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amy

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #15 on: 08 February 2025, 11:23:37 pm »
Quote from: matureho on 08 February 2025, 11:06:57 pm
But it’s still a point of view, opinion, experience, I know so many people who have come away from this forum because posts are over regulated, it’s like if Amy doesn’t agree with your opinion……….

The word you're looking for is 'moderated', and I have no more interest in anybody's opinion on me or anything else here than I do in real life. What the forum team is here to do is make sure the forum stays on topic - the topic being sex work, not the forum or how it works - and remains useful for those who want to use it. If people don't want to use it because we won't let them derail others' threads or squabble about crap, nobody is making them.

I'll also point out that the poster above has made a total of four posts, every single one of them about how 'she' likes to give punters discounts and extra time for free, or spends time with them unpaid. Make of that what you will.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #16 on: 09 February 2025, 07:08:16 am »
Quote from: matureho on 08 February 2025, 11:06:57 pm
But it’s still a point of view, opinion, experience, I know so many people who have come away from this forum because posts are over regulated, it’s like if Amy doesn’t agree with your opinion……….

I think the OP wants support for actually getting out, rather than advice on how to improve business. Although I have found many clients take advantage of overstays, discounts the type that do this can be demanding/push/seemingly unappreciative which becomes tiring and certainly leads me towards burn out. One reason my minimum one hour is heavilyweighted pricewise is because the over run on this tends to be the same as for longer bookings.

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #17 on: 09 February 2025, 11:58:10 am »
Quote from: matureho on 08 February 2025, 06:20:36 pm
There will always be somebody to give you a reference. do you have a regulars that you trust? Do you know anybody who runs a business that you could’ve done some “volunteer” work during your free time whilst you were caring for a relative ???? You just have to get creative

Failing that, you could do some volunteering for real for a few months that would give you a good honest reference.

Yes, I could get a reference and make something up, but without significant financial input for something I would actually enjoy, I would be left with a minimum wage job.

Because the money is good in sex work compared to the other available jobs without retraining, it makes it very hard to move out of it.

The course I would be interested in is £5k plus I’d need to move to another part of the country for 2 years, neither of which is feasible financially or with current family commitments.

Luckily, I really do like working as an escort and who knows, I might decide still, to do that course in a few years time if I have the money available.

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #18 on: 09 February 2025, 01:20:23 pm »
Quote from: OverTheHill on 09 February 2025, 11:58:10 am
Yes, I could get a reference and make something up, but without significant financial input for something I would actually enjoy, I would be left with a minimum wage job.

Because the money is good in sex work compared to the other available jobs without retraining, it makes it very hard to move out of it.

The course I would be interested in is £5k plus I’d need to move to another part of the country for 2 years, neither of which is feasible financially or with current family commitments.

Luckily, I really do like working as an escort and who knows, I might decide still, to do that course in a few years time if I have the money available.
Them make that a goal, get a tin and even if you put £5 in it for every booking you do it will soon mount up, don't open the tin for 12 months at least, go for it you will feel much more empowered knowing you are working towards an achievable goal.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #19 on: 09 February 2025, 02:13:47 pm »
I am so fucking done.
I have a long-term plan but it takes time and a lot of effort; and in the meantime I'm stuck in a hopeless location.

There is a massive cost to dealing with idiots, timewasters and wankers who don't value this job, my service and time. Over time it starts to feel like it's "normal" and all there is.
I generally live in my own insulated world but it does impact the mindset and self-esteem.

I'm absolutely worn out and there are days when I feel hopeless. The thing that keeps me going is the long-term vision of how I want to organise my business.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #20 on: 09 February 2025, 05:50:12 pm »
I have gone through this a few times, and ended up taking a big break, which turned out to be exactly what I needed. This is a pretty demanding job, and I do think self-care is bloody everything, but I still burnout. I quit, and then start again, but the time off is always exactly what I needed at the time.
Take care of yourself, lovely  :-*
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #21 on: 09 February 2025, 07:17:14 pm »
OP, which countries were you thinking of going to?
In Europe I think the UK is probably the best country as Europeans can't easily come here, so competition is lower.
But I just want to support you, virtual hug.
I sometimes have similar moments and just want to find a man who will be a caring partner. Especially now, when evenings are dark and cold.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #22 on: 10 February 2025, 09:21:09 pm »
Quote from: nina1997 on 08 February 2025, 08:09:17 pm
Admittedly it has got harder since Covid, however, I have found the secret is to look after those regulars and actively try and recruit new ones.

I give anything between 20%-25% discount on bookings of an hour or more to my regulars and I've found that they come back more frequently now, so I'm making more from them than I was before, even though they are giving me less for each booking.

I always make sure I give good service, give the client the full time they have paid for (I don't count showering as part of the booking) and don't make a fuss if there is a bit of slippage by 5-10 minutes. Admittedly you probably end up losing 90 minutes on a 60 minute booking but it keeps them coming back. I do stop boundary pushing once it gets too far though.

As for new clients who I've not seen before, assuming I want to see them again, then I always text them 15 minutes after they have gone saying what a good time we had and when I'm next available and would be great to see them again. Works wonders.

Just my view. I'm doing OK and make my target each week with ease, often doubling it, I only do this part time as well.

Sorry but this is not how I would ever behave it’s encouraging piss taking on all fronts. You book an hour with me you get an hour not 90 mins. I have many regulars in all different cities and I don’t have to bend the rules for anyone.

I’m glad it works for you but sounds like some advice from a client not a working girl.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #23 on: 11 February 2025, 11:10:58 am »
I've been fed up myself and finding it hard to get the motivation to work. Don't want to go back to care work what inside to do so feel a bit stuck. I can see how people get stuck doing this. I miss having a normal life. Anyone else?
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #24 on: 11 February 2025, 12:25:11 pm »
I also find a lot of people are going online now so the volume of men seeing escorts regularly is dropping and I think if you’re planning on leaving the escorting side of things maybe try going online part time to slowly drift away
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #25 on: 11 February 2025, 04:50:47 pm »
Quote from: amy on 08 February 2025, 11:23:37 pm

I'll also point out that the poster above has made a total of four posts, every single one of them about how 'she' likes to give punters discounts and extra time for free, or spends time with them unpaid. Make of that what you will.

Haha yes that's the first thing that came to mind as soon as I read it too.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #26 on: 11 February 2025, 05:14:01 pm »
Before making a switch to online if you decide this, be sure you receive payments with a bank that’s definitely sex work friendly. Just had a shitty situation with Metro over onlyfans after having banked them for years and being upfront about the nature of the income.
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #27 on: 13 February 2025, 08:07:42 pm »
Hi Everyone

I'm really sorry for the late response,  I've been feeling really down and haven't been online for a while. It's encouraging to see other women looking at realistic exit strategies. I do actually love escorting and if I was busy I wouldn't be thinking of leaving at all. It's just very hard, like a lot of other women are finding too. The timewadtets drain me. Idiots I can handle but it's the malicious ones,  the guys that make fake bookings, no show, try to scam you money wise or just generally have you going round the houses while they're sat wanking in their living room.


Nina- I've got to say, your advice is quite terrible and encourages bad behaviour, gaslighting and general emotional and financial abusive from clients. I would say to any escort reading this that giving a full 30 mins extra for free, or giving discounts outside of your discounted multi hour rate is a huge no go. I think the reason Nina you are so busy is because youre being used. And yes, I'm also concerned that 'she' is actually a 'he' in disguise 🥸

Going abroad wise I'm going where the money is. South of France, Geneva maybe. I'm avoiding the Middle East because it's over saturated and I'm scared of getting caught.

I'm going to hang on in there. Admittedly it's by the skin of my teeth but if I've survived 7 years I can do a few months more. Thank you everyone, you are such a reliant group and you help me survive xxx
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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #28 on: 14 February 2025, 10:20:17 pm »
In Switzerland you have to register in the police department. In the south of France there are much more girls than here and not a lot of work.
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Amandita

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #29 on: 15 February 2025, 12:39:07 am »
Quote from: Gazaro on 14 February 2025, 10:20:17 pm
In Switzerland you have to register in the police department. In the south of France there are much more girls than here and not a lot of work.

That is right. I worked in Switzerland years ago (the German part where the money was) and I had to register. Escorting is treated as a regular job there. And yes, many girls work in South of France like in Marbella.
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