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UrbaneAspects

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I tipped a (male) dancer tonight....ugh
« on: 25 March 2009, 09:50:45 am »
Ok, y'all just feel me out here. I know a guy who me and him have had casual (free) sex a couple of times earlier this year. Now, I knew he was a stripper and tonight he seen me and he was touching me everytime I passed by him, even twice while he was on stage dancing. Of course me thinking he is hot, I tipped him a 5, partly because I was tipsy, and also because I just felt bad that he was up there along with about a dozen other dancers in this small bar, ....and I was like, what the hell. Im sure they make a descent wad of cash, but probably not as much. I dont know, whatever.

Anyway, even though we met before, I just felt like crap for doing that. For one he is 10 years older than me (or so he says, might be older) and I drove to see him twice, thus using my gas and energy to see him. Sometimes I get all stupid about men and end up getting hurt. Tonight I got hurt because if anything he should be tipping me. I even whispered to him, "we're in the same profession"  ::)  although I never told him Im an escort. I wonder if he got my point....

This is why I neednt go to bars/clubs alone. I get into trouble and at the end, I end up picking up men who do nothing but cause me headaches  :(

oh lol, my question is...should I really feel bad for this, or just do like I did when I was in the club, just laugh it off because it was just for fun?
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Re: I tipped a (male) dancer tonight....ugh
« Reply #1 on: 25 March 2009, 10:24:41 am »
Should you feel bad about giving a stripper a tip? No, get a grip. You went to see him at work and you played along with an insignificant amount of cash. I've tipped coworkers more than that while I was dancing.

You say you feel bad because you're sort-of dating someone and he's not paying you. Dating is something you do for fun, if it's fun and you'd rather be seeing him then hanging around in bars alone and whatever else you do, keep seeing him. If not, cut it out.

UrbaneAspects

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Re: I tipped a (male) dancer tonight....ugh
« Reply #2 on: 25 March 2009, 06:26:23 pm »
lol, I was acting like a cheap ho  :D

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Re: I tipped a (male) dancer tonight....ugh
« Reply #3 on: 25 March 2009, 10:34:29 pm »
Oh joey, you are your own biggest critic, go easy on yourself, you did a nice thing by showing your appreciation with a tip. I think you did a good thing, be proud of yourself and who you are sweetie.

Lilly xxx

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Re: I tipped a (male) dancer tonight....ugh
« Reply #4 on: 29 March 2009, 03:06:32 am »
I have friends who are waitresses.  I eat at their restaurants, they serve me, i tip them.  I dont feel bad about it. Its a trade that expects tips and i wouldnt dare walk out without tipping.

Same as stripping is a profession that expects tips and would tip a friend if she put a show on for me.  I wouldnt expect it for free just because i knew her.  You would have been cheap had you not done it.  I hate it when guys dont tip dancers on the stage.  seems down here that the girls get tipped for their private dances but the cheapskate men in these parts expect to watch the stage shows for free and never tip.  Cheeky if you ask me, they deserve a few tips i think.

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Re: I tipped a (male) dancer tonight....ugh
« Reply #5 on: 29 March 2009, 05:59:26 am »
Yea I guess I agree. I also hate to be 'cheap' in bars which is why I only go if I've had a good week with a couple bookings or so (like last weekend  :)  I never walk without a drink and always tip the bartenders. If I cant do that then I stay home (like tonight    >:(. Me and A friend of mine have this thing where we do NOT go to bars/clubs if we cant maintain a drink in our hands for 2-4 hours straight, which includes getting a refill about every 15 minutes, and then every 30-45 minutes by the 2nd hour!