of free time to escort although I have a very structured working schedule and I do well - but if I could go back, yes I would still choose to escort, the difference being i would have put much more effort into it & been much more business savvy.

Vintage Miss

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Same as MVM - I would do it again if I had my time again with the benefit of hindsight I would have been more business minded earlier. I pissed my first sprigs of youth up the wall in many ways, spent money that could have been a property deposit on travelling and fancy dinners and mad parties and god knows. But then again, maybe that is what that time is for, I had many fun life experiences, and as aworking class woman who grew up in a small, poor rural town, without escorting, they just wouldn't have been available to me.

What I know I'd change over is I'd be stricter with myself. I worked in brothels and put up with unethical Madames and forced myself through some horrible encounters with gross men over and over again and suffered trauma because of it. I wouldn't touch brothels with a barge pole again and I would unreservedly counsel my younger self to do the same.

Bettyboo29

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And avoid agency work, Luckily I only did 2 nights but on the first night I could of ended up in trouble but my gut and common sense saved me. Also I would not be too nice or see clients outside of work. And even though I have kept my face out of my AW pics my ex found me because my ex recognised my bedroom. Now he can check my AW profile and see my videos and read my blogs to use against me. Thankfully for now his not told my kids but I raised my kids to not judge and that it shouldn't matter who people choose to love, Personal sex life bit to judge a person on who they are. So a problem with being a escort is that we have to be prepared that people close to us may find out.

And if I had a penny for everytime a clients tells me I'm too good for this line of work or if only they had met me in a bar lol Ok so I'll give it up to just service you with my body and time and maybe get dinner and drinks and the odd gift lol Been married and never again.

Missizzy

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I would absolutely, I'm from a council estate and doing this allows me to earn much more than I would otherwise (under normal circumstances obviously) and provide for my responsibilities. However I totally agree with burly burlesque, I wish I hadn't started in a brothel, although I did ok by them, I just didn't know better.

One other thing I might have done in another life was wait till I left home to do this, as I hate the grind of keeping it secret, but oh well  ;D

geordie

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Yes, but I would do things differently. I started while studying and pissed my money away thinking I could always earn more, I was wrong. I trusted ‘friends’ and spent way more money on them than I should have, they often took advantage of my generosity. I also pissed away my degree so now I’m worse off than I was 6 years ago.

Would start again and be a lot more disciplined and business minded, finish my studies and buy myself a home. I would pack as many jobs in as possible when the industry was good to me, so I could take it easy once I reached my goals. And I would not let people take advantage of me.

I will build myself back up, it’ll just take a lot longer than I thought when I started out because of my bad choices.
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Yes and I would have started earlier.