I’m currently in a situation where I’ve gone off sex with my boyfriend (of 1yr) and only have motivation / interest in sleeping with clients. I very rarely orgasm with clients so it’s not due to being satisfied at work, I just get bored easily I think which is why I still have motivation for work. It’s different clients and different scenarios etc. I’ve lost that mojo for my boyf. I’d be quite happy to just cuddle instead.

I’ve only had one boyf that I didn’t get bored of so I think escorting is part of the reason for me getting bored. I don’t know why I manage to get in the zone for work and quite enjoy performing but can’t seem to do it at home 

I have almost no experience with say, online dating to have a good comparison.
But the sheer number of boundary-pushers and just trying to stay safe puts me in a constant protection/ combat mode.
When I wasn't escorting I slowly started to see men as an opportunity, a possibility for something, I was open to interactions.
Now I see them as a threat almost? 
It's really interesting to observe this change of mindset. It impacts the overall sense of safety for me somehow.

I get what you mean. When I was dating I put myself at risk a few times  although luckily managed myself. Now I have my spider senses on full alert. I'm lucky that there have only been a few times I've felt intimidated by clients and will block them after. I'm always sizing them up, tone (phone and in person), body language etc. I will end a phone call if they mention something not on my likes list. Even contractors I'm wary of.

Like my bullshit meter got an upgrade

Haha love it, but you are soooooo right. Escorting has taught me how to recognise bullshit and narcissism so much more

I have had more respect from the majority of clients I actually see, than men I've dated, but I think it has to do with a different expectations. I only want a client to be clean, friendly and follow my protocol. I don't have to find him attractive, get sexual satisfaction or share common goals or interests.

 If I am dating, I am trying to find someone I fancy, whose company I like. That's a bigger ask than just 'clean and polite' and so in the past I've put up with disrespectfu boyfriends that I never would with clients because strong attraction (particularly for someone who has had a lot of sexual partners!) is quite hard to come by. The minute a client pisses me off with some disrespectful shit, even if he is a regular, I am happy to bin without a second thought, because I have no emotions or desire invested.  But when I fancy someone, or more so, love someone, its not so easy to be so 'ruthless'.

 I think punters and boyfriends know this, the former know to play nice if they want to book the woman they want again, and the latter know they often have more room to piss about. IME they use that to their advantage. This is why I don't bother with finding love anymore, because the minute you show a guy you like him, watch him play you like a football.

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Yes I think men are very much unfinished symphonies in general. Clients are fine however. So in that sense they help keep me out of the feminist books.

Clients in general are at their best when they visit and it is much easier than reationships.

I won't go there again with men in relationships. Single and independent has many advantages. Just a shame the world is full of dependent women wived up and half a person.

Women are more evolved than men. However clients are in general quite cool.

Just a shame the world is full of dependent women wived up and half a person.

I love how you put this.

I guess the only upside to this is that because there are so many unhappy marriages and so many bored women who can't take anymore of their husband's shite bed 'skills', and have consequently pulled up and locked down their bloomers...we get an income stream.

But there again, if other forms of work that women usually do paid half a damn, sex work wouldn't be such an appealing alternative. Waitress, wife or whore? I pick whore.